would you leave your new born baby a sleep alone while your out of the house?

South Korea
April 20, 2009 8:59am CST
i have a friend who has a 2 kids,but every time her new born baby was asleep she leave it alone at home and she going somewhere like she went to market to buy something and it take an hour before she can got home,her reason is her baby will sleep 4 hours straight and she dont worry for that, but i can't ever imagine to leave my baby alone while full a sleep,even i really need something its better i cring my baby out with me than leaving it alone./
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@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Wow. I think that even though she is your friend you should turn her in or make her stop doing that. Anything could happen in that hour. Her house could catch fire, the baby could stop breathing for some reason. I would never leave my kids alone in the house like that. Too many bad things could happen in that little bit of time. That is very irresponsible for a parent.
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• South Korea
21 Apr 09
i been told her so many times not only once but she just laughing like she don't care, i can't speak anymore.i just hold my breath and told my self just dont follow make your own business.this is really not so good idea to leave the baby alone.while full a sleep.
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@MsTickle (25014)
• Australia
23 Apr 09
Excuse me for butting in but I totally agree with you reporting this woman. He attitude and he actions add up to total neglect. She knows her baby? What if something happened to her, the mother and shje was in an accident and injured and delayed? At least someone should be appointed to look out for the infant. To take off like that when the baby is asleep makes no sense at all. She should go to the market when the baby is awake for gosh sakes and take her along. It really is your duty to look out for the little girl if her mother won't. You really do need to report her to the authorities.
• United States
20 Apr 09
Nope. I never left the house when any of them were sleeping while they were little. As it is now I will sometimes go right out front when they are asleep but I usually leave the door open and the baby is usually right on the floor asleep during the day. At night I dont go out at all if my hubby isnt here.
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• South Korea
20 Apr 09
me too,even to throw the carbage if one of my kids asleep i dont go out with out any adults inside the house,this not really good example for other mother,i already told her many times,but seems she have her own world,dont tend to follow other persons advise its because she said she knows her baby.but its not reason why.
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@bellaofchaos (11553)
• United States
20 Apr 09
I would never leave my child or baby in the house alone.. What if something happens to them and they need a hospital or ambulance. I know that you're not in the states but I have to say if you're friend was in the states this would be consider child neglect and endangerment and she could lose her child from this if someone reported her. Unfortunately I don't know the laws of your country. you might want to look into it though.
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@fwangaa (3058)
• China
21 Apr 09
children - one children with a dog along the street. how fun it is !
i don't have kid. but i have i think i can go out with my kid in bed. i don't think there not safe for a kid in bed if he can't move out off the bed. when i go out, i must be uneasily. so i will come back home immediately if i finished my work. i have a brother who only seven year's old. i usually let him to buy children food by himself. at the beginning i also uneasily,i am afaid some one will take him off. but when i see him come back safely, i am very happily. so i always let him to go out for his food. and i don't feel uneasily when he go out. pardon
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• South Korea
21 Apr 09
as what i have said i been told her so many times but seems she doesn't bother to listen my advice,sometime she stayed for an hour or she going to downtown to buy something.imagine going to downtown by bus it takes an hour,and the baby sleep alone at home, we are in korea and this is not the law problem ofcourse if what ever happen the law will blame the baby's mother, but this is not a law problem this is parenting problem,this is the way how we care our kids. this is not easy to leave your kids alone,even she is still a baby and can't move alone but we don't know what will might happend.
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• United States
21 Apr 09
fwang - I understand that in your country there are no laws preventing someone from leaving a child alone but just because something is not against the law does not mean that it is right to do it. There are plenty of things that can happen. The baby could suffocate. The house could catch on fire. The baby could roll off the bed and get seriously hurt. As far as you letting your little brother out to buy his own food. He could get stolen by someone. He could get robbed. He could get hit by a car. And if anything does happen to him while you let him out on his own it will be your fault!
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Hello cassandradab! I don't have a baby yet but I have a sister whom I told care of when she was still a baby. My mom is always busy so I was left alone with my sister, taking care of her. Although I really want to go out, I can't imagine leaving her alone at home. What if something happen like there's a fire? What if there are some snakes or something. There are many what ifs but one thing is for sure, "the baby can't take care of herself"
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• South Korea
27 Apr 09
seems you are a good sister,i know you will be agood mom someday.
• United States
27 Apr 09
thank you cassandra..
@liquorice (3902)
21 Apr 09
No no no no no! I could never do this. The baby might have always slept for 4 hours straight so far, but what if she goes out and it wakes up? The poor thing would be crying away, potentially for hours, and nobody would be there to comfort him/her. S/he would get very disturbed and this may have a bad effect physically or psychologically. And what if something happened to the baby (it got sick or somebody broke into the house for example). Ok, these things are unlikely, but not impossible, and if you're not there then the outcome could be so much worse. When my daughter was tiny the most I did when she was asleep was leave her in the house for two minutes while I went to buy an ice cream from the van that was right outside the house. And during those two minutes I felt so stressed and guilty!! I know that everyone's different, and perhaps when you're onto your second child you're a bit more relaxed, but this is too relaxed in my opinion. I don't get how the mother can do this and not be at all worried.
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• South Korea
24 Apr 09
why does kind of parents exist?sometimes i cant understand why they just leave their kids like nothing for them. this really bad to think how come they just enjoy going out while have a little one alone maybe they just think about their self and never think that she already a mom,yes you are right this kind of person make me sick too.
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@liquorice (3902)
24 Apr 09
Yes, you're right, I don't see how she can actually enjoy going out knowing that the baby is all alone and maybe in danger. The few times that I went out and left my baby with a relative it was difficult enough. I was still worried all the time, even though she was someone I knew and trusted!
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@luvmysons (497)
• United States
20 Apr 09
That is so dangerous to do.. I never leave my kids home alone.. Even though her baby is sleeping anything can happen.. What if she starts choking or something.. What if the baby wakes up while she is out and is screaming and crying for her.. That is just too risky to do.. If she was my friend I would tell her that she is crazy for doing that
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• South Korea
21 Apr 09
yes you got it right,but seems our advise is not taken she just smile or she just laughing and say never mind she will be fine.thats so crazy idea,my mom told me that she never leaves a alone while a sleep.its very dangerous for the kids alone.
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• South Korea
21 Apr 09
to anitas, thanks for your response ye i know this is a irresponsible way of parenting style, there are lots of woman want to have a baby but they can't.i even can't say she have a mind problem its because i think she is healthy enough,just she needs some advises or just one lesson,
@toosh21 (800)
• Australia
22 Apr 09
This is totally unacceptable! Your friend is neglecting her child & should be reported...I would never, ever leave one of my children alone just because they were asleep and I needed to go somewhere!
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• South Korea
27 Apr 09
you know what?if you are friends and you are the one who reported her doing you might make a big fire between you and her, if she doesn't want to listen you advise whats the next?she can be a good enemy for you.so let her be what she want to be,the important i give her a ton of advises.and i can't change my hair color if i dont make it.
@dlr297 (5267)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I would never leave a baby alone too many things could happen, what if their was a fire. What if she was in a accident and did not get back home. This woman should be reported to child services. These children are being put in danger, and she needs to learn how to be a better parent.
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• South Korea
30 Apr 09
yes you got it right.sometimes this problem are totaly not acceptable.kids need to be care for.not to leave nd neglect them.
@chastity7 (104)
• United States
21 Apr 09
All I can say is, this girl is lucky I don't know her or where she lives. I would turn her in to the authorities in a red hot minute. It is never under any circumstance, ok to leave your baby alone in a house. What if, God forbid, the baby smothered, has your friend ever heard of SIDS? or if she/ he fell off the bed, choked on something, woke up scared becuase mom wasn't there? tried to climb on something, pulled something over on themselves, the list goes on and on. I would tell this friend point blank, this is dangerous to do and I will not stand by and let you endanger this child. That poor little baby cannot speak for itself, and if you are allowing this to go on, while not doing it yourself directly, shame on you! what if you know she is doing it and something bad does happen to him/her? you will feel guilty. IF nothing else, offer to watch the child if she needs to run errands and noone else will, at least they will be safe. I lost my son at birth to a rare tumor, not my fault by any means, but it kinda makes you appreciate life and the children you are entrusted with. SO it really pi$$es me off when people are so stupid to do somehting like this. this woman ought not be allowed to have kids and should be forced to have her tubes tied and her child taken away. I will pray for the safety of this child..
• South Korea
23 Apr 09
im so sorry to heard your story.i talked to her not only twice but so many times.i gave her so many advises sometimes i gave her some tips how to be a good wife and a good mother,but seems she is acting the same.she can't blame me what ever happend./i think i just did enough what i need to do so.i can't drive her life because i need to make my own too.
@savypat (20248)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I could have never left my new born alone, but the baby is most likely safe as long as nothing happens to delay her. In my mind it is still not a very wise thing to do
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• South Korea
27 Apr 09
sometimes kids if they are wet or hungry they will cry,even you tell me the baby is very good and not a kind of crying baby but we dont know what might be happend its better to be careful than to be careless.
@Crysi23 (515)
• United States
21 Apr 09
No, I would never leave a new born baby a lone a sleep no matter what. That made me cringe when I read your discussion. I always make sure that someone is home with her before I go out. Things can happen to them even when you are home. I couldn't imagine leaving the baby a lone.
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• South Korea
27 Apr 09
yes i can't imagine if ever there is any accident might happend whom she can blame and small kids are not ideal to leave alone at home.what she think? she just put his dirty in the toilet after leave it, kids is not a toy eaither not a food if you doesn't like leave it.don't evr try to leave your kids someday.
• United States
21 Apr 09
How happy will that mom be when she returns home to find baby is tangled in its blanket and has suffocated? Or maybe she has an older crib handed down through generations with just enough room for baby to get its head through the spindle? Even babies surprise us with sleep schedules - awaking when we absolutely do not expect it. Mom is a liability to her children and should be turned over to Children's Services if a good talking to doesn't bring her around. She's endangering her child's life.
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• South Korea
24 Apr 09
yes kids waking up in different time,we dont know when they got wet and got hangry.we must to be responsible enough if have kids,.this not a doll to leave it beside and don't care for it if we are busy.
@Jae2619 (1485)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Oh heck No. I never did this, nor do I do it when now that my kids are little older. I find that a very bad choice, but I hear about mothers doing it all the time. Not to long ago, around where I live a mother left her 3 month old baby and 2 year old sleeping while she took her oldest to school and her house caught on fire, thankfully the neighbors got in the house to get the babies out before the fire got to bad, so they were ok. She was arrested and charged with child endangerment, along with neglect. I always think about the what if's when it comes to my children, maybe i'm over protective but I wouldn't know what to do if I made a horrible choice and something terrible happened to my children.
• South Korea
24 Apr 09
thats the great lesson for her.i hope my friend will wake up from the stupidity that she is acting now.this is reallt dangerous for the newborn kid to leave alone.yes fire is one of the one risky accident might happend./
@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Aw.. I can't do that. Although I know my kid sleeps straight for 4 hours or more, I always check up on her if I would leave her on the bed like every 15 minutes. What if something happens to their house? A burglar or fire..?
• South Korea
24 Apr 09
yes sort of she don't care.i can't imagine what she will do after if her baby got into an accident.s stupid mom.
@Ronina (185)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
For me, i won't leave my baby alone especially a new born. I rather ask somebody to fetch or buy the things i needed than left the baby alone or maybe I can ask my mother-in law to look for my baby while i'm out of the house.
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• South Korea
21 Apr 09
yes its better to ask help than leave your baby unattended.
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@jcj_111776 (3221)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
Definitely a big NO. Accidents happen all the time, and sometimes no matter how careful you are, bad things can still happen. I just gave birth to a baby girl and she's already a week old. I never even leave her alone with her 6 year old brother unsupervised. At this point, I am very aware that my son might be feeling a little jealous of the attention his new baby sister is receiving. I don't even leave her alone inside our bedroom. You should have a serious talk with your friend. What she's doing is very unsafe. Babies should be watched all the time. They can't protect themselves. That's why they have their parents, especially their mommies to do that for them. She should not reason out that it's ok for her to leave her baby alone in the house for an hour because her baby sleeps 4 hours straight. For one thing, her baby might suffocate from the blankets or any other items inside her crib. Another thing is, the baby might choke on his/her own vomit. Sometimes even with a successful burping after feeding, babies still spit up some milk. And it's very dangerous if the baby doesn't just spit up some milk but vomits, and the baby is still lying flat on his/her back. It's a high possibility that they might choke on their own vomit. And some babies unfortunately die from this situation. If your friend need to do some errands, she should think of ways how to do it WITHOUT ENDANGERING her own child.
• South Korea
21 Apr 09
this is really a good response seems you talk from your own experience,yes you got i right, i have two kids a 6 year old and 3 year old but i never leave them alone even they getting bigger,if i throw the carbage i always take them with me,yes i agreed with you small babies are more high risk than big one, so they need our attention and more careful. don't ever left you new born baby with your 6 year old kid thats really dangerous, maybe he will carry the baby or put somethin on the face.
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@wavelander (1530)
• Portugal
20 Apr 09
Never. Having a baby isn't like having a dog.
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• South Korea
21 Apr 09
yes, you got it right,they are not a baby to leave them unattended
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@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
20 Apr 09
That is too risky. What if the house caught on fire or a burglar kidnapped the baby. If my son is napping the only thing i will go outside for is mail. Even that makes me worry leaving him alone.
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• South Korea
21 Apr 09
yes very risky,sometimes those problem happened,next time don't leave you baby alone its not good idea.its better to bring him
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• United States
20 Apr 09
I don't have any kids, but I would never leave the house a baby or even younger kids. There are too many things that can happy when you leave kids alone. If babies are asleep I wait until they wake up to leave, or just wake them up and bring them with me.
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• South Korea
21 Apr 09
yes don't leave your children unattended, even they are full a sleep but sometimes we can't avoid any accident.its better to be careful
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@marguicha (81768)
• Chile
20 Apr 09
I wouldn´t even think for a second of doing that! So many things can happen! It´s not only whether the baby will cry or not: babies cry. It is that they can even die without you knowing. Even very little babies can turn around, they can vomit and be smothered by it... Who knows... It´s not as easy to go shopping with a baby than to go shopping by oneself. But if your friend wanted it easy, she should not have had children. I´m sorry, I should´t have spoken my mind.
• South Korea
21 Apr 09
yes i agreed with you accident may comes in anytime,we dont know what wil be happend because they are an angel so we have to keep them safe,
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