wedding attire

@timhinyy (1653)
United States
April 15, 2009 7:47pm CST
i have to go to my fiancee's brother's wedding in a couple of weeks. i personally don't know the person getting married but i was told they have been friends for a long time they even have my fiancee doing some decorations for them which is nice cause she loves to do that. so i guess my question is this what would be appropriate for me to wear to such an occassion i don't normally like to get too dressed up i was thinking a nice dress shirt no tie and a nice pair of jeans is this acceptable attire?
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@hmkoct5 (2067)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Is this a casual wedding or a formal wedding? If it's casual, it seems like your outfit would be ok. If it's more formal, I would think that a dress shirt, tie, and nice pants would be good. I know how much my husband hates to wear a suit! They seem so uncomfortable, but you don't want to look too casual if it is a formal wedding.
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
i was told the dress would be casual the best man who is my fiancee's brother won't even have to wear a tuxedo. i'm sure they will be happy with what i have to wear they won't even be worried about me. since except for my lady's family none of them even know me. i'll just be there to appreciate my lady's decorations she's really good at that so she will be doing that and if i can i'll take some pics for you all to see.
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• United States
16 Apr 09
Hello Tim:)Well there is casual and then there is too casual.I don't like to dress up myself but sometimes I have to grin and bare it.Especially the horror that is brides maids dresses,lol!I would ask if jeans would be acceptable first.And since it's a church wedding why not go with khaki trousers instead?I know suits are uncomfortable as I hear many grumblings from guys about that but a comfy pair trousers is alright.
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@harmonee (1236)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I would tend to steer clear of the jeans, especially if you don't know the family. Evening weddings are typically more formal and if this is the case, I would suggest adding a tie to the wardrobe. Good luck!
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
yeah i was hoping to avoid the tie if at all possible can they can be kind of uncomfortable at times. these are really nice dressy type jeans black go good with the dress shirt i was thinking of wearing.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Wear the tie. When you get married you will appreciate those who respect the theme that your fiancee will have chosen. Weddings are a big deal, especially to the bride and most people marry with the idea that it will be the only time.
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Well, It could be okay attire to wear to some weddings and then others not okay. Really depends on a lot of different things. Though for me, I wouldn't wear jeans to a wedding. I would wear something more dressier, unless it was a dress down type of wedding....
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
i have been told that this wedding is more casual type i believe the best man will not even be wearing a tuxedo. doesn't sound like anyone will be dressing up too fancy for this one. i personally always try to look nice.
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
16 Apr 09
It depends on the type of wedding. If it is casual and at a beach or something like that then you would dress casually. If it formal and in the evening and black tie you would dress appropriately. The invitation sets the tone but the simple thing will be to just ask the couple!
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
wedding is in a church but i was told that the dress was casual as far as a know my fiancee's brother who will be the best man won't even have to wear a tuxedo. so i'm sure he's glad about that as i'm sure it will be quite warm inside the church and the reception is supposed to take place not far from where we live so that will be nice too. i mean if they wanted me more dressed up i would do it wouldn't love it but i would do it.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Jeans are never appropriate for a wedding. You can wear slacks and still be comfortable.
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
unforunately these jeans are about my only option cause as i just stated i can't fit any of the dress pants that i was given. my dad gave me a bunch of them and they just don't fit me. i have no extra money to go out and get a new pair of dress pants and i'm sure they don't care if i even go the only one that will is my lady.
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• Philippines
16 Apr 09
hello there, you can ask your fiancee for there might be a dress code for the wearing. Of course you don't like to wear something rugged or you might dress up too much for the wedding so you just have to ask you fiancee what would be the appropriate dress that you should be wearing. Hope this helps. Happy Mylotting and enjoy the wedding!!!
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
this will be a fun little tid bit for some of you. my fiance and i when we were kids and didn't even know one another attended the same wedding. i was somewhere around 10-12 age range then kind of interesting i thought what are the odds of being somewhere with someone not knowing them then meeting up with them later in life. i don't think i've told anyone about that i think its kind of nice. even better i caught the garter and she caught the bouquet. just a little fun fact for you all. trust me all she wants is me there and she will be exstatic.
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• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Wow, that sounds like a fun fact that both of you have attended the same wedding when you were just kids. It doesn't happen all the time . I bet you and fiancee are really meant to be together. Thanks for sharing those fun and sweet facts!!!
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@prinzcy (5049)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 09
I usually wear our traditional clothes, it's a custom for our people here to dress like that especially to formal occasions (we can even wear it to work) In your case, unless there a theme, you can wear jeans and shirt. I think it's acceptable.
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
i have a really nice white dress shirt which i could wear a tie with if i so chose. i also have a nice pair of black dressy type jeans which have not been worn much and since i lost a few pounds i can actually fit into again. we just went to her brother's son 1st birthday party and i wore the nice jeans and i think i was the most dressed up there. i usually try to look nice if i go somewhere where i don't know alot of the people there.
@prinzcy (5049)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 09
I think that will fit. Save the tie and observe the ceremony first.
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
I think if you are comfortable and feel confident on your nice white shirt and pair of jeans that will be enough. Go on with that attire. Just make sure it is approve by your fiance :) Remember, she will be there and she would want her man to dress appropriately.
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
oh she loves it when i dress up she loves to show me off. i don't mind it every once in awhile as long as its not too hot. i don't do too well in the heat and its just starting to warm up a little here i hope its a nice day but not hot nice if you know what i mean. we will be inside for the ceremony so shouldn't have to worry about weather there. my fiancee's decorating the reception so i don't know if they'll have anything special inside the church as far as decorations go.
@Trensue (5253)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Since your girl friend is doing some of the decorations you may have some clue if the wedding is more formal or casual. Really, it is always appropriate to dress up a little, but if it is not you- maybe there is no reason to bother. Since you are asking advice I would assume you know that you will feel uncomfortable if you don't make the extra effort to dress up some. Another good measure might be to ask your fiancee what she would like to see you in. Brownie points my friend.
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
she really likes the outfit i have picked out and i think the black dress shoes i have will go great with it i just have to remember where i put them i moved recently and i'm not all that organized yet. i haven't gone to a wedding since my sister and aunt had a double wedding in vegas so between then and now i went from wearing a size 34 pant to a size 40 so i guess you can see i kinda put on some pounds i have recently lost to where i can fit in the size 40 again and i still have 2 weeks to go so whatever im doing seems to be working i think i will stick to it and see what i can fit into when we get closer to the actual day.
@deejean06 (1953)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Hi tim...I think it all depends on where the wedding will be...I think that in certain parts of the country the dress is quite informal. However by me the proper dress code for men would be shirt, tie, jacket, shoes. What does your fiance think?
@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
she seems to like what i have picked out. i think i will get my nice black dress shoes to go with what i have probably will wear a tie not that i like to, but if your gonna to do it why not right. supposed to be casual dress so i think what i have will look good compared with everyone else thats going. i will try to look my best right now i need to get my self a haircut so i don't look like a shaggy dog when the time comes to go we have about 2 weeks yet.
• India
16 Apr 09
My advice would be to drop the idea of jeans. It is too casual .... had it been between friends of your then it would have been a no problem actually. Since you say that you do not know the people there so better be in a bit of a formal attire than being too casual. You never know how people will react ..... you being in jeans casual wear in a bit of formal evening wedding ... more important since your fiancee is there .. best of luck. Enjoy
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
her family has already told me that they thought my jeans would be fine these are really nice almost brand new dark black jeans. i only wear them for nice events going out to eat stuff like that. since i don't have any other pants options at this time i will have to go with that and since i was told that the dress is casual i'm sure no one will care i mean its about the ones getting married not about me i'm just there for my lady.
@eselmaro (208)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
First and foremost you should read the invitation of that wedding. usually they will indicate in the invitation what to wear. From that information you will know then what is the right attire for that occassion. I have been attending friend's wedding for how many times and they always required this formal attire. Since I am a lady, cocktail will do for me. For a man like you, with or without a tie is okay, as long as it looks like formal. Not jeans of course. Good luck!
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
i have been told the dress will be casual for the wedding and as far as i know none of my fiancee's family is going to be getting fancied up for it. i have this really nice white dress shirt picked out will probably wear a tie too. these are really nice jeans and my only pants option cause i have outgrown all of my other dress pants. i have lost some weight but doubt it will be enough to fit into any of my old pants by then.
@dlr297 (5418)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I would say that would be fine, but i would check to see how formal the wedding is going to be....We had a outdoor wedding in our back yard, and we had people show up in formal wear....to overalls... But i did not care what anyone had on as long as they were their to share it with us.......But not all people think the way that i do.. If i were you i would go by what your fiancee thinks, because she is the one that you should be making happy.
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
she would be happy if i'm in a nice shirt and nice pants. its a church wedding and gosh i can't even remember to the last time i was actually in church. its been a long time for me. i don't get too dressed up too often in case you can't tell that from the nature of my discussion. i will go and try to look my best. right now before we go there i really need a haircut before i worry too much about what i'm wearing.
@stealthy (8188)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I haven't been to a wedding in a long time, but unless it is a very casual affair at a justice of the peace or something, what you want to wear would not be appropriate. The usual attire for a male guest at any wedding I ever went to was a dark suit, a dress shirt and a tie.
@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
16 Apr 09
i believe it is to be held inside a church then there is a reception afterwards. i'm kinda trying to get away with not wearing the suit cause i put on a few pounds since i last wore it and i dont think it will fit me anymore. that in itself is kind of funny because i've actually lost 20 pounds recently which just shows me how much i put on before.