Should you dress twins the same?
@Perezfamilyeats (28)
United States
April 14, 2009 10:22pm CST
How important do you think it is to teach twin siblings to be their own idividual beings? My own personal delema will be described and would like some advice.
I was fortunate enough to be able to concieve two beautiful twins girls. As babies I could tell them apart with no problems as one was smaller than the other and different in skin color, I was advised that they will start to even out and become more alike. None the less they were twins so I started to dress them alike from the moment they were born. I did allow each daughter to have the same outfit in different color, thats as far as different than I could go. While bringing them up that is what I stuck to, I found it impossible to have them both in different outfits. I felt like I was choosing one over the other. In my mind I felt that they could tell if I had picked a better outfit for one than the other. I so wanted to be able to match their clothing to how different each one of them was. I never tried to compare them in personality because they are two different individuals, one spunky and outgoing and the other timid and reserved. The spunky one always gets her way with her timid sister, the timid one always wants to do what the other one does,says and wears. How can I break that cycle and allow them to become their own individual persona? I feel like I have created this delema and want my daughters to be happy to be themselves not strive to be like thier sister and loose who they are in the proccess.
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@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
21 Apr 09
Identical twins?! I love twins! I think they're cute!
I think you should dress them differently. It's alright to dress them the same sometimes (dressing them identical twins alike are cute!) but dressing differently is educating them to be different. It's to encourage them to have their own thought and personality.
@Perezfamilyeats (28)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I agree it is cute, especially when people cant tell them apart:) I think what has helped them seperate a bit is the fact that they are in different classes at school. This will allow them to meet friends on their own and peopl will get to know them as an individual. Thank you for your coment.
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I have triplets, and while they are not identical I do not dress them a like, with the exception of special occasions. My sister gives me a hard time about this, she things that I should always have them dressed a like. It has always been very important to me that they are treated like individuals in fact I do not let people call them the triplets. When they do I smile and say oh you mean KR, Jm and KD. (i say their full names)
stop dressing them alike, allow them to pick their own clothes and let them know that they are individuals
@Perezfamilyeats (28)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Thank you for your feed back, I probably should have started when they were born. Even then I found it difficult to seperate them. I have started to let them pick out there clothes, this helps me becuase I dont have to make that decission. takes a load of my concious:)
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
15 Apr 09
It is always great to have identical twins. I have seen lots of twins dressing in the same dress and having same hair styles and looks. I think it is real fun to see them in this way. I think you should allow them to dress in the same dress as they look very cute. I think you should allow them to be their own individual personals. I think you better talk to them and tell to be happy.
@Perezfamilyeats (28)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I often strive to tell them that its ok to look the same but they dont need to be the same in things they do. They are both different inside and thats ok. Thank you for your comment.
