Children can be so freakin rude!....................
@Linda4ualways (2282)
United States
April 10, 2009 8:16pm CST
If it wasn't for me, my son who barely goes to school and doesn't work wouldn't have a phone. Right now it's off and he is waiting for me to pay the bill. He is on the flex account (don't know if you ever heard of it) and the longer it takes for you to pay the bill, the lower it gets. That's not the reason why I'm not paying it though.
I came in the house from the supermarket right and he says to me, "you keep coming in here with food everyday and my phone is off" Of course I had to put him in his place. I told him not to approach me like that and that he depends on me and that he doesn't provide nothing in the house and that I don't have to pay for sh*t!
Instead of him being grateful for the fact that I am in a position to bring groceries in the house so his rude behind can eat, he decides to be rude. I will take my sweet time paying that bill if he keeps messing with me. Sorry, I had to get it out!
Take care and God Bless!
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18 responses
@Ozarkgirl (774)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I would have done the same thing. Stand your ground and demand respect from your children.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
11 Apr 09
Hey Linda! Isn't it strange how kids don't get that food is
important and they thing that a phone is? And kids aren't the
only ones! I know an adult who kind of behaves in a similar
way! My bf doesn't get that either! I don't pay for his damn
phone, but I do pay for the groceries in the house or sort
of, and he just doesn't get that the money (food stamps) are
meant for me not him) and he has no right to expect me to feed
him on it too! It isn't coming to him just because he gives
me a little money every week! If he really was paying the bills
and splitting them with me his azz would be out of here! He
thinks that everything is coming to him! If he really had to
split everything with 50/50 he would freak! So I do understand
because I am dealing with an adult who is a selfish moron that
should know better that doesn't! So how can I not understand if
a kid doesn't! And I'm about ready to send this adult the hell
outta here!
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@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
11 Apr 09
Alright Opal! calm down girl,lol.......it's going to be okay! Wow, I was able to feel your frustration through your words. Men are basically big babies that's why sometimes I feel it is best to be by yourself the only thing with that is that after a while, it tends to get lonely. Peace and Blessings Opal
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
11 Apr 09
um, I hate to be rude, but why do you pay his phone bill at all? If he's not helpful around the house, or at least trying to go to school, why should you be supportive of what is basically him being lazy and living off of your hard work?
Kids are really frustrating. I know some who act like they should be in charge of their house, and their parents are just supposed to provide everything without conditions.
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@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
11 Apr 09
Well you see cutepenguin, I don't support him with everything he wants. As a matter of fact, it hasn't been 6 months since he had that phone because I tell people that I am not going to give give give when you don't give give give. Kids are frustrating...........very frustrating but we love them the same : )
@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
• United States
11 Apr 09
That's right. He must respect and obey you. He is in subjection to you. You're not in subjection to him. You lay down the law in your household. If he wants his phone services turned on he must play by the rules and not think only about himself but others as well. Everything will be all right.
@imaginearea (363)
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11 Apr 09
OMG I so know how you feel. It is so comforting to see someone else on here speaking about how frustrating teenagers can be. I have a 19 year old and my God he drives me nuts.
God knows we love them dearly but they can really try our patience. I often say my sone came into this world to teach me patience, lol.
Apparently they grow out of it (or so I've been told)....may that day arrive very, very soon!
@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I pray so imaginearea! lol because they can drive you to drink sometimes, lol! I pray for patience all the time because God knows I need it. Thank you for responding and God Bless!
@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
11 Apr 09
You have more patience than I apparently. When my 17 year 16 year old son dropped out of high school and started hanging with his pot head buddies he ran up MY phone bill to over $800.00. Ever get a phone bill thats 45 pages long? SO, we had a talk. He either gets is @ss back to school, or gets a job, or he is out, period. And, the phone was disconnected entirely. He chose not to go to school or work, so after the 30 days I gave him I packed a bag and set it on the porch for him. After 30 days of trying to bum off his friends he called saying mom can I come home? I promise I'll get a job. So yes, then he was allowed back. He has since then gotten his GED, and was married with 2 adorable kids soon after. He is now a respectful adult at the age of 28, making a decent living also. Teenagers need to be taught respect and love and that life isn't all about hand outs. Good luck!
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Apr 09
What is it these days with a lot of kids? I have heard and seen a lot of parents talking about things like this, and I wonder where they got the idea that everyone needs to wait on them hand and foot, while they just sit there as well. Personally I think it is time you get more control of this situation and make him see what he needs to be doing before things get even worse. I know you care about him, and want the Best, but he is doing nothing for you or him and needs to start taking some responsibility for himself as well. And you never did share how old he is as well.
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
12 Apr 09
I'm just curious. How old is he?
Regardless of his age...Good for you for standing your ground!
My children definitely have their moments of rudeness and sometimes I let it slide a little too often, but sometimes you just gotta put your foot down!
@bdayboy09 (153)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
We went being kids, too. We should understand their nature because we went through it before. We can, however, control how these kids behave as well since you know what it is like to be one. The process just needs a lot of patience and understanding.
If all else fails, then just go with the flow. :) You know what I mean.
@blueunicorn (2401)
• United States
11 Apr 09
Wow, you have more patience than I do. I may have picked up the phone and thrown it out the window! How old is your son? I swear, cell phones are the destruction of society. I don't really mean that, but I hear about more problems with cell phones than seems reasonable.
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@Mikyoo12 (187)
• United States
11 Apr 09
Wow. that's serious. yeah. you took it easy on him for sure. lol. he's lucky. you could of popped him in the mouth. I don't have any children but I would let him find his own way to pay this bill just to teach him the responsibility of having a cell phone and that when he gets older he will acummilate other responsibilities that he can't depend on other people to take care of. I know you must of felt hurt to hear your son say that to you. not knowing that he is blessed to have a mother that is able to work and bring groceries home to her children. he doesn't know how hard you work for your money. he won't understand until he gets his own job. well keep praying and God Bless you and your family my sister.
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@Toofancy (548)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I know exactly how you feel! My husband's son is living with us. He is 19. His mother let him quit school a couple of years ago. He cannot hold down a job, eats us out of house and home, runs with the wrong crowd, smokes pot, and recently was arrested for shoplifting at Walmart. His truck insurance will lapse today. His truck note is due on the 14th and he won't have the money. They will repossess it if he is 10 days late (that is his agreement with the lot he bought it from). He found a job last weekend, worked 4 days and was fired. He, of course, lied to us about being fired until this morning. I am my wits end!! I don't know what to do, and my husband is much more tolerant than I am. I wish I had some advice for you, but I am looking for someone to give some advice to me! Good luck.
@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
11 Apr 09
Oh boy : \ Parents all over are struggling with their children. My heart goes out to you because I am in a very similar boat. We have to stay in prayer Toofancy and ask for patience and strength in these trying times. Thanks for responding and God Bless!
@seniorita_lia (53)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
yeh take your time i sooooo agree with wat ur doing....
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@smartjack (520)
• India
11 Apr 09
Dear Madam, i can understand what you must be going through. I truly agree that what you did to your son was right and it is your absolute right to get the respect from him. You deserve that. But one thing I would like to ask you. Have you ever hugged your son and told him how much you loved him? Have you ever spent time with him and spoke to him? I hope I am not offending by giving you this advice. But I feel you should sit and talk to him. Show him that you care for him. Tell him what you expect from him. Make him feel important. Life is very short to be angry with someone you love.
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@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
11 Apr 09
Been there, done that smartjack. My son knows that I love him for I tell him and he knows what I want for him and expect from him. Unfortunately my son is veeeerrry stubborn and must travel some rough roads before learning his lesson.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I would not have said that at all, I would have waited until the next time he wanted to eat and said 'Sorry, you can't eat, I am saving your portion of the food bill to pay for your cell phone. When it is caught up ...I will get you some food'
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
11 Apr 09
oh definitely. we have an almost 16 year old and she expects that everything to be handed to her on a silver platter. she is very lazy and doesnt do much around the house. and no, she does not have a cell because we just cant afford one. she will have to get a job to afford one.
you didnt mention how old your son is.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
11 Apr 09
He should be a little more grateful that he has a place to live and food that he can eat and not worry about his phone! I do understand the situation though after raising three.....its about the age! They do grow out of it...and someday you will actually be smart to him....
@corona1234 (467)
• United States
11 Apr 09
How old i your son ? He does not seem to appreciate you at all i properly would not give him it back for awhile. He is very lucky that he has a phone.My kids are 15 16 and 17 and they do not have a phone at all,they never complain that they do not have anything like that, they are just thankful for what they have.they used to have phone and things like that , but my husband had a motorcycle accident and we lost your home and everything else we owned because he can no longer work and i can not work because i have to take care of him.They are just gratefull to have food and a roof over their heads
