No reasons to live for!!!

India
April 13, 2009 9:30pm CST
I have messed my life, 'm not good at academics,career prospective is not bright... My parents have lost the faith in me, they are saying that it does not matter to them anymore.You cannot imagine I am feeling so lonely at the moment.I am surviving because of the internet....at present.No friends(frnds hav 4gotten me) I am feeling like I do not have any reasons to live...No I have never thought of suicide though!!!No luck with gals also...Everyone's trying to avoid me in my class... But I am not getting even a single good reason "Why I am here?".... Please anyone help me...Should I go to psychatrist?
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17 responses
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
Well I guess you are here for a reason of course for sure. The failures in your life right now are just the guiding light for you to become a better person and not to discourage your life. There are two choices that you can choose in life. Choose to become a loser or choose to become the best of you. Find where you are good at and I know there is something that you like to do. You choose to be positive in life and not focus too much on your disappointments in life. Why you are feeling like that is because you choose to focus on the negative things in your life.
• India
15 Apr 09
well said.... thnx for ur concern!!! ~Cheerio~
• United States
14 Apr 09
I think you're headed in the right direction. There are some great responses to your problem. We all have made some bad decisions, here and there, but that's life..growth, and by the time you learn the lesson you're not even the same person anymore. There is a reason to live, you have to find you're purpose (the hard part) but you can start by taking an inventory of your interests and looking into a group with similar interests, even a support group may help some. Also, maybe you're career prospective is an online career, you never know until you explore it. I wouldn't suggest a psychiatrist but a counselor first. When I felt this way, I had to 'be still' a moment, and I prayed..I still PRAY - it works, it heals. Don't give up..think of it this way if you feeling so down the only way you can move is UP!
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• India
14 Apr 09
thnx 4 ur beautiful response... yes i do pray to God.... and I hope everything gets alright.... ~Cheerio~
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
14 Apr 09
I am so sorry you are feeling this way right now. When I get to a very low place I like to say this quote to myself often. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change! For example; ~not good at academics... think, I have to work harder than others at school. No shame in that, it more of an achievement when you do. ~career not bright... think, is there a new path I should consider? ~frnds have 4gotten you... think, they must not have be real friends. Look for true friends, by being a true friend yourself. ~gals trying to avoid you in class... think, perhaps everyone is to caught up in their own lives to notice someone sitting right next to them, it happens. Think more positively and begin to see more positive things happening in your life. It all begins within. Hang in there.
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• India
14 Apr 09
thank you very much.... i really appreciate ur method of judgement...and positive aatitude...I gues that is what I lack in. well thnx again for ur precious time...
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
14 Apr 09
Hey don't worry, dude! Just add me as your friend (I have already sent you a friend request) and chill. Life is full of problems and I always remember what my grandfather used to say. Whenever you think that you are less off or not good just look around you and you'll find people who are not even as fortunate as you. So, don't worry and find a hobby which will divert your mind from your problems so that you can think about them coolly at a later time. Mylot, for one, is a very good site where you can spend your quality time. Remember, every living organism on this earth has been created by God and each one has a role to play, so don't act against nature by saying that you're useless. You certainly may be having some unique quality which you need to identify. Just go for it and don't let stress trouble you.
• India
14 Apr 09
thnx dude!!! thats a gr8 idea..... I have accepted your request...
@becdmd (704)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
I've messed my life too...right now I still don't have a stable work, my mom have lost trust in me and she took the blame on me always for not doing my responsibilites, for not changing or progressing...I am so depressed when she said things like that as if I cannot stand anymore...but despite of all this circumstances, God is still here to give me comfort, to lift me up and to remind me always to focus on the good things that will happen. We're here not only to experience pleasures but also to realize that it's not easy to live, that we must learn from every situations, mistakes and regard them as a blessings...problems is a part of our lives in order for us to grow and be a better person.
• India
14 Apr 09
so how are things going at present.... What I have learnt from this total discussion is that I lack the positive attitude needed before, while and after doing a work... Keep the attitude and faith in God...as you said... Thnx for your precious time!!!
@chillpill90 (1936)
14 Apr 09
hey dante, if you want a mate then you can be, iv been where you are now. its hard but you can get through it, look to tlk to people on the internet to support you. Make small targets and just go for them first. Dont go to the docs you can pull yourself through this. i know it doesnt seem like it now but one day you will get round this and your parents will be happy for you. Look at what you used to enjoy doin, academics arent everything. LIsten to some music try to get out if you can i know its hard and you just want the world to swalow you up. But if you want i can help you through it. Get in touch
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• India
14 Apr 09
hey thank you for ur kind response... yeah I like music when i am depressed and the internet... i will surely be in touch with you...
• United States
14 Apr 09
You sound like me when I was a teenager (24 now), how old are you if you don't mind me asking? No offense or anything, just curious. Do you have a school counselor you can speak to? They won't charge you a dime and your discussion will be confidential. I highly recommend doing that. Talking to someone helps alleviate your feelings. Trust me, I had to talk to counselor type people a lot when I was younger because of the way I was feeling.
• India
14 Apr 09
thnx for ur kind and vivid suggestion.. i will surely try it out!!!
• India
14 Apr 09
and as far as I remember I am 18...
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
there is always a reason to live! JESUS - the reason to live. i too messed up my life with wrong decisions, choices that i am suffering right now. my husband never thought of this life that we have, he prepared very well for our future but because of what i've done i think i'm useless. sometimes i just think that i'm living because i have to pay my debts but i do thank God , He is always around to comfort and say offer it up to me. i do regret about this very much but thank God He is beside me always.
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@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
14 Apr 09
You sound like you are going to be a millionaire before the age of 30. Many millionaires start business because they are not good in study, not good at working and nothing better to do. Have you read any books of Robert Kiyosaki? He also failed miserably in school. He felt the shame because his daddy was a good teacher. He was argumentatie and stubborn, his "rich dad" said he will never be a good employee, so the only option left is to start his business and be rich. My ex-company chairman also had similar character traits. When he was young, he couldn't study and leave school early. He joined the police force and assign to the traffic police division. He supposed to direct traffic, but ended up fighting with the truck driver. Someone called the police to come. It became a joke, police came to catch police. Since he couldn't stay in civil service, he got his driving lesson for heavy vehicle and drove cement. Later on with a few friends, they started a business. The company is now a listed company. He is now a non-executive chairman. We joke that his full time employment now is to play golf, from Monday to Friday. His hobby is playing golf on Saturday and Sunday. His siblings who got better results than him are poorer and still working for others.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
14 Apr 09
Dear Dante_off, I believe in you, i have faith on you, everything will be alright. You need to cool yourself down first and try to fix the problem one by one. Remember to say this to yourself "I can do it! Or as least i tried even i can't make it!"
• India
14 Apr 09
thnx vivianchen i am relying on the positive attitude of life... heard it can do miracles!!! thnx again for ur time. ~Cheerio~
@smartjack (520)
• India
14 Apr 09
you don't need a psychiatrist, all you need is one single friend big or small, girl or a boy, with whom you can share your happiness and sorrow. you said that internet is the only hope, then let me tell you that internet wont keep you happy forever, in fact one day you will get bored and stop surfing, as in you seem to be new on this site. take life positively and life will treat you positively.
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@mira91 (985)
• Singapore
14 Apr 09
You are here because YOU ARE...and nobody will have the right to say anything about that...You have been given the gift of life so why not make the best out of everything because believe me, some people have it worser than you...I don't think your parents mean what they say...I mean i don't know them to actually make this judgement call, but i think it's safe to say most parents don't mean the nasty things that they say to you...If you have no friends, make new ones! If you're not academically inclined, work even MORE harder at it even if you die trying at least you have a reason to live and that is to make the best of yourself...Noone is stupid in this world, they just don't believe that they can do it...Don't be too hard on yourself alright..? regards, mira.
• India
14 Apr 09
thnx mira.. that was very kind of you, i really appreciate ur method of judgement and ur free will of decisions... thnx to be there!!! ~Cheerio~
@hxstar (510)
• China
14 Apr 09
Oh,I am sorry to hear that.I think your parents just say that to inspire you,they really care you.Please don't think this way,you should cheer up and try to make things better.At present you should communicate with your parents first and make up your relationships,they are your parents anyway.If you want someone to talk with,feel free to pm me.I have add you as my friend and awaiting your approve. Hope you will feel better soon! PS:Internet is good at some point,but remember,the real world is what really cares!
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• India
14 Apr 09
thnx for ur concern
• China
14 Apr 09
I think I could understand you completely, but I have no any good idea. If you feel lonely, you can chat with your friends, or relieve your feeling in your blog.
• India
14 Apr 09
thnx 4 ur time!!! i would love to hav new frnds....
• United States
14 Apr 09
Everyone who commented here is right. You don't need to live your life for anyone else, only yourself. Find what makes you happy. You can find pleasure in the simplest things if you look hard enough(the beauty of a sunset, the sound of the birds, etc.) Go from there. I myself have messed up my fair share, but hey, life goes on. Live and learn. It can only get better from here. There are countless days available to you to accomplish each and everything you see fit in life. Smile and above all- LET GO AND LET GOD!!!!
• India
14 Apr 09
thnx thadreamer... i really appreciate your view....
• New Zealand
14 Apr 09
u gotta sad az parents, u got any cash? go get a hooker and it will solve your girl and lonely problem. Also, most reasons why people think they have nothing to live 4 is cause they got nothing to do, go get a job or a hobby. F*** ur parents, thats sad az sh**. Laterz,
• Indonesia
14 Apr 09
Hi Dante.. How do you know that your life messed, who knows. It will make you strong... I believe you can. Juat talk to your friend, make them know how do you feel, and you will know who is your true friend... I believe you love your family, make them understand, they act that cause they really care about you... thanks..