Why do parents say that children are expensive?

By K.S.
@02karen (173)
United States
April 13, 2009 2:23pm CST
Okay well in my point of view I dont think they are. Sometimes we as adults we can go crazy trying to buy good outfits for our kids, nephews, nieces and etc but I do admit that girls are a bit expensive than boys when it comes to about 15th b-day or 16th b-day. Some people exaggerate and spend so much money its like if they spending it on a wedding but of course is their money and Im not against it plus I respect everyone's ideas. On the same time, babies are not expensive and I dont have children just yet but I will soon later in life. I'm only 21 years old.
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21 responses
@hxstar (510)
• China
14 Apr 09
Hi,02karen! I am younger than you,and I am in college now.I do understand why parents say that children are expensive.My parents work hard to pay for my tuition,as it is really expensive.I have a brother,who is a post graduate,my parents support him on his study too.It is really nature for parents to say children are expensive becaue now adays,children really cost a lot. Happy mylotting!
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@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Hxstar - Im in college too buddy. Well your talking about adults your changing the story here. Im not talking about college that's the parents decision whether they still want to pay after they turn 18 yrs. old. Your not a child no more even that your going to college. Of course, college is expensive especially where you attend. I'm saying how babies are not expensive not college.
@hxstar (510)
• China
30 Apr 09
Well,I am sorry that I got you wrong.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
13 Apr 09
i can tell you dont have any kids just by that statement. kids are very expensive because they constantly need money for things that they do such as school, items for school and clothing. we get lots of hand me downs and visit thrift stores often, but my daughters are growing, so they need more food, new shoes, that sort of thing.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
13 Apr 09
kids are very expensive because they constantly need money for things that they do such as school, items for school and clothing. even before they are school age...have you seen the cost of formula, diapers etc these days?? its nuts...and clothes too..babies and toddlers grow SO quickly its nuts!
@02karen (173)
• United States
14 Apr 09
Cher - No, I dont have children and dont need too. Well of course, we were kids too and then we do our best to supply in things they need. Kids do grow but dont need that many things such as Nintendo to stay at home and entertain themselves when they can go outside help the parents clean, cut the grass, shoot some hoops there are tons of things to get entertain and busy.
@02karen (173)
• United States
14 Apr 09
Raven - true but have you heard of some certain diapers that are kind of expensive in which your baby can use and they are useable. My older sister bought several because of the colors just makes his butt a bit bigger. lol..but hey, it saves you a lot of money compared to the ones that you have to be throwing away day after day.... See I'm only 21 years old and I already have tons of things plan in which I dont have to pay that much money. There are many ways to save money. Well I see that each of us are taught differently.
@raddudu (60)
• Romania
14 Apr 09
When you'll have a baby you'll know .It's not only about materials like clothes or food, but also the future of your child ,wanting to give him a better education that you had and better conditions so he could become someone, and have a better life , without the problems that you've been through and the difficulties that you overcomed.Having children also means that you need a bigger place to live so that all of you will feet in. When you have a child , you do everything that you can to make his life better than yours was, and that is pretty expensive.
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Raddudu - It depends how you raise them. We all need to pass through difficulties to learn or we'll never learn. Not too big of a house...depends how many children you will have. Were talking about babies not future of college.
• Romania
30 Apr 09
Maybe parents say that children are expensive because a baby is priceless and so is the happiness that a baby brings. If you want a baby , you shouldn't think of money, you should find out if you really want a baby because money won't be a problem, when you will have a baby , you will do anything to make him happy and to have a decent life.
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• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Itis start being pregnant, you need to drink vitamins, prenatal with your ob- gyne. during delivery, you pay hospital bill when ceasarian it is bigger. When the baby is outside you need to buy milk, if it gets sick you buy medicine, and you need to buy clothes to wear for everyday, Then, for enrollment,tuition fees.
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
feathers26 - Actually your supposed to be taking vitamins before you get pregnant. Well it depends who you go with plus if its a good doctor. I've got family doctors.:) Yeah...I've heard and read all that plus seen it but they are still not expensive.
@raymaker (13)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Of course children are costly even from the time they were born, the operation alon costs lots and when they grow up you have to give some king of house or land if they get married....especially in sending them to school...now thats alot.
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Raymaker - Well when they are babies they are not expensive. Well after 18 yrs. old they can find a job. You dont need to get them a king house with a land when they get married. If they want all that they can get it themselves if you spoiled to the extreme then good luck on that because they are going to fight what they want because the way you've treated them.
@smartjack (521)
• India
14 Apr 09
i do agree that adults sometimes go crazy about such things and call children an expensive asset, because they have to give and give in order to take care and make their children grow. and if their children leave them and go away, that is the time that they feel that their children are too expensive.
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Smartjack - Yeah but babies are not expensive. It depends how you raise your children once they are getting older...
@genlone (26)
• China
14 Apr 09
I agree with you that girls are a bit expensive than boys.As I have concerned,a girl will be treated as a princess,but a boy, just do not need so much caring.
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Genlone - I wouldnt treat my children different. For an example, if Im going to buy one of them a pair of jeans and I have three children because thats how many I want to have...I will buy them all three the same. Nobody will be treated different. Girls will be more expensive than boys but that's until the girl turns 15 for a quinceneria or 16 for a sweet sixteen but other than that babies are not expensive.
• Lubbock, Texas
14 Apr 09
It's obvious you don't have children yet. I'm not sure where you live (didn't check your profile), but here in the US, even if you have health insurance, the hospital bill alone is enormous! From there it's diapers, formula, and even buying clothing from recycled sources such as Good Will or the Salvation Army or garage sales gets expensive because they grow so fast. Then when they get in school, there are mandatory school supplies, extra money for field trips etc. in the lower grades and cost just increases as the child get older. I do agree that you don't have to give your child everything they ask for and many parents go overboard, but just the necessities are very expensive!
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
thebeaddoodler - Okay...thanks for saying that um..no I dont have children yet but parents most of the time get out of hand in spending too much on their children when they dont need too. To tell you the truth, no I dont have health insurance at the moment. I'm engaged at the moment soon when I get married I sure will be insured and then when the children come them too. I live in Laredo, Texas. Diapers - You can use the reusable. They are worth $17 ea. You will spend less than the ones you throw everyday. I dont buy stuff from recycled places such as Good Will or the Salvation Army. I guess you dont know much about business. Garage sales can be expensive to put it on the newspaper spend money there then people sometimes buy and not in what you really need to sell. Okay, well we found a lady that everything we are going to sell we give her a certain amount in which we are going to sell it and she always accepts it. Everything what she just bought from us she sells it in her store but a bit more expensive I must say. Not really...and this doesnt changes my mind at all. Children are not expensive.:)
@mzj033y (185)
• United States
14 Apr 09
Parents say that children are expensive because of the loads of money they will spend on them after they have that child. You have to think of living, eating expensives. Leisures as well as school tuition. Every little thing adds up to raise a child and it's a big responsibility. You said girls are a bit expensive than boys, maybe. Boys do go out shopping for technological things such as electronics or camping outside just to get the lastest sneakers. It all adds up. So children are expensive, think before you have one. ^_^
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Mzj033y - I see what your saying. See...I dont need to think no more much of it because it all depends how you raise your children.^_^ Babies are still not expensive.:)
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Well, in my own opinion, having children needs money. Whether you want to spend more for what they ought to have is entirely up to you. You do need money to provide them food, clothing, shelter and of course education. It is our obligation as a parent to provide them the necessary thing in life. Considering the cost of living nowadays, then it would be expensive. But if assuming that prior to having children you are already prepared, then that would not be much of a problem. Besides having children is a blessing and it is something that we should be happy for.
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Jpso 138 - Yes, of course your not going to throw away your child. Of course, and I respect what your saying. So I guess you still think they are expensive in which they're not. I am prepared and not going to make dumb mistakes in what parents do.
@reichiru (748)
• Canada
14 Apr 09
I'm younger than you, so don't sweat so much about it. Raising kids is a huge responsibility and expense however, what with things they need for school, clothes, food, etc. You have to be prepared for all of it, especially if it's a girl. Girls tend to spend more than guys (I'm an exception, but whatever). It's not that parents "say" children are expensive, it's a fact. That's why some couples decide not to have children, because that cuts their expenses and also lets them have more freedom, but personally I think parenting is a wonderful part of life and people who don't have kids would really be missing out.
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Reichiru - How younger are you from me. Wow..right now I feel a bit better because usually I get older people to old. Trust me, I've seen many adults mistakes in which I wont ever do with mine. I'm ready for it but I still want to enjoy more time with my fiance. I guess your a type of girl if you have a credit card you'll spend all of that money see you and I dont have something in common when it comes to this. No, I still dont think so that its a fact but babies are not expensive. Too sad when couples dont want to have children...no fun about it. Yes, it sure is wonderful.:)
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
14 Apr 09
because kids wants the best of everything and think they need them too
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
syankee525 - What do you mean...so your saying in your opinion that kids are expensive in which I say they are not.
@wahmivy (778)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
Even before I had a child, I knew that having one is expensive. I just didn't realize how expensive it would be. Even if you don't get them designer stuff and just stick to necessities, you still have to have quite a sizable budget for them. To give you a better idea, let's say you have a newborn... there's formula if you're not nursing (if you are, you might decide to invest in a pump), there are the diapers (cloth are expensive in one go, but you'll have to move on to the next size in a few months; disposable - well, it just becomes a regular item in your grocery list), well-baby check-ups, clothes, bedding, feeding items, bath items (in case you didn't know, babies cannot use adult products so parents may not share with them), toys (you may think that they're an "exaggeration", but you have to make sure that you're providing enough and safe stimulation for your infants), etc. etc. Hope this gives you a better idea.
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Wahmivy - You all think too much negative stuff. Of course, I know what babies need and use. Im not dumb. Diapers - You can buy the reusable diapers. They are about $17 dollars ea. depends where you buy them buy hey, compared to the ones that you throw away everyday. You spend more the ones you throw away than the reusable ones. Toys - Dont need expensive toys plus dont you have family members that might've given you some plus I guess you never took good care of your toys and books like I did. I have toys from all ages and books not just for girls but for boys too because I have a younger brother. Nobody can't change my idea. Babies are still not expensive.
@marguicha (102003)
• Chile
13 Apr 09
Children need food, health and education. They need to be clothed.They need a home. Those are just the essentials. But children need more than a couple of dresses (one to wear, one in the laundry). They need toys, books, activities. As they grow, they need some money and toys get more expensive. You say that you are 21 years old. Who is paying for the computer you are using, for the place you live, for the car or bus you use to go places, for your clothes and food? Are you living on your own with the money you earn? In my case my babies started being expensive before they were born LOL I had to buy new clothes for me during pregnacy as the ones I had didn´t fit anymore. By the way, they never fit again. Just before my girl arrived, we made up her room. We painted, bought a craddle and then a special small bed. She needed clothes and diapers, special milk as I didn´t have milk to feed her. She outgrew the first clothes in one month. I can go on and on. My late husband said a child was more expensive than a big house LOL. Now I see the problems my girls have to raise their children. They are both divorced and fathers DO NOT give half of what is spent on the kids.In my opinion, even if you don´t pamper the kids, they are expensive. Happy posting
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Marguicha - Like I've told others that wrote on myLot. If you would've taken good care of your books or toys when you were a child. Trust me, you could've saved a lot.:) Yes, children need their shots/health, education well private schools are more expensive than public because I went to a private school for 3 yrs. Well yeah the computer Im using my parents is paying for it...they dont want me to work yet plus nobody cant find a job at this time because of the economy and Im not going to work at H-E-B its a rip-off you get nothing just pay for gas. I have my fiance that takes me to college. See...my parents have across the border a place that are not going to sell it...so instead people are renting it.:) In which they found ways around to save up more money. Also, much of the money that I get for birthdays, holidays or just like that out of nowhere um...well I use it in which I sell chile apples; mango w/chile chewable candies and watermelon. Its a pretty good price and many people give me extra money so that money I save it for school. In a month I get more than 300 dollars. Im not married yet. I guess they got big in your stomach. See...people over react and panic with so many things like what Im reading from what your saying. You should've saved long time ago because some are so stupid in getting pregnant in a young age. Also, you dont need to be like this because your most probably doing something wrong to react like this. Do you have family members in which they could've given you certain things that you needed? Diapers - have you ever heard of buying the re-usable ones? I bet you have which you save more money on those. Well then your husband went too crazy in buying expensive stuff for the baby than the house. Sorry to hear that your daughters are divorced with their husbands but see many women nowadays dont give up and find their ways to keep going on and give their children from what they deserve. Babies are not expensive.
• Malta
13 Apr 09
You have already said... you don't have children... well then wait until you have. I do agree with you that maybe some parents exaggerate in spending too much on their kids. I was in a way lucky since I got most of my son's baby clothes from my sister. She also had a boy, so she gave me his clothes. When they are babies they grow out of clothes sooo fast. Then it starts to get a bit better,
@02karen (173)
• United States
9 May 09
cbhomework - No, I dont need to have children to realize whether they are or not expensive. See...parents exaggerate in things and buy so much things which many of the times they dont need. Yeah exactly my point see...you didnt had too spent much money when people save old clothes. You have to think about the future...
@roboid (205)
• Romania
13 Apr 09
They say that children are expensive because they like to spoil them. Yes, a spoiled child is more than expensive. If you grow up your child in a modest manner you will that that he is not expensive. His needs will cost you as much as your needs. We don't have to buy them everything they want. They have to learn that is notthe way thigs ae going on. This is a part of a good education and inthis way you won't think children are expensive.
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Roboid - Thank you, very much finally got the answer from everyone. hehe..so far. True...well children that get spoil a lot will be expensive and the ones that are not...it is a different story. It depends that will cost me as much as my needs...
@txgrl21 (819)
• United States
13 Apr 09
Children are expensive!!!! Especially babies, they need a whole bunch of clothes that they only use for like 3 mnths or less because they grow so fast and then you have to buy it again, then you need a whole bunch of diapers, bottles etc. I dont know about older kids because my baby is only 2 mnths but I hope it gets easier.
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Txgrl21 - lol...no they're not. Yeah well my older sister and only is passing through that stage at that moment but see she's not buying diapers all the time. She bought the ones that are reusable in which yes, you watch them, dry them and use them again.:) Okay some people go to the extreme...awww...how cute.
@garyc09 (133)
13 Apr 09
Well it is said that the average child costs their parents £75,000 from birth to 18, thats expensive to me........ actually that's a lot of money in anyones world.
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Garyc09 - Yeah you can say that is a lot of money but also people go a bit crazy in buying so much stuff in which they wont even wear or use.
@coldmoon (1092)
• France
13 Apr 09
Children are expensive just because they spend the money not earned by themself. But it's their needs. I don't remember that my parents complained about my outfits during my teenage. Even they said that I required too little. Some teen girls throw money to shopping as much as a young woman spend for her marriage, but it can be taken in scale. Clearly, the wedding goods is used only once. I disagree that babies don't spend expensively. Their dimension change by month, even by week, and besides, they need more toys than older children. Do you know, a trolley is as one third expensive as a car.
@02karen (173)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Coldmoon - Thank you, very much!! No, my parents dont complain neither..instead go buy me clothes but mostly I do that and not go into a type of person that will throw away a lot of money on clothes that I wont wear or its too expensive. Marriage its a different story. I understand the prices of the toys and etc...but see if the person would be smart when they were children could've done it..Im not saying that your dumb. What I mean...I have more than 7 bags of collectibles and tons of toys for babies and keep getting older...so pretty much wouldn't spend that much plus got reading books that are mine taken good care of it. If you know what your child really needs...go for it just know how to spend your money too.:)
• United States
13 Apr 09
Kids can be very expensive trust me. But,the minor things your speaking of are nothing compared to college payments. your responsible for that child's actions as well. Which in some cases could be very expensive. I think what I could get off of free cycle is a saving for me.
@02karen (173)
• United States
14 Apr 09
Giftsandbags.com - Well how many kids do you have. If you have more than 3 kids then I have to say that is very expensive but other than that...no I dont think so. Well see you can also put your children at the age of 18 to start working for them to get into college.