what's your birth position in your family? any special treatment?

@Ritchelle (3797)
Philippines
April 10, 2009 8:57pm CST
i am the eldest of 5. 3 boys followed then our youngest is another girl. when i was growing up i noticed that the cousins of my mother, my second cousins, would tend to borrow me and bring me everywhere and ask me what it is that i want for them to buy for me. this was when they were still in college and have no earnings yet of their own. i guess the special treatment was given to me because there were still few children in the clan...
6 responses
@agreen (39)
• United States
11 May 09
I'm an only child. Not only that I was the only child within our immediate family. I wasn't really spoiled, but I didn't have to share with anyone. It was lonely at times.
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@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
13 May 09
my husband and i decided to have an only child because that is what we can afford. yes, sometimes i would look at my child playing alone and pity him and think twice about giving him a sibling but i would resort to the thought that assurance of a future is better than beating loneliness. each of us is bound to experience loneliness anyway in one form or another in our lives. your parents only wanted you to have the best
@agreen (39)
• United States
16 May 09
I partially agree. There are other ways to ensure a child's future without them being an only child. My parents actually tried to have more children and couldn't. So, they didn't intend for me to be an only child... it just happened. It just depends on the parents and their way of thinking. There is no right or wrong in this situation.
@MizzLadyB08 (1175)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I am an only child. I am 30 years old now but when I was younger my parents got me just about anything I wanted. My dad sister and her daughters use to come and get me all the time when I was younger and take me out and buy me a lot of things. I was always told I was spoil because my parents bought me the things that I needed. Now I have a daughter who is the only child and I try to get her anything she need as long as she is doing good in school and keeps her room clean.
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@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
i also have an only child and almost always gets what he wants. i guess it's natural for a lot of people to say that an only child is spoiled because you always give a child what he wants. because you can. it's not bad. as long as the child knows that you got it for him because you had an extra money to spend. my child at 3 knows what he wants and tells us then says aloud that we'll buy the moment we had an extra money. that's what i always tell him and that's what he now knows. i know it's unfair that people brand onlies as spoiled. they shouldn't. it's almost as though one is saying that a child that comes from a large family is deprived. that's not done and it shouldn't be done, right?
@maximax8 (29148)
• United Kingdom
28 May 09
I am the youngest of two children. I have one sister five years older than myself. I am the baby of the family. All of my cousins are older than my sister. I am treated equally with my sister. The birth position of my children and my sister's children; 1995 my son 1997 my sister's son 2000 my sister's son 2002 my sister's daughter 2006 my sister's daughter 2007 my son 2009 my daughter is due in June I have a 12 year gap and will soon have a 2 year gap so that will be more normal.
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@zhuhuifen46 (3486)
• China
13 May 09
I am the eldest of four daughters in the family. My younger sisters are very capable, and have a lot of ideas. I am usually the follower, but when they turn out to be in trouble, I am always the first to recognize and offer my thoughts and acts. When there are different opinions, I am the listener and also a balance, sometimes at sacrifice. I enjoy being the eldest. Doing more and get respected more. Nowadays, the only child in the family has no opportunity to learn communicate and compromise at home, they have to learn a bit late in college and at work.
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@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I'm the last (youngest) of 3... I have 1 older brother & 1 older sister... I don't think I've gotten any special treatments... If anything, I had to work even harder to get what I have now...
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@Trensue (5253)
• United States
11 Apr 09
Sure - I'm the baby and you know how that goes. No matter what actually happens they will always say I am spoiled. No matter what I will say that parents love each of their children the same amount, but in different ways. It seems clear to me.