Husbands and Wives and unanswered prayers

@suspenseful (40326)
Canada
April 11, 2009 11:33am CST
I was told that if one of the spouses is resentful of the other or scolds the other spouse for something right around the time that grace has to be said before the meals, that that grace is not considered acceptable by God. Because of that whenever there was a disagreement, I usually said grace, but left the table and took my food in the computer room and had it there or used the Tv table and said another grace by myself just in case God did not regard the first one. My husband is not a Christian yet - He believe in God, but so far he has an imperfect knowledge, does not know much just what he was taught as a youngster. So am I being overly concerned in thinking that if someone scolds someone right or says "we're having company etc." before grace, that God will not hear it? Or is there any truth to it? Or does it depend on whether the one being scolded is resentful and shouts back at the other spouse - giving an example. We do have verbal fights, but usually it is not at dinner time. It is usually when he says he is right, I am right, or I get angry because I told him that I am not that emotional and do not cry easy.
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
that is not true, my dear. God hears and accepts everything. the act is of thanking is right but what goes around it is not. you know , one should set a mood if one has to do something sacred like for example if one is about to say grace before any meal then we should set the mood so as to partake god's grace. we should not ignite something to cause a debate or say or do something that might disrupt the grave of god's abundance.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
25 Sep 09
That is the problem. If I am in a good mood, and my husband gets grouchy as he does just before we have dinner, then I sometimes feel that God will not listen because we are in dischord. I sometimes feel that I have to give my husband his dinner first and then eat seperately in order for God to accept my prayers.
@riyasam (16582)
• India
12 Apr 09
according to what is written in the bible,if one has a greivance against otheer,he must first forgive from his heart and then say grace so that your prayers will be heard without any difficulty.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
25 Sep 09
I heard that too. I find that somethings are hard to forgive. For instance, I can forgive someone who did something out of ignorance, but when they deliberately did it because they felt I did not deserve children, etc. do I pray that they were right or do I pray for the hardness of their hearts, for their evil judgment (as versus righteous judgement) etc. and what if they were not to be forgiven because maybe they interfered with God's plan which I sort of felt they did.
@sunyisos (27)
• China
12 Apr 09
god is not omnipotent,or need some time to solve the problem themselves
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
12 Apr 09
I don't believe that. I was always told that he hears all prayers. Fights etc between spouses are going to happen and I don't think god would ever not listen because a fight happened prior to grace. If anything I think that however you found that out was just a person or persons trying to do their part in helping you and your spouse to stop fighting.God made us the way we are, he knows were not perfect, and he knows were going to mess up. I don't think he would ignore our prayers because if anything he wants us to seek his counsel.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
13 Apr 09
I did wonder about it though. I mean I often wondered why some prayers were not answered, and I thought it was because they were fighting at the time.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Some prayers aren't answered but that doesn't mean he ignores them, he just helps in another way. Atleast that's what I believe. There's a country song "unanswered prayers" by Garth Brooks.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
25 Sep 09
But sometimes the unanswered prayers puts a person in a bad light. For instance the one about the couple who pray for a baby and do not get it, and then others assume that they really do not want children or love children, and if she wants to babysit, does not put her name down on the rooster for babysitters. And if the couple adopt, well they are not considered real parents as she did not go though the pangs of childbirth. So sometimes unanswered prayers may be like accused of wrong when you did not do anything that deserved the unanswered prayer.
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
12 Apr 09
Never heard of such a thing. I was told that God hears every thing. and he isnt suprose to be that narrow minded.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
13 Apr 09
I think it was what I heard when I belonged to that fake church the two by twos. they said that God would not answer your prayers unless you and your husband were in agreement. But often we are not.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
13 Apr 09
well see it qwas a fake church so shouldnt mean anything!
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
25 Sep 09
But now my husband is going to church, a true church, but now it seems that it is too late for that prayer to be answered and I think the doctors fixed it so it never could be answered. But then i should not say that, because I know that God will find a way around that doctor's surgical meanness.
• Canada
25 Sep 09
I have been a Christian all my life, and this is the first I've ever heard oof this being said. I don't believe in humans telling me that they know what God does and does not find acceptable. I think that any prayer said by anyone at anytime, as long as you are not praying for the person to be killed or damned, is acceptable to God.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
25 Sep 09
Well I do pray for the change of a person's heart or God will raise up righteous leaders (just in case we get another Hitler or a certain politician decides that Hitler, Stalin did get things done and he should really follow their policies) but I feel that if a person's heart is not right, God will not answer that prayer and if there is bitterness =like the other person says something nasty just before you sit down to eat, then that prayer will not be answered.
• China
12 Apr 09
this story is interesting,believe God is very important to the Christian,but it is more important to believe in himself.your review is good ,thanks to share!
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
13 Jan 10
You're welcome. I want my prayers answered but do not want them delayed because maybe my spouse was rather angry with me for some reason. That is why I was concerned because I had prayed to get pregnant since we were first married and the only time(s) it happened, there was a miscarriage and I used to think it was always my fault. I now think that there is a lot more involved and it could be the case of several things happening.
@dragon54u (31184)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I really doubt there's any truth in that. God hears every prayer that is made with a sincere heart, no matter what the circumstances are. I think that tale was just made up to keep spouses in line, churches do that all the time. It's true that God does not like people to argue or harbor grudges or resentment but He always hears prayers that are sincere.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
13 Apr 09
I did wonder that. It was not in the church I go to now, but that fake 2 x 2 church they said it quite a number of times. I am so glad I quit it.
• United States
11 Apr 09
I don't think that grace is cut off when there is a disagreement. Grace comes from God and is extended to each person, believer or not. If you resent somebody then the devil waters that and it grows into hatred and that isn't easily uprooted.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
13 Apr 09
I often wondered if my husband gets upset with me if God will not listen to me then.
• United States
11 Apr 09
Speaking as a regular human being, I think it's awesome that you remember to thank God for your food. I've never heard that God wouldn't hear it under less than pleasant circumstances. I think He's happy to hear from you whenever.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
13 Apr 09
I did wonder about it. I know that when I am upset, I sort of think that God is not listening and that does bother me.
@dfollin (12099)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I would let it upset me.Go ahead and say your prayer in a whisper at the table.Don't worry God will here it and ignore your spouse if he gets mad.He will come around someday.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
11 Apr 09
That does make sense.