my fiance is very beautiful, do i have a risk from others that they may take her

India
April 14, 2009 7:29am CST
there is a sense of insecurity within my heart that my fiance will leave me one day and will go to somebody else. i read books in order to keep my fiance for myself but sometimes i say to myself, "how long will i be able to keep her with me?" i don't want to be left out and i don't want to loose her at all. can you please help me what shall i do? give me some tips please!
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@divinchris (2449)
• India
14 Apr 09
If you feel insecured just ask your finace that whether he still loves you.From the way he expresses his love you can decide on how he is behaving with you.Make sure that you don't make you finace worry,that may lead to problems.
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• Malaysia
14 Apr 09
Hi smartjack All you need to do is just one thing trust her and get rid of the fear in you. This fear would make her feel you are not trusting her and your assumption may come true. Love her beauty and be gifted to have her. Make her realize the passionate love you have for he and no one can seperate her from you. Loving her would mean everything for her Regards Thanusha
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@born1989 (177)
• India
14 Apr 09
dude i am in the same position as youy are..even at times i feel very insecured about this..but u just can't help it you have to move on with this, dat's the only way you can deal with this issue. the only thing you can do is build up trust and try & give her more space & make her feel comfortable...dats the only thing u could do.
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@gracie04 (4554)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
You shouldn't feel that way.. Take away the insecurities you're feeling right now.. It will not help you and it will bring no good to your relationship with her.. yes, she's beautiful but it doesn't mean that she's going to replace you with other guys out there.. i've been seeing gorgeous girls who remained faithful to their partners.. instead of feeling jealous or insecured, be proud of her! learn to trust your fiance and everything will be alright... good luck
• Canada
14 Apr 09
Well put gracie04, I couldn't have said it better myself. One of the biggest and most important things in ANY relationship is trust!
• India
14 Apr 09
i totally agree with gracie04.... the most important part of a relationship is trust.... Your love should make her feel comfortable and above all she should feel the trust between you two...through this... ~Cheerio~
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
Well, actually, you don't have to worry about it because, as you said, she's already your fiance. So meaning both of you are engaged to each other. Maybe you mean to say girlfriend. For sure there are many males out there who will try to lure your girlfriend, given that she is so beautiful like what you described. Let her know that you love her and you intend to be with her forever, if that's what you want. Make your relationship more exciting. Date her to places she has never been to. Be romantic. Give her flowers with a sweet message or a poem that you wrote yourself. But, if your girlfriend or fiance really love you there no reason for you to worry about. What if your girlfriend doesn't really love you and she just staying with you just because she doesn't want to hurt you, will you still keep her? Will you still push through with your relationship? Or will you set her free?
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
be the gentleman he knows of you, always make sure that what you are today will never be change. if you will change then make it always for the better and not for the worst. love her and respect her and do everything ti protect her. if you change what you are for the worst that would be a chance for you to lose her. no matter if she is good looking or not, when women get hurt there is more risk for her to find another one.
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@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Take her??? More likely she will leave you!!! Why??? Perhaps some stupid jealously stuff?!?! Spend as much time together as you can. Get to know each other. Be in harmony. Why worry about what may never happen? If she is that type of girl why would you want her? If she is not that type of girl you better stop thinking like that. Or you could make her want to leave you alone.
• India
17 Apr 09
Gift her a sunglass and ask her to wear those every time in public. Nobody sees her face ever and you are safe. http://www.wholesalediscountsunglasses.com
@mimpi1911 (25479)
• India
16 Apr 09
Hi Jack! have faith in your fiance and yourself and trust me you are just so good as well. Raise your self esteem and do not suffer from insecurities. you two love each other and true love has nothing to do with beauty.
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@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
16 Apr 09
hey, men it is nice to have a beautiful girl as ur wife, then insecurity arises all i can say is that you weigh the merits and demerits before moving on, besides what if you love a beautiful and she loves you too. what will you do
@dpk262006 (56591)
• Delhi, India
16 Apr 09
Please do not worry about it if you have sound and healthy relations with your fiance and would be wife, she will not go with someone else. You should have confidence on yourself and you should have some faith on your partner. All the best to you.
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Why are you so insecure, she chose to be with you and there is no reason if you treat her well she shouldn't stay with you. Jealousy will only drive her away. She will think you don't trust her and that is very bad for a relationship, so relax and enjoy your relationship, know that you too are someone special.
@dilsee (47)
• Japan
15 Apr 09
Dont be stress...Trust ur fiance....show ur love to her.If she loves u truely she will never leave you.
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
Just be secure with yourself. Communication is very important in any relationship, make her feel that he is always your priority and that she can tell you everything. I just hope that you're not the jealous type. If you are, if you cant avoid at least minimize showing that you are jealous.
• United States
14 Apr 09
I think you need to try and be yourself and not worry so much about losing her. Having those insecurities are only going to hurt your relationship. If you don't have the confidence in yourself then how is she suppose to have that confidence in you. There is a reason she is with you and agreed to marry you so she has to love you for the way you are but these insecurities may push her away. And stop reading those books..they don't help!!! You don't need any tips, you need to just focus on the relationship you have with her and the wedding that may be coming up.
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@ulalume (714)
• United States
14 Apr 09
That is, inevitably, the risk of being in a relationship. There is never 100 percent certainty. Each individual knows themselves and who they are and who they are willing to be. I know for myself personally, I would never leave my girlfriend (assuming she doesn't wrong me in any grotesque way). If this individual is your fiance, that may very well mean that they do love you and desire to be with you forever (as it would imply). Still, the fact remains that, however cliche the phrase is, love is taken only in faith. I damn all the things of the world that require faith alone, but when it comes to love that is basically all you have. You should determine for yourself if you know who she is, if you communicate enough, and if you both desire each other (in every aspect of the word).
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• United States
14 Apr 09
My fiance is very beautiful too and has a very nice rear-end, many guys talk and look and say crap, but she's faithful to me and hates all of them. We are just like one another and have much in common.
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@txgrl21 (819)
• United States
14 Apr 09
Does she love you? Did she not say yes to you when you asked her to marry you? How long has she been with you? Just ask yourself these questions and trust your inner gut feelings. I think she would have left you a long time ago if she didnt love you. If you keep being so insecure you're going to drive her away and you're trying to do the opposite. Hope I helped, HappyMyLotting!
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• Canada
14 Apr 09
I can understand feeling insecure as I have been there before too but honestly you have to try and let it go. Think of it this way ... she could have chosen someone else to marry, but she chose you. Obviously you love her and she loves you so just believe in that! If you don't and your insecurities eat at you then you won't enjoy the life you two will have together after marriage, or you could possibly push her away and the wedding day might not even come!
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@krissy32 (205)
• United States
15 Apr 09
No one has the ability to steal another's fiance, it is her choice if she wants to leave you for someone else. There is nothing you can do except wish her will. Trying to control who she sees or talks too is a bad thing to do, as it is considered abusive, so don't try it.
@krissy32 (205)
• United States
15 Apr 09
*will, should be well.