what you will do when your relationship with your girl isn't permitted by her parents?

Indonesia
April 12, 2009 8:33pm CST
one day,your girl say she is very confuse about her relationship with you. she say her parents are not allowing you to become her boyfriend. She love you as much as her love to her parents. and she must choose only one, you or her parents.. and most bad part is, she give the decision to you.. what you will do?
6 responses
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
i don't care. as long as we love each other.and he's willing to fight w/me to his parents,.it doesn't matter.sooner or later i can prove to his parents that i'm worthy.thats all!
• China
13 Apr 09
This is my problem,but it's not her reasion,my parents are not allowing me to being together with her.I have qurred with my parents many times,In my opinion,I have right to decide to choose which girl to be my lover,and now,my parents and me often talk about the problem but I have never give up,I believe we will be together for ever and whoever can stop us.
• Malaysia
13 Apr 09
My parents are exactly like that, especially my mom..back then she was totally disagree with my choice of boyfriend, she said its not good enough for me, meaning he's not rich enough..she made me chose between her or him..after a long consideration, I finally decided to broke up with him and I did. Now, I've another boyfriend, and still my mother don't like him...it upset me really bad, coz I really love him and so do him. My boyfriend aware of my situation. My mother don't like him for the same reason with my past boyfriend. I love my mother and I really don't want to hurt her feelings. So, my boyfriend and I had decided that we will work things through..He works hard nowadays to improves his life economically...I wish my mother can see that..but for this moment I kept our relationship a secret, there's no need to fight what my parents said..One day, I'll prove them wrong.
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
Well we don't know how to be a parent yet, and how they feel, so it's not easy for us to understand their reason or perception. If I were in that situation I'll wait for the right time. When you love someone you also think the best for her, and try to understand everything about her. I don't want to complicate everything, make her confuse or see her hurting. It's not that I don't love her to let her go, but rather see her on the right path. If it's really us let time tell! Have a nice day to you!
@irene66 (1671)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
This is always the problem with girlfriend/boyfriend relationship. parents are always on the look out for their children. they want their children to have a good future. so sometimes they are too protective that they refuse to understand how their children feels when it comes to love. Choosing between the two is sometimes confusing. But I would rather choose my parents for I know they won't disagree if it's not for my own good.
@busyB4 (875)
• United States
13 Apr 09
It would help if you knew their reason for not accepting you. To ask someone to give up her parents is really not fair and it does make it more difficult for the relationship to not be torn between the things relating to family vs boyfriend. So if possible to make peace with her family, you might have a chance for both without having to have her choose one or the other.