Your Cheating Heart

@acekala (163)
United States
April 18, 2009 9:25pm CST
Have you ever been cheated on. If so how did you feel and more importantly how did you cope and get thru it. Recently I was cheated on by not only my girlfriend but my best friend. Needless to say it was emotionally painful. Im intrested in seeing what other people do to cope and survive heartache. Thank you in advance for your responses.
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@shmeedia (1042)
• Canada
19 Apr 09
i was once cheated on by my boyfriend and then right after, by my best friend....in terms of our friendship. she actually tried to cheer me up by taking me out after the breakup, and shortly backstabbed me....i hadn't known it had already been going on at the time she was trying to cheer me up and be 'friendly'. this was a huge blow. bad enough to lose my bf of 4 years, but to then lose a friend who should have been there to support me?! awful. my pain was deep, but i think what helped get through it quickly was knowing that these people were worthless terrible human beings! if they had kept a shred of decency, i would have felt more down than i was, thinking 'they are good people, how could they treat me that way?'. instead, i just realized i shouldn't mourn after JERKS! that isn't to say it didn't still hurt me. it took me months to really start getting over both breakups/cheatings. the only thing i could do to cope was spend time with family, and REAL friends. keep myself busy doing random things that had nothing to do with either my ex or ex-friend. eventually the pain got duller and duller. your's will too!!!
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@acekala (163)
• United States
19 Apr 09
Wow you really don't realize how small the world is till you ask. Your situation sounds like it was very rough. Im now having my faith restored that in time everything will be fine though. TY for sharing your experience with me
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@shmeedia (1042)
• Canada
28 Apr 09
you're welcome!! always nice to feel we are not the only one going through certain things!!
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@acekala (163)
• United States
3 May 09
things have been a lil hectic and your right. TY for your response.
@ericajoyce (1749)
• Philippines
19 Apr 09
Hello acekala. Im sorry to hear that. I was also cheated on. My ex-boyfriend cheated on me. It was the most painful experience that I had ever felt. I felt that no one will ever take me seriously. I also felt that my life will never be the same again, but when I started praying more, hunging with my family and friends, and started to accept that were no longer together and will never be, things started to change. I had a new outlook in life. Just keep yourself busy and surround yourself with positive people and always pray. God will help you whatever situation you are facing.
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@acekala (163)
• United States
19 Apr 09
God has been a very positive influnce that without I don't think I could have made it. I know time heals all wounds. Forgiving is very hard and I'm sure in time I'll be able to that to. Ty for your post
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
19 Apr 09
Yes I have been cheated on and yes you will survive, it is an awful feeling though and the sad part is when you are cheated on by a good friend it ruins your trust in people probably for the rest of your life. Because if you trusted a best or good friend and then they cheat on you, how on earth do you know who to trust in the future..I was cheated on by my best friend and to this day I never trust anyone 100%...human nature is weak when it comes down to what people want.
@acekala (163)
• United States
19 Apr 09
Thank you for your response and I know I'll survive. I believe your right it does hurt more when the person that cheats is not only your lover but your good friend to. And trust is going to be an issue for sure. I don't think all women are bad however I'm going to be alot more cautious moving forward.
@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
4 May 09
I too have been cheated on and it does hurt. We both did some horrible things to each other, and are trying to make it work again. It isn't easy at all. One of the hardest parts is that evey time something doesn't go right it seems that one of us will tend to bring it up. The one thing that helps though is knowing that we love each other reguardless of anything else. IF it wasn't for the love we have for each other and the faith that we have that it can work I don't think that we could make it. (I know I am taking liberties in what he might be thinking lol but thats part of the faith) I do believe that it is possible to get through anything weather you stay together or not. A big part is forgiveness.