get married

@rocketsky (1014)
China
April 12, 2009 8:53pm CST
for those who dont care about marriage ,could you please think about your kids first ? many many couples are divorcing now ,they just get married quickly and get divorced quicly too . if you want to get divorced ,why did you get married and give birth to your kids ? do you feel shame for doing that with giving your responsibility ? I am puzzled ,I am myself from a family which is broken . I hope all families are perfect ,all children are happy .
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@8000RPM (12)
• United States
13 Apr 09
Getting married is the easy part, that's why so many people jump in so quickly nowadays. It's the divorce that's the ugly part, and unfortunately that is the result of 58% of marriages nowadays. If you are absolutely trusting and sure that marriage is what you want to do, the least that you can do is get a prenup to hedge your risk.
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• Philippines
13 Apr 09
getting married is not an easy thing,think a thousand times before engaging to anybody......
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@derry123 (611)
13 Apr 09
yes its always the children that suffer .. I do sometimes wonder if a couple are better staying together while their children are small to give the m a good family life and good start for their futures . are parents always happier living seperate lives , I doubt it . If only they could be more tollerent of each other and respect the individualaty that first attracted them to each other . The thing to remember is having a family is great but as long as you have one good parent you are going to be ok *
@rocketsky (1014)
• China
13 Apr 09
I think iwont leave my kids because I am a person who love family and cherish love . kids are always the most affected ones .
@derry123 (611)
13 Apr 09
your kids will be lucky to have you *
@mammamuh (582)
• Sweden
13 Apr 09
I don't think married or not is the problem :-) I know several couples that are still together after 30 years together and they've never been married :-) For the juridical rights it's better to be married here in Sweden, but other than that it's not the key to staying togheter.
@rocketsky (1014)
• China
13 Apr 09
I think we should take marriage seriously and dont take it as a small problom and always do anything that we want as long as we want it ;)
@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
13 Apr 09
i didn't come from a broken family but i really know what you mean and how you feel... unfortunately, this is not a perfect world and we can't expect everything to be goof and perfect... i also wish that people can be more responsible and wiser in making decisions especially in a big decision like marriage... it is very sad to hear how many marriage failed nowadays and ended up in divorce and the children always become the victims... take care and have a nice day...
@carrine (2749)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
hmmmm iam a singlemom, and of course i think of my kids, but i know also God wont allow me to live with my ex if both of us are not happy. right? and my children wont happy either seeing us fighting so often.. so marriage is sacred thats why i didnt get married. ill make sure that the person im going to marry will be my partner for a lifetime.
@abuelin (106)
• Chile
13 Apr 09
i think that all the people can be married, but only when the love is really true
@asianwind (365)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
Wow controversial...Well hoping for a better nation or even a better world is really hard. We hard to start with the basic unit and that is the family. But you see there are some factors that contibutes to a broken family. But regardless whether your family is whole or not it is important that everybody is well and strong and that we support each other.
@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
I guess marriage is a very complex thing to discuss in here. When going into marriage one never really expects what would happen in the future. They are in love with each other and somehow along the road, marriage becomes entangled in some kind of a problem that no one really wanted to. It is hard to say that when you married you are bound by it. At some point in time love could dissipate and one is not happy anymore. Although I am for the preservation of marriage at all cost but there are marriages that are really meant to be broken and we just have to respect that situation.
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
I guess being happy is a key word why people get married and at the same time getting a divorce. I just feel sorry for those people who are doing this things for selfish motive. But we cannot really tell whats the real score or story. I guess there are no perfect relationship in this world. I guess it is really up to us how we handle our life. It is always said that o we can never control other people's behavior but we can control our behavior. If you feel bad about your parent's divorce, I guess this is the best time for you to avoid having the same mistakes of getting married and divorcing after a while. happy myloting.