How do you deal with friends who hates your pet?

@mira91 (988)
Singapore
April 13, 2009 11:38pm CST
Like the title says, i have a friend who is so terrified of cats (hard to believe but it's true) that she ends up hating them..Whenever she sees stray cats around, she'll go on saying Eww over and over again and says that they're disgusting and such even when i'm there, someone WHO HAPPENS TO ACTUALLY OWN AND LOVES HER KITTY and it's getting pretty irritating...Expecially when she says it on MY CAT...Won't you feel the same way..? How do you DEAL with such people..*rolls eyes
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@jwfarrimond (4475)
14 Apr 09
I have to ask the question: why is she so frightened of cats? some sort of childhood trauma? Or maybe she was a mouse in a previous life? I think that I'd have to take a stand and say to her, if you don't like my cat, then don't come here. You could still meet her someplace else than your home, but honestly, I think that she needs to see a therapist for irrational fears.
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@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
14 Apr 09
You guessed it right...I don't know if it would be considered a trauma but from the way i see it, it wasn't intentional...She said that once she accidentally stepped on this cat's tail and it sent the cat biting her leg...So i was saying, i understand why you hate them now but you stepped on its tail, what do you expect if someone accidentally step on your finger, wouldn't you hit the person to get off? It's not like every cat is gonna react the same way... And it's not that she comes over here at my place and insults my cat, it's when i talk about cats to my other friends who loves them and when she sees my cat's photos which i put as my dp in chatrooms...These are the moments when she'll make those unnecessary comments..usually i'll try to understand and keep quiet, but now it's getting pretty irritating and i feel offended for my poor kitty.
14 Apr 09
That sounds to me as though she is using it to get at you rather than your cat. Does she do this when she sees a photo of someone elses cat? Maybe you should re-examine the relationship that you have with her.
@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
14 Apr 09
yea, we're fine...In every other aspects of the friendship we're all good...It's just when it come to pets...she does the same to EVERY CAT, not just mine...So yea, she isn't just trying to get to me, she really means it when she says EEWWWW WHAT IS THAT THING?? CANT YOU PUT LIKE OTHER PICTURES BESIDES THAT?? THATS SO DISGUSTING, GET IT OUT OF MY SIGHT... You: That's pretty nasty... Me: Yer think?
• China
14 Apr 09
I think the best way is to let her rise a cat too. Once I were terrified of cats too. I'm afraid cats scratch me.But when I adopted a stray cat, I change my attitude. I love cat now:)
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@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
14 Apr 09
She already has a dog...I don't know how i would go about asking her to try and raise one...I don't know if the depth of her hatred would allow that to happen...lol..I hope that would happen though...But it's a long shot..haha thanks anyway.. ^_^
• China
14 Apr 09
Maybe you can ask her to help you to take care of your cat for a period. Then she will accept a cat?
@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
14 Apr 09
I think she can figure it all out since i have my other friends that she knows of that would be more than glad to take care of my cat for me...hahaha...I guess some things you just can't change...unless she's willing to herself...like you..What made you adopt a cat when you hate them in the first place? I'd like to know...
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Well, most of my friends know what animals I hate. And since I own a pet, they have the right to say it, but they do not have the right to say to throw away my pet. Particularly, I don't mind as long as they don't hurt it.
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@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
14 Apr 09
Well i try my best not to mind but i love my kitty too much to be hearing insults hurling her way...Insulting her would be like insulting me, you get it?...And what more i love kitties as in the species itself and it still hurts me a little when she says those suff about them stray cats...If she were to say something like "why do you even own one of THOSE, throw it away!", i'd seriously b**** slap her back to venus...lol..^_^
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Yah. I know how you feel. but of course, you wouldn't do anything about it because some people talk differently. hehehe.
@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
14 Apr 09
hahaha...i guess not...
@carann (262)
• United States
15 Apr 09
I raise dogs for extra money the dogs that i have are family pets to my Husband and I they aren't in a kennel they all live with us. His sister is scared opf dogs and made her kids affraid too. Thye dont come to our house because of our dogs. We have little tiny dogs but they still wont visit. They tell everyone else they don't visit us because we dont invite them. It drives me crazy. Its not quite the same thing as you but in a way I share your pain. I used to feel bad but now my Husband and I are to the point oh well they dont have to come over then.
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@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
15 Apr 09
hahahah, yea..I mean you guys have nothing to lose if they don't come over right? And besides, the very fact that they tell people that you guys don't invite her over tells me that even she thinks her fear was an irrational one since those dogs were just mere puppies...hahah
• Mexico
15 Apr 09
well this also happened to me. i had a friend who was living here at my house and she always used to critisize my kitties. it was indeed very irritating. i used to tell her to stop but she continued. so what i started doing was dissing e each time she dissed my cat lol. i'm not gonna let someone just barge into my plce and critise anything that i love. so too bad if she didnt like it. haha.
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@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
15 Apr 09
Yea~ you go girl...Like someone commented here, THEY LIVE HERE, YOU DON'T!...wahahaha...
• United States
14 Apr 09
Well I'm a big animal lover I have 2 cats and a dog, I have friends that don't like my cats and thats fine, cause there my cats and my friend don't live with me. If its that bad don't come to my house..lol I know it can be irritating for you but just brush it off. Not everyone likes animals. I just always find it amazing that alot of people don't like cats, I love my kitty's ;)
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@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
15 Apr 09
I know~~ I find it hard to believe too...Hahah, well she usually don't come to my house...I think i fail to mention that she already freaks out if she saw that my cellphone's wallpaper was that of my kitty. And by freaking out, i mean like all those nasty insults come hurling and the EWWW and all...i mean GOD, IT'S JUST A FRIGGIN PICTURE?! My cat isn't even nowhere near her and she's already frickin out.......YES! at a picture.. So yea, i think i'm pretty much entitled to feel annoyed at her lack of discretion....don't you think? Or am i taking it too far..?
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
14 Apr 09
I am an animal lover and anyone who has read my posts knows that I have four: two cats, a dog and a bird and I adore them! If anyone does not like them it's too bad for them. My mother in law hated cats; she was repulsed by them and could not bear to be anywhere near them; of course my favourite animal is the cat! My mother in law has passed away now; she used to live on the other side of the country and she and her husband would stay with us whenever they came over and one of my cats would always go up to her and stroke her legs with his face as cats do; she used to freak out and she wouldn't even walk through a door if the cat was anywhere near it. She was polite enough to put up with it though. People who aren't pet lovers will not understand the bond we share with our animals. I think that if a friend who doesn't like pets comes to visit will have to 'love me love my pets.'
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@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
14 Apr 09
Precisely my point...At least your mother in law keeps her comments to herself because she knows you're there and doesn't want to hurt you by saying nasty things...That's the kind of behaviour i would like from someone whom i consider a friend...
@rocketsky (1014)
• China
14 Apr 09
if one of my friends hates my pets i think it is quite okay . not every one will love pets ,there are always someone who like other things . it is okay.
@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
14 Apr 09
I think it's okay too but i am sooo not okay when they go around and insult them in front of me..I mean they should have the decency to be considerate about kitty lovers around them...They want to hate go ahead, be my guest and hate.. But do it silence..thanks anyway ^_^..