Making Decisions
By DCMerkle
@DCMerkle (1281)
United States
April 13, 2009 10:47am CST
My son has A.D.D. He was diagnosed with it when he was about 8-9. He's 23 now. Over the years he has learned how to deal with it. Recently he has said that he is having trouble making decisions. Now he has always been the type of person that when a decision needed to be made, he's make it with no trouble. He says the now the A.D.D. is getting in the way in making decisions.
I've been pretty on top of A.D.D., but I am having trouble in agreeing with my son on what is causing him the problem with making decisions. I don't think it's A.D.D. and I don't want him using the fact that he has A.D.D. as an all in all reason for not being able to make decisions or to be using it as an excuse.
Am I wrong? Is A.D.D. the reason now for him in having trouble in making any decisions? Has anyone else that has A.D.D. or knows someone that has A.D.D. that has gone through this?
DCMerkle
4 responses
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
I see no evidence that he is lying. I am equally sick and living my life like hell and to tell that I don't would be so untrue. My mom said the same things that it was all in my head but she just can't see that what I'm saying was true. For decisions to be made, the mind must be in a relaxed state with enough momentum to think and decide. With a case like ADD the ability to think has been somewhat slow and hampered. How is he right now? He can still make decisions just that its apparently a burden to do.
@DCMerkle (1281)
• United States
8 Jun 10
cowboyofhell,
In the last year he has a med change. He seems to be doing better, but he still has a line of procrastination that I think that even without ADD, he has to get past. Maybe he's using that as a way to put off making decisions. I know there's a fine line between not making decisions and having ADD, but there has to some sort of marker between the two and It just seems that there is no way to come up with one.
Thanks
@westernangel (237)
• Canada
13 Apr 09
I have a 30 year old son that has ADHD along with other disorders. He now has paranoid schizophrenia. I would say that the ADD definitely could be causing major problems with your son's decision making but I also applaud you for not wanting him to use it as an "excuse". It's a tough call. Only you know your son the best. I don't think it is for us to make that call, because every individual is different. Best of luck.
@DCMerkle (1281)
• United States
13 Apr 09
westernangel,
Thank you. My main concern is that he doesn't use A.D.D. as an excuse. I know it would be very easy to do, but he's been doing so well lately, with his job and life in general, that I know that there must be something else that is bothering him, but because he is 23 and out on his own, he does have to learn and the only way that he learns is by doing it on his own.
DCMerkle
@RedRidingHood (132)
• United States
19 Jul 09
I have A.D.D and I've always had trouble making decisions. My way of dealing with it is to research the living daylights out of the question and then during the research I will find some fact that will help me make my decision. I'm a Christian too so a lot of times I'll pray for guidance as well.
I don't know if your son's forgetfulness is being caused by his A.D.D or something else. A lot of times depression will be caused by the struggles in life that you have because of your A.D.D. and depression can certainly cause you to have problems making decisions. If this is a problem that is just coming on then he could be suffering from depression or something else as well. I would definitely keep a close eye on things.
@mrakobesie (1246)
• United States
14 Jul 09
My boyfriend was diagnosed with ADD when he was younger, he had problems thinking when he was on medications, they were giving him hell (now that medication is illegal because it caused too many heart attacks in children). but now he has no problem. He said that fish oil helped him control it, plus he just trying his best to concentrate and removes all distractions when he needs the time to work on something. He now goes to the library to draw because at home there are too many distractions. he never had a problem with making decisions. ADD is not always the reason for that, it's just that sometimes it's very hard to make one. I usually sit down and put my thoughts on paper and try to rationalize what decision is better. when you read it it's sometimes easier to figure out what choice is better.
