praying for wisdom on parenting

Philippines
April 15, 2009 3:58pm CST
hi all! i am a new mother. this is our first baby and she is already a month old. she turned one month last april 11. i could not imagine what i went through giving birth and now i have bounced back to life and resuming my regular activities. anyway, there are times when it gets really frustrating as a new parent because we donot know what is wrong with the baby and she keeps fussing and crying and crying. we would try to divert her attention, feed her, check everything around her etc to no avail. i have very supportive parents and in laws and they are trying to help, but sometimes, their experience and knowledge are not applicable and sometimes they end up blaming us for not being able to best take care of our baby. so i have prayed and asked God for wisdom and discernment to know what the baby needs when she cries. the obvious reasons are of course hunger, but sometimes, she just wants to be cuddled, or she is having colic. or she feels hot. or she feels cold. but we cannot know these all at first glance. i asked God because being our Creator, i know He can best help us, after all, He created us. i know not everyone will agree with me, as this matter depends on where our faith is, or in our case, on Whom our faith rests, but I thank God because He has led us to know how to answer our baby's needs. I believe that if we need to know how to fix something, we have to ask the manufacturer. And in our case, we go to the Divine Creator. take care all and God bless you! happy mylotting! :D
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12 responses
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
hi there friend.. yes, it's really true, sometimes we pray for the good of our children.. as a single mother, i don't have really ideas of how can i take care of my baby.. good for me that i have my mother whose always beside me to watch me and my baby.. it's not that easy having a little one because we really don't know sometimes what she wanted..but just always consult our mother if we have doubts because they have already been through with that kind of experiences..also prayers for the good of our love ones.. happy mylotting..
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
Being a first time mom can be depressing sometimes. But you are lucky because your family are very supportive. Raising a baby doesn't happen overnight. You got to learn everyday how it's done. But I'm sure you are doing fine by now.
@wahmivy (776)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
Hi. Praying for parenting wisdom and guidance is the best thing we can do for our children. Being a new mother is hard and there is so much to learn, but please don't let anybody make you feel as though you're not doing a good job at caring for your baby. :)
@garyc09 (132)
16 Apr 09
im sure your baby is fine :) eveyrthing always works out
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
16 Apr 09
First of all, Congratulations! We are a new mother! Do you still remember when you knew that you are pregnant? Are there any surprises? excitements? Happiness? Worries? Maybe you have them all, now that you gave birth to the baby, she is just like the angel, because you love her too much and you want to give her everything you have. But, slow down and listen to her, just like other's say, you will hear her different sinal, she might says" Mom, i am hungry" ir " Mom, i am feeling cold". My friends who have mairried and be a month told me, it's not a easy thing to be a monther, you have to sacrifice a lot. So, think before you lead. If you don't think you are ready to be a mom, raise a pet before you want to have a baby.
@mira91 (985)
• Singapore
16 Apr 09
Hey~ Congratulations on your first baby! I'm so happy for you, if i were you i'd be sooooooo verrrry thrilled at motherhood...I just adore mothers who get to take care of their babies well basically, i just admire motherhood which i hope i'll experience in the future...haha..Well what i'd suggest for you here is to go ahead and borrow or buy those baby books ath teaches you or informs you about the million stuff about taking care of babies...Well, that would just be me, of course...all the best, regards ,mira.
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
Very nicely said.... I think you are right about that. Being a first time parent or a mother is really difficult it is very different when you were first married together. Here is an additional to your marriage with full of surprises. The first three months would be very challenging indeed. There is this middle of the night crying for attention and feeding. Sleeping patterns is still not yet establish so every now and then you would have to wake up in the middle of the night to check if the baby is awake and needs something. But this will all come to pass of course, I guess all new mothers and fathers too pass this stage were both really would exert extra effort to cater to the babies.
@4mymak (1793)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 09
hello.. dont worry you wil do just fine.. especially with you and your husband both being so attentive towards your little princess.. and in time, if you really listen.. you'll hear that your baby has a 'different cry' for different reasons.. you'll learn to recognize her cry for when she is hungry, or when she wants (her nappy) to be changed, or when she is sleepy.. you'll learn to see her 'signals'.. take care.
@Dasari100 (3791)
• Anantapur, India
16 Apr 09
As a mother you have lot of things to do for your baby but i guess how much you love to your baby because god gave you gift as a baby so god give you everything what are expecting so i am happy to share with you.
@carrine (2743)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
hello there,, and congratulations that you're a mother now.! its a lifetime responsibility. and its not a joke being a mother am telling you, am a mother of 2 boys. and im always praying that i can raise them well and provide them good school, foods and to up bring them well.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I think that it is great that you are asking God for guidance. He will guide you, you just have to listen. As far as your baby's fussy moments, I found that my 3 week old nephew was seemingly un-satisfiable when he had to burp. I tried for a good 10 minutes to burp him, but he didn't burp, so I thought that he didn't need to, and was fussy because he wanted his bottle back. I gave him his bottle, but that wasn't what he wanted. As it turned out, he had to burp after all, it just took a little longer than usual for him to let it out. If your baby seems fussy like that, it may be the same issue. If you can't get her to burp one way, try a different position.
@nic2bp (6)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Wow! I commend you! That is awesome. I didn't think other people asked God for help on how to figure out what is wrong with their child! I have a 10 month old daughter and let me tell you, God has helped me out tremendously! Most other people would think I'm crazy for saying this, but God is the reason I chose to stay home with my daughter. After I had my daughter, I didn't want to go back to work, but I knew we needed the money. I asked God to help me with my decision. I wound up going back and I couldn't handle it! I just cried and cried. I missed my baby, I was an hour away and I had to pump every 2 hours, which was crazy enough! That night at work, I took a look at The Daily Bread. All I can say is wow, what a sign! I had gotten the sign I had asked for! I did wind up going back for two more days, but on the third day, I went to drop my daughter off my mother-in-laws and to no avail, I had a flat tire, which I didn't notice until I got there! What a sign! I did go back on the 4th day to hand in my resignation and get my stuff. I had no many signs from God that I was supposed to stay home to raise her. I didn't want someone else raising her and I sure as heck wasn't going to put her in a daycare! I truly believe that God is the answer. Even if he doesn't give an answer immediately, eventually it will come to you. Although it can be stressful, I wouldn't have it any other way. I love being home with her! I'm so happy that I'm not the only mom who turns to God for an answer. Keep your faith up! God Bless!