did you lose a long time relationship?

@jcbelle (152)
Philippines
April 17, 2009 1:56am CST
I for myself, had experienced it. It was four years ago, when I lost it. It was a nine years of relationship. I knew that he was dating a lot of women, without my knowing. I even fought him for my parents just to accept him in our family. Until one day, one our neighbor told me about how my guy cheated me. And when I knew it, I almost had nervous breakdown. I thought my life was ruined. And thought of not being able to finish college. Fortunately, I was able to cope up with it. Through the help of my family and friends. It really took me two years of not having any relationships with guys. And it made hate guys! Until, I met a guy from my first job, whom was my co-employees. After seven months in our relationship, we got married. And now, we have one beautiful nine month daughter. I really thank God for everything. He made things easy for me. what's your story?
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@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
I had just broken up with my 4year relationship. It's still tough, but I guess there are some things in life you can't control. I still love him dearly, and I know I still have a place in his heart, but distance and stress just got the best of us both. I know I can get over him, but not as quick as I would have wanted it. We shared a lot together and these memories will always be in my heart. Soon he will forget me, but I'm hoping that we both could live our lives happily. The good thing about the break-up is the fact that there isn't any 3rd party involved. He is my first boyfriend and my first love (the others were merely crushes). It's tough, but crying and rolling on the ground won't help either of us.
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@jcbelle (152)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
we'll maybe you and your long time partner needed a space. Anyway, it is not totally over yet. You will never know if both of you are meant to be. Let's just waitfor the right time. It really hurts loosing someone whom you loved. But you have to moved on. I am happy that you broke up in good terms.
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@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
Yeah, I know. But it's just that I'm always fighting with myself because there's a huge part of me which is hopeful we'd be together again, yet there's also a part of me which wants to say 'wake up and smell the flowers!'.
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
yes i had, that was way back when i was still college, we were three years by then, but there came a time that my love for him faded. that was when he transferred to another school, then i met another guy, whom i became friend and later on, realized this new guy was more kind and caring, until he courted me, .. i am more in love with this guy because he is different than my boyfriend,. he understand me so much and have lots of similarities in terms of likes and dislikes. he is now my husband..
@jcbelle (152)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
Congratulations, xannebull. I am happy for you. We almost have the same love story. All I can say is that have a merry life. And hope that you and your partner will be together no matter how tough life it can be. Let us pray for each other and also pray for all those married people that our relationships will strengthen by God.
• India
17 Apr 09
hello dr,,, according to me,any relationship does not depend on time...it is possible that you achieve the highest stage of your relationship in one year,and i may take six to seven years to reach the same stage..it depends on how u treat d person. i also lost a very good friend of mine after a six years relationship.that too because of some other friends of her. she did not trust me nd broke the relationship. now i am havin many more friends in my life nd for each of them i am very special. and the same on my side. life goes on,you can not stop it jst because of some wierd people... hav a great life ahead friend......
@jcbelle (152)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
I am happy for you. That is great, because you really fight your emotions despite everything that had happened. You know how it feels when you loose your special someone. It really feels like your in hell. And you could eve n tend to hurt yourself. I am happy that you moved on and still searching for the right person. Good Luck!
@rocketsky (1014)
• China
17 Apr 09
most of my friends get along well with me ?although we sometimes have something unhappy between each other ,on the whole we are all best friends all the time, true friendship wont be forgotten as time went by ,friendship is something more important than other things . how to make your friendship longer and better ?I think ,no matter where we are ,what we think ,what we do ,we should always give our friends a letter ,write to them or e-mail them ,let them know we are missing them . That is very important to remember . have a nice day :)
@jcbelle (152)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
that's sweet of you. your friends are very lucky to have you. thanks for sharing. :)
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
i have been through so many relationship which are all long of 3years but still ended up breakin up. but now with my boyfriend. i just cant help but hate the thought of losing him. though i may be bad sometimes with our relationship but by now i just cant let him go and fall apart. i love him truly. thanks
@smartjack (521)
• India
18 Apr 09
not yet, i have not had any long relation till date to break. nor do i want to have such a relation which will break after a long time.
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Me and my ex husband been together for 9 years, 2 years as girlfriend/boyfriend relationship. then 7 years as married couple.But our case is different, before i was out of the relationship, i don't love him anymore so its not painful like your experience. I've had experience the hurt during the relationship, he is a heavy drinker, friends is his priorities, i caught him twice with other girl and lots of reason for me to fall out of love with him.
17 Apr 09
I did lost a strong relation ship about 3 years ago.And my relation was about 10 years.And that was with my girl friend.First time we were friends and then the relation turned upto affairs but for co incidence our relation broke up. But still now we contact each other and miss a lot.Although she is married now.Before her marriage i gift her a small plant and she still takes care of it.Always try to keep it alive. have a good time.
• United States
17 Apr 09
I can relate and I was once married to a vicous woman for 5 years who cared for nothing but herself. I was even in a celibate marriage with her for the last two years until one day I packed up my truck with everything I owned and drove all the way from Indiana to Colorado and never saw her again! The best day of my life too. I am now with a wonderful woman and wife for the last 5 years and life it good! How about everyone else?
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
yes I did. Sad to but I ended my 2 year relationship thou I loved him so much that I made him my world and my life. We were fighting all the time. He was always stressed with his family and was always depressed. I became his shock absorber. Then one day I was just thinking of our future.. like how will it be if we were already married and we would have kids? I did not want my kids to grow up like me... I saw my parents fighting and I did not want that to happen anylonger if ever I get married and have kids. So i let go.... I still love him till now and has a special place in my heart...
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Yes it did happened to me too. three years ago me and my boyfriend broke up. we've been together for 6 years. we have the same situation i fought for him so that our family would accept him. Since he has the reputation of a playboy but still i didnt give it up. Even my friends are against him. We live in different cities and he has to travel by ferry to go here in our place. Some of my friends told me that he has another girl in their place. But i didnt believe it. a year or two had passed when i discovered that she got a girl pregnant. From then on i decided to broke up with him. My friends would arrange a date for me just to forget what happened. And for me to moved on with my life. After a year and a half i guess i was fully recovered from all the pains. Then i met this guy who is also a common friend of my friend in college. We dated and after a year he proposed to me. And right now our relationship is really strong and we are looking forward that we will be exchanging our "i do's " soon.