does he deserve a second chance?
By mapuang
@mapuang (612)
Philippines
April 17, 2009 4:34am CST
i have a friend asking me if his ex boyfriend deserve a second chance? here's the scenario of their breakup,. the boy have a girl officemate. so he fell in love with her and break up with my friend. so my friend let him go. so after a few months her ex boyfriend realize how important my friend to his life and begging for a second chance. my friend ask me if he deserve a second chance. i told her its up to you and if you still love him. so guys do u give another chance to your ex? and why? share your thoughts here...
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5 responses
@newmind_in (118)
• India
22 Apr 09
dear , here the question is not if he deserves a second chance ..
the question is , can your friend trust him now
if she can trust him that he won't again break her heart after realizing her worth i say she should give it a shot again .
but if she can't trust him again then their is no point of giving him a second chance as trust is the basis for any relation.
hope u'll tell your friend this and she will make the right decision for her life
@rsa101 (37929)
• Philippines
19 Apr 09
At first glance I really think that the offense was unforgivable. I would not accept the guy from returning back to your friend who qwas hurt in the process. The thing this guy did was really so conceited that he cannot think of the outcome of his actions.
But on the second thought, I think you are right in advising her that she decide for herself what she truly feels for the guy. Of course we really do not know what the feelings of the couple. If there is true love between the two then forgiveness is possible but then if the girl was really hurt and would not want to experience that then she can choose to be free from the relationship that hurt her.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Hi mapuang, that is kind a hurting on your friend. After he leaves her that is the only time that he realized how important she is to his life. After dumping your friend, that is kind a insulting. Your friend is very understanding, setting him free and sacrificing her happiness, just for him to be happy. If I were you tell him to forget everything, he don't deserve a second chance or even see his shadow. After ruining her trust, believing him, trusting him, what kind a man he is. He should even cover just his face and asking for another chance. Does he know that it wasn't easy to move on,and to adjust being alone. Was it easy for him to get what he want when he needs too. If you were your friend will you give him a second chance. Love is blinded emotions feeling that sometimes you can't see what is right and what is wrong. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@neerajpandey_13 (1765)
• India
19 Apr 09
No, don't believe in giving second chance. But if you feel that you are in true love then you can give second chance to him . Otherwise there is no meaning of giving second chance to anybody in life.
@new_world (27)
• United States
24 Apr 09
The question is " can she ever trust him?" if she is ready to forgive him & forget the past, then they can lead a happy life. & if she really love him, then she will do the right things.
I think he deserves a second chance, afterall he is a human.& as this was the first time, he should get a chance. But your friend should make her enough strong,if it happens again. & be sure to make him feel that he wont get any chance to feel sorry, if he do it again.
