to anyone who wants to listen....

@britt_200 (1227)
United States
April 15, 2009 7:04pm CST
In my life the bad guy always wins. Here's a little background. My mom and my aunt are drug addicts. My grandparents have raised me, and done a very good job. All my life they have loved and taken care of my sister and me. Lately my aunt even had a baby, she came out addicted to drugs and low birth wieght. My grandparents even had the heart to take her and her new born baby, even though they were both going through withdrawls. Of course my aunt didnt stop, but the baby is healthy and happier than anyone could ever be. Recently my grandpa just started to get ahead with his job. He was making about 200,000 a year, and we were finally starting to pay all the bills we have off. (My grandma was in a car wreck a few years back, and got hurt really bad, so needless to say we have over 50,000 in medical bills.) While my aunt was here she decided that she hated our family and called my grandfathers work and accused him of embezzling money from the company. One of which he managed and the other he owned a part of. Three days later the doctors fired him and he was out of a job. He now works full time at city market in the deli, and part time the night shifts at a factory. We barely get by anymore. The comany did not give him his last paycheck or the money from his vacation time. He was recently called by the IRS because he apparently signed a return for the comany, and they were going under. He took all the paper work he had, and was trying to defend himself. Little did he know it was a set up. He got there, and the lady he had an appointment with left him waiting and called the police. They arrested him and now he is spending the night in jail. My grandfather the man I call my father is now sitting in a cell waiting. He is not a bad person at all and didn't do one thing, but the drug addicts like my mother and my aunt are on the street. There's nothing more to say. The bad guy always wins. Now the company wants $32,000, from the stuff my dad alledgedly stole. Throughout it all my grandma won't cry and is trying to stay strong. We've gotten everything we have worth anything on the table. My moms wedding ring, all my jewlery, ipods, phones, and cameras to pawn and try and just pay the money back. That or get a lawyer and defend my fathers name. We have NEVER been in trouble with the law or anything. My family is a good family doing whatever we can to get by. My dad is the best dad in the world. He's even worked 5 jobs at one point to keep us going. Never proud, and always strong he is a good man. Like i said, the bad guy always wins....for anyone who wants to listen, I just had to write, and tell my story.
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13 responses
• United States
16 Apr 09
I am so sorry that all that happened to your family! I can't express how incredibly sorry I am... Life is a messed up series of events sometimes.. and most of the time it does feel like the bad guy wins, trust me, I am trying to come to terms with a member of family who was murdered by someone who walked away free. It's hard to keep faith sometimes... but I HAVE to believe that eventually the good guy does win... I HAVE to believe that! and you do too! your father needs you to be strong right now and keep the faith.. as hopeless as you can feel sometimes, you can't let go of hope! *hugs* If ya ever need to talk.. I'm a good listener even if I can't fix the problem.. I will listen :) please keep me updated.. your family is in my prayers...
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@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
16 Apr 09
thank you so much....i understand...im sorry that had to happen to you...i am...it hurts...but honestly thank you so much
• China
16 Apr 09
In fact I never belive anyone ,iI grow up alone my parents working on their buiness to make moeny they have no time to take care of me ,all the things must done by myselfe by my little hands ,now I 'm a adult never fair the dificult I belive myselfe ,but when other s give me advices I'll think them twice if it right I would do if not I'll reject all the judement made after I try the fact would tell me the turth.
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• United States
16 Apr 09
Hello Britt, Christ! That is a horrible life I can scarcely relate to... You know, an autobiography might not be bad if you'd be willing to write it- you could submit it to Tate Publishing or similar, and it might go through. How old are you currently? I don't know how to even BEGIN to solve your many problems, but I could do my best... I think your main way out of the economic hell (which I'm sure you've discussed w/h your grandma already) is to do your best to help get your grandfather out of jail. Do a little investigation, maybe ask around, poke through his office- whatever you can do to prove him innocent. I know the police/company will most likely sort it out, but you may not want them to "sort it out" if it means he does 10 to life or more/less. Do you have any mortgage to pay? I would NOT recommend appealing for a loan, but do you have any siblings, relatives, or similar (not your mom and aunt, evidently) that could help you out financially? Because now would be the time to ask... Don't try to move houses in today's mortgage crisis if you have to pay mortgage for your house, as you'll bite the sharp end of the stick there. Even with Barack Obama doing his best to get us out, it'll take more than one man to do it. If you're old enough, get a job. I'd definitely recommend that you keep writing, and I'll do my damndest to make sure this is promoted so you get more earnings. I'll also friend you, if that's alright, and if you wish I'll send you financial cash if you give me your mailing address. I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this; I'll do my best (and I really do mean that) to help you, both online and through any means necessary. My sincerest regards, -Fresh Writing
@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
16 Apr 09
thats a lot to respond to. i have thought about writing one, and i might even start. im currently only 18 and i havent graduated high school. i have tried to get a job. i applied for the workforce, and about 10 different jobs a week. currently theres absolutely nothing for me to do. we dont have morgage payments i dont believe. we have a lease on our house that was up a few months ago, but they extended it because of my fathers situation. My dad gets out tomorrow because he have NO criminal record at all. We were just trying to bail him out because my mom nor i want to see my dad spend a night there. We didnt get the money. We only have one car, that my dad took to the office, so we had no way to get to the pawn shop to pawn everything. Even if we would have we didnt have anything to sign for collateral. We dont own the car, and we dont have a house anymore. We sold that about a year ago, so we had nothing to sign over. As for family that could help us out...we have none at all. we have my fathers sister, but she didnt have the money to put up. I just needed someone to listen and I thank you.
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• United States
16 Apr 09
Hm...A lot of possibilities removed there. What about the case? He's being removed tomorrow, you say, but is he still being investigated/monitored? Sorry about that once again- a series of unfortunate events indeed. At least you don't have mortgage to pay; that can be a major killer to a lot of people. -Fresh Writing
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@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
17 Apr 09
yeah well...we might not be able to get him out...we went and they said he was still on bond...we were going to pawn all of our stuff for 700 but apparently we need something we own worth 10,000, but we dont own anything. yeah...so if he doesnt get out tomorrow idk what to do
• United States
16 Apr 09
That is horrible that a family member would do that to one of their family. All to often the good person gets run through the mud because someone got mad or didn't like what the person said to try to get them going down the right path. It is true that the bad guy does seem to win. The reason for that is because they don't hestitate to lie or fabricate evidence. I hope things start getting better for you all.
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@krissy32 (205)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I know well what this gal is going through with her dear grandpa, been there and through it with my own husband. Some lady made up some lies about him at work and got him fired; and then of course, that was not enough for this witch, she had to take it one step further by involving the police. Keeping in mind that he didn't know this lady from a hill of beans, would never even look at another woman when he has me. But, it didn't stop this witch from making wild accusations and her word alone was good enough for not only the police,but the county attorney too. They all fell for her lies; hook line and sinker. Thank Allah that it is all over now and he has a good job again, but it has been a long, hard year of struggle. I still hate to hear about any woman who claims to be harassed when she has no proof of anything, it rankles my nerves.
@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
16 Apr 09
yeah...me too..thank you for your response.
@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
I listened... but your story is not yet finished. I mean, this is just a part where the bad guys win. Somehow, fate will continue it's work, karma takes place and those who suffered will somehow have their joy back. But there's one thing you have to do. Just like what your grandmother is doing, be strong for your grandfather and for those whom you love. You all need to be strong for each other to get over this.
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@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
16 Apr 09
yes. and we are all trying. for my father at least.
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@sid556 (31002)
• United States
16 Apr 09
First of all, I am sorry that your parent's were not there for you while you were growing up. 2ndly, I am very glad that your grandparent's were. Still you missed out on knowing the grandparent as grandparents and so did they. From all you write here it sounds to me as if you all did your best to make the best of a not so good situation. You have learned some strong family values and it is very obvious. If your grandfather is innocent, then he will get cleared. If not, well...he did it for the sake of his family, I'm sure. Either way, your Aunt was wrong for bringing trouble into the family that is and has been helping both her and your mom. I do believe that often it seems as if the bad guy wins but it is a temporary victory. Everything happens for a reason. In the end, your aunt and your mom will be the ones that suffer much deeper. you'll see. Hang in there...this will all work out just as it should.
@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
16 Apr 09
i hope so...he has all the records he needs to clear himself...so i guess we will see in court. we just need the money to hire a good attorney
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@royal52gens (5380)
• United States
16 Apr 09
There has to be more to this. I say that because he was fired and removed from a company he partly owned. There had to be some kind of investigation before any actions would have been taken. It does not make sense that these actions would be taken simply because of a random phone call. There had to actually be money missing. Otherwise, he would not be asked to pay anything back. I know you love your grandparents. It is hard to watch them go through this. I hope it all works out.
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@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
16 Apr 09
nope honestly its all based on accusations...ALL of it...thats what is so frustrating. the doctors think he stole. he was only part owner...so the doctors he went into it with owned a bigger share. even my father doesnt know how they can do it, but they have. yes there was money missing but he has ALL the records for EVERYTHING he spent. so they cant accuse him of stealing...but no one has given him the change to dispute it.
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@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
i am sorry to hear that. but i want to tell you that you have to think of good things so that good things will happen to your life. problems are designed to make us stronger not weaker. we have to have a strong faith in God. even if things are going really bad, hope for the best to happen. don't let yourself be eaten up by negative things. please start thinking good things and you will attract the positive energy and believe me, everything will be alright my dear. God bless you always. take care.
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
i forgot to tell you to pray. because prayers do wonders. believe me, i've been through a lot but its God who really helped me. leave everything to God and He will do take care of you. May you have peace of mind and there inside your heart.
@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
16 Apr 09
thank you. sometimes it is hard for me to believe that god will come through because he hasnt for me so far, but im still pushing. thank you
16 Apr 09
yes sometimes when tough times are around it may seem as God is not there. But believe me he is always here and there. Bible says the eyes of the Lord run to and fro, so he never sleeps or slumbers. He knows your situation and he will bring you out of it. Just trust him and let him work his way into rescuing you. He will not let you suffer more than you can bear it. The fact that you are still alive through all this proves you are strong so continue being strong and lose hope or give up.. wait for Him and he will surely turn it around for you.
@jellymonty (2358)
16 Apr 09
Unfortunately nowadays family members will hurt you a lot more than an outsider. I am very sorry to hear your story but I believe that at one point the bad guy will get what he desrves. Usually in every story the bad guy alwyas seem to win but one day you will outshine them and thump them with an amazing victory to the point where they will never even want to treat you bad anymore. As a christian, my bible says that do not fret (worry) yourself because of the wicked, for they will soon fade like the grass and wither like the green herb. Surely The Almighty God has seen your suffering, and will reward and compensate your for every part you hurt. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your father and mother. xxx
@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
17 Apr 09
thank you...that really spoke to my heart. thank you...
• United States
16 Apr 09
You know I can emphathize with what you are saying and what you are going through. Stay strong and work together as a family to get through it all. When people are doing wrong they always want to bring others down to thier level...stay above the ground no matter what...I pray that everything works out for you and your father and the rest of your family in the end. God Bless!
@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
17 Apr 09
i really do hope everything works out and i thank you so much for my support
@NIECIE21 (365)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I am so sorry to hear of everything your family is going through! I am a firm beliver in the saying what goes around, comes around. It maybe hard to see it now, but God has a reason for this. Just stay strong and be there for your dad. It will make all of you stronger .
@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
16 Apr 09
i hope your right. thank you so much for posting
• United States
16 Apr 09
Hang in there. Life can be cruel and harsh sometimes but that bad guy doesn't always win. The truth will prevail! Just have a little faith and take it one day at a time. The best of luck to you and your family!
@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
16 Apr 09
thank you. i try to believe that, but thank you for your post.
@vivianchen (2648)
• China
16 Apr 09
Hi Britt, I am sorry to hear that all those bad things happen to you. But you need to be strong, if all of the rest of your family are diable to support this family, then it's your responsibility to make it up! I know you've given up all you have to support this family, you did the right thing, your family should be prond of you. But one thing i don't understand, why you can have you mom and your aunt stop what they are doing? Don't they know they are hurting your family? It's incredible! I am sorry, but please be strong! Your family need you.