how far do you think hes right???

Hello my friend riyasam Ji, You have much more tolerance . I would just quote last evening incidence, when our maid-servant turned very late for leaning our utensils. It was dark at night. She had to go back at least one km. in dark. My hubby shouted at and warned her ( She is un-married 24 yrs old) not to com e into dark, as tehre are many Romeos all over. I would wish, if those people restrict there behaviour in closed door than watched by others. May God bless you and have a great time.

Since it was his cousin, he probably had no dirty thoughts. You may have over reacted but it would bother me too. I think I would have said something to her though.

Whether or not someone will judge you for being overreacting strongly depends on their personal values. Though some people might be ok with it other people will have a harder time when they witness such a thing. As long as we respect each others opinions, especially in a relationship, I see nothing wrong with having your boundaries. I have no clue how close he is with this cousin and how normal it is in his family to be so close to each other. This can also depend per culture.

Eeeeeeeek…legs on the lap! One of the commonest ways of enjoying a girl’s touch without seeming too obvious. Your instincts are correct Riya, he is guilty of what you think of to be and I am glad you blew the fuse and just did not look the other way. Next time this guy would remember this incident and have a control on himself.

Riya! I think you were right on your part and your objections were valid. I do not think that you over-reacted and did something wrong. I hope after your intervention on that day your hubby's cousin would have not dared to attempt a similar act.

In some states in the U.S. it is legal to marry a first cousin. In the Navaho Nation it is not culturally accepted to marry in the FAMILY of either your father or mother, or their parents - so you are not able to marry within 4 clans, even IF they are other wise unrelated.

I think in this matter different peopel have different opinions. Personally i also hate flirting.I think it was too much and for you it was natural to react.No I think you were absolutely right. there should be a limit to everything.

I too would have drawn the line there. That's really pushing it, especially if one party, or even both parties are married. I have male friends, and would not dream of putting my feet in their laps. I hope that no woman would put their feet in Mike's and if they did, that he would have the good sense to know them back onto the floor.

Oh, I'm sorry but I don't know how to react. ... I'm being insensitive now.LOL

Hi, riyasam! Do you mean your boyfriend/husband? Yes, it is totally unacceptable for his cousin to have both of her legs on his lap. That is nasty. She is blood and they are relatives. That makes it even worse. You had every right to overreact, especially if this is your man. What was he thinking???

Hi riya! I don't think you over reacted and it's probably normal for you to act that way, so they would never do it again, I think! I am close to my cousins both male and female and we do muck around with each other, but we have never done such a thing and have only put arms around each others shoulders at the most. I would be upset and angry if I saw the same situations happen too.

Since it was his cousin I don't think I would have reacted that way. I may have been not liking it, but it is his family. Now if it was anyone else I would have blew a fuse as well!

upto some extent hes is right because he is thikinng according to the ordinary man's nature. whereas his cousin really abuses him of watching their best program. this ins not righi. but what we will do. this all depends on the person's maintality.

It's a woman's instinct, if you feel there is something fishy about it, then it is your right to tell him so. And for that cousin of him, she should draw the line too. They're not kids anymore just playing, they are already adult, and must act like one. What would her reaction be if it is her boyfriend in that position, or it's her boyfriend who saw them that way. It is fine that you told that to your boyfriend, now he knows what to do or not to do.

I don't know how the he is that you are referring too, but you are right it is not appropriate behaviour in a working environment.

You were wrong. You should have told the little tart to get off of him. She was the one making the wrong move and acting in an appropriate manner. He did nothing wrong. You did not overeact, you blamed the wrong person. I would have told her to get off as well. Oh but then he could have told her to get off, and explain to her that he could get fired or something like that or the boss will come in any time now and not let her come there again.

when men are caught in the act they are quick to find excuses. Men are known to have split tongues! They think differently and doesn't speak the same language as women so you need to handle them with great care. Show him that he don't deserve you. Walk out as your eyes are no false witness.

Nope.....I don't think you overreacted. I think there is a place to draw the line....I recently attended a wedding of a cousin I hadn't seen in quite a while...I have a cousin that is the uncle to the bride and at the reception he came up to me and laid one on me....a kiss that is and I was so embarassed I didn't talk to him the rest of the time....so I don't blame you...I would have had the same reaction.

I don't think you over reacted and you got the point across and he is behaving.Maybe you had to do it or he would continue to do this.Good gob

how far ,when it comes to flirting.