Friends that help you out

@suspenseful (40316)
Canada
April 18, 2009 12:04am CST
My husband has been not well, he had a stroke and now he has a hard time getting around and my friends, especially my two best friends have been helping me out. Actually I have three best friends. One Helene is the former minister's wife and she used to be a nurse, so she has gotten the disability people to come over and see if our house can be fixed up so we do not have to move - and we can stay. And she has arranged with the deacons to come and help get a ramp made so my husband can go out. My other best friend Margaret takes me shopping since we do not have a car anymore. And the friend Corrie who lives farther away will take me to Carman on the weekend because we are both in the Choir, since she has a van and Margaret only has a small car. And since my husband cannot be left alone, someone will keep him company while I am away. So when you are in need, do you have friends that will help you?
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19 responses
• United States
19 Apr 09
consider yourself blessed, friends like yours are far and few between. It's wonderful having friends who support you in your time of need. While I have few close friends, the few I do have, are draining me emotionally..it's difficult to deal with at times. True friends help you out when you are down, they pick you up and help you to see the brighter side of life when nothing seems to go right. I'm happy you have such great friends! It is both a rarity and a blessing! I hope all works out for you and yours.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
21 Apr 09
I hope so too. There is a lot of work that needs to be done. We have to get the ramp built and we have to get the power chair as well as the bathroom renovated. I do not know that much about getting permits and I do need people to help me. My sons could but they are not in the neighborhood and both are working so it is hard for them to help much.
• United States
21 Apr 09
Take it one day at a time..rome wasn't built in a day. Also, check your local resources in your community, your state and local county websites. There maybe lots of resources you can tap into to assist you in your time of need. Below is a link to a legitimate website that lists grants for individuals by state. Check it out, you may find the help you need. It's totally free information. I wish you and yours the best. http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
21 Apr 09
wow..it was nice to have a friend who help you..i have few friends who helps me too when i neede them
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
26 Apr 09
I sometimes wish I could do more. I was always one who never liked asking for help and it was not until they probed me and asked me about my husband that I gave them the information. I told them he had a stroke, but I assumed that he would get better with the medication. After all, is that not what the doctors tell you? Exercise eat right and your brain will make new pathways? But it did not.
• United States
19 Apr 09
We are blessed to have a very caring congregation, and a few very special friends!
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
21 Apr 09
That is what we have here. I have my three closet friends and they help us out a lot. And the deacons are going to sit down with my husband and see what they can do.
@mrsl2008 (635)
18 Apr 09
Hi, Sorry to hear your husband has had a hard time. It's so pleasing to hear you have such good friends to help the both of you out, I love tales of good friendships. I have many friends but not sure how many would help me out if I really needed it. At least 2 I think (Hope:-)) I hope you get everything you and your husband needs x Take care Mrsl x
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
20 Apr 09
I have at least five I know of. The rest could but they are stretched thin as it is. In others they want to but are unable to do much.
• United States
18 Apr 09
We travel a lot so we have to rely on each other most of the time. Sometimes we meet people that we can trust and feel grateful for their help.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
19 Apr 09
That is so nice to know. Sometimes when you travel, you really do not know because you may see that person just that one time that helped you out and you want to do something for them.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
18 Apr 09
I am glad that you have this support group of friends. all of my life my women friends have been so supportive of me. I don't know what I would do without them. They have been there for me when I gave birth and at all happy and sad occasions in my life. I love them all dearly. Ther is nothing like a good women friend that you can laugh and cry with. I give thanks for my friends who have stayed with me in my life.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
18 Apr 09
I was always asked why do you not do this or why not help any that it floored me that there were people who actually did not have to be forced to help. I am so thankful for them and that they have helped me.
@KrauseHome (35514)
• United States
18 Apr 09
Sorry to hear about your husband, and I will be Praying for him that God will touch him and for people to be around to continually want to help out as you need them as well. We have a couple of people around here we can count on when in need as well, and it has been a Blessing for us as well. When I had a lot of major medical issues and ended up in the hospital 4 1/2+ yrs. ago we had a chance to really see who our friends were then for sure. I know that when you really need someone, and have someone who can help it is an encouragement and a Blessing for sure.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
18 Apr 09
It sure is. I really appreciate the help, and I know that even though I do try, there are some things that I cannot do on my own.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
18 Apr 09
I have lived around friends that have helped me I even had one that did my washing when I couldnt get up. And am sure here that the Bishops wife would help us out if need be. And her kids are our babysitter. which helps when Chey needs a play date. Nice to have friends around!
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
18 Apr 09
It sure is. I have so many and they are always ready to help those in need.
@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
18 Apr 09
I'm generally the one they call when they need help, but after my surgery last August, one friend picked me up from the hospital and another helped me do a little shopping (oh, my car went into the car hospital while I was in the people hospital) so when I got out I was without a car for a week.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
18 Apr 09
Nice to know your friends can reciprocate.
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@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
18 Apr 09
I have a few that have been really good with helping with my son. I would love to do something for them, but don't know what. I would love to be able to show them how much I appreciate them, because I feel more of a burden asking for help, and they don't make me ask. They just call and tell me when they are available and when they are coming over. So far it has worked out pretty good.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
23 Apr 09
That is what I feel, that I cannot do as much as I like. I do put a little money in the offering that is supposed to help those and I will do a few things, but it is nothing compared to what my friends can do.
@dragon54u (31638)
• United States
18 Apr 09
You are very blessed to have such good friends! I don't have any friends here, I've been here for nearly 2 years but haven't gotten out and really met anyone. My neighbors and I speak with each other but we don't visit each other in our houses. But I know they would take care of my dogs if I was away. I probably should make some friends but I've never had a problem with being alone and I never get lonely.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
18 Apr 09
It is my friends at church. Except for the lady across the lane, and a friend on the same block, I know hardly any on my street. And it is not the loneliness, it is just that my husband needing help, and they learning about it.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
18 Apr 09
thats so thoughtful of them!!!since i have this balance problem my family and church members do help out when they see that i have aneed.(without me ever asking them)
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
18 Apr 09
That is so nice that you have all those friends that can help you. We never know how fortunate that we are.
@suzzy3 (8357)
23 Apr 09
What wonderful friends you have ,they really adore you .I too have been blessed with wonderful friends we play to our strenghs one of my friends has trouble reading and writing so i am going into town with her as her husband is working nights at the moment and her older daughter is away at the weekend with friends.She wants to buy some underwear so I am going to make sure she gets the right size and help her at the bank.I have been helping another dear friend with her son as he has a cronic disease epilepsy and is autistic ,going to hospital appointments with her to listen as she is normally so tired,I also take her for long walks in the country which she really likes,we have lunch.I might say they both looked after me through my period of depression then my bad back.Always clean clothes for all of us and my husband always had a cooked meal while I recovered so there is nothing I would not do for both of them.There is a saying "friends are the leaves of life" I have never heard a truer saying.love and best wishes suzzy3.
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
19 Apr 09
Good friends are beyond value. My Hubby was very sick and had to have heart bypass I was working full time and without friends to help me I would have had to quit my job and we would have been in even worse shape. Bless your friends.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
19 Apr 09
That is very nice of them to help you like that. We have a few people who will help us also, but we hardly ever ask.
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• United States
19 Apr 09
Yes I do have a best friend that helps out when I need it. I actually have 2 of them. My first best friend is my husband and I know that sounds cheesy but let me explain why. When I met him I was legally blind.( still am) that brought along ALOT of baggage for him. On top of that 3 years prior I was in a very abussive relationship so that added even more to the baggage load. He has to drive me every where and on most days read everything for me. I do alot on my own and I can read and see things just not the way you all see it. I can read large lettering and if i fix my eyes just right I can see on the computer. He does so much for me to help me in my situation. He is also a reverand and has been helping me work on my religion because to be honest lossing my vision at 17 and being in a bad relationship I lost all faith. With the other part of the baggage he delt with the night terrors the fear and me jumping from him. He alos helped me through all the things that come from being in a situation like that. He helped me learn not all men are like that. I truly believe GOD sent him to me. My second best friend Nat I have known since 8th grade. She has always been there for me. Anything I needed she would help me get. It saddens me because we now live over 1400 miles apart but we are there for each other still. There are times we call just to cry on one anothers should so to speak. It is great having friends you can rely on. suspenseful, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I wish you all the luck and I will pray for your husband. I am glad you have such great friends to be there in your alls time of need. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
19 Apr 09
No actually I don't have any friends but those I have online. But my mom is who takes me to the store 99% of the time when we need to go. I have learned not to rely on others because it never does me any good and it sets me up to be disappointed.
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• China
18 Apr 09
yes,I always have some frides to help me.
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• China
20 Apr 09
I just want to say: good luck! thanks to all our friends!