How do you react when your parents say "marriage" pertaining to you?

@kharen (1488)
Philippines
April 14, 2009 7:28am CST
As a 20-year old, I still freak out and act weird when my parents say "marriage" pertaining to me. They joke sometimes when I cook, they tell me it's all good and I'm able to marry now. what a complement?!!! I just don't like talking about things like those.... boyfriend, engage,marriage etc... well, at least with adults and with relatives/family. But when alone, O can imagine about me finding the right guy etc and all that but talking about it with someone else? That's different? How about you? How do you react with those topics/ words?
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@060157 (1059)
• Pakistan
14 Apr 09
hehe. i am 22 and i get the same kind of 'compliments' over various stuff. it kinda makes me feel awkward. but i bet my dad does that as a joke but i can also sense some seriousness in it. and there have been several occasions where he has asked me in a quite straight forward manner if i like someone so that he can talk to that girl's parents (that is how it goes in my culture that the parents have to talk with each other to arrange marriage between the children). he never passes up the chance and asks quite frequently if i like someone from the university LOL. i just stay silent or laugh it out. i don't really know how to respond to it but i will let him know the answer when i have graduated and settled down with a good job.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
well, it's good you are like that. I mean first things first... it's not bad to have a relationship but maybe everyone can have more focus when all you think about for that particular time is just passing...
• India
14 Apr 09
well its good that u think abt boyfriend when u r alone , well i have just got a friend like u too ,she doesn't likes to talk abt boyfriend and relationships but i think she might think abt all this in her dream , well she is also quite small now . well my parents do talk this way , but i dont like to talk with them abt these topics , it may be because im shy type . but i like to talk abt these topics with some of my close friends, after all u cant kill ur felling, and the best way to express them is to talk abt them .
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Yeah, I think about it sometimes. But I prefer to keep it to myself. I stay busy with focusing on my friends' sentiments about their ex's and bf so I'm filled up. And there's still some bitterness left in me so I'm not ready to talk about anything about me having a reltionship with them yet even if I don't have one right now. I'm still not planning to. I'm focused on my studying plans as of now and I'm happy about it.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Apr 09
My fiance and I are engaged to be married. Before my fiance there wasn't much talk about it, maybe kidding here and there with my mom. I guess different cultures and households do things differently.
• Canada
14 Apr 09
haha they're just joking around with ya. they know your older now and it's time to start the 'marriage' jokes lol. be happy your parents are even joking with that about you. my parents didn't talk or joke with me about anything, they were pretty much not there. i would have preferred the jokes! :)
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
I'm happy when they have fun and when we tell jokes but with that topic, I'm just not comfortable with it. And when it's me as the center of what people are talking about? Even if it's just my family or even close my friends... I don't like. I just don't. LOL I hide my face or pretend I don't notice them even if I'm already blushing and then when there's the chance to change the topic... I take it and change it and it would be a so big relief for me...