I'd Like To Thank All Of Who Responded To My Discussion About Gracie Being Gone

@CatsandDogs (13964)
United States
April 20, 2009 2:22pm CST
and with the top to the bottom of my heart! I didn't expect to get so many responses so instead of commenting on each and every one of them with thank you's, I thought I'd do it this way. Hope you don't mind! It's just that I'm wiped out. I've been walking around doing things in a zombie like state. I feel so numb. I haven't cried since the day she died because I can't. However, I'll be ok so don't worry. It just takes me time to get past such a thing even though I was prepared or knew it was coming by the way she was acting. I loved her, LOVE her and always will and she'll be in my heart forever and ever. There's a huge void in my home right now and hubby and I both feel it. Like they say, time heals all wounds and it'll heal ours too.... just have to give it time. I will be responding to your discussions from time to time, I'm not going anywhere, just that it may be a few or it may be a lot, depending on how I'm feeling on that particular moment. Again, thank you very much for showing how much you care!! All of you are wonderful friends!
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19 responses
• United States
21 Apr 09
You are very welcome. Time will ease your pain but never the love from your heart. I know as I have lost a total of 16 pets during my lifetime. It is to be expected when our pets have such a short life span that we will have to suffer the pain of losing them. I do not know how many times I have said never again no more pets and then some new little animal comes along and takes a place in my heart.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Gosh, having pets all of my life, I couldn't begin to count how many I've had or even our family has had but in the 17 years that I've been married, we've lost 10 pets. It never gets easier to accept but we do learn to live without them being with us. I think that the fact that we know we'll get to see them on the other side eventually does give some peace of mind. It won't stop me from continuing to help the others though because there's so many out there that are in desperate need of a good home.
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• United States
21 Apr 09
Amen to that!
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@carmella (496)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I am so sorry about the loss of your precious baby cat. My Callie is so precious and dear to hubby and I we don't know what we would do without her here. I read your other post, but not sure I ever posted, but wanted you to know that you and Gracie had been in my prayers, and you will be in my prayers in the days to come. God Bless, Carmella Mae
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 09
Sweetie, first of all I am so sorry and sad over this I never got that Discussion in my Mail, so please accept my apology for not being here for you I am now sad to that I wasn't but I did not get that Mail in my Box and you know if I did I would have responded there and then Gracie is still on Gissi's Site so please Sweetheart will you send me a Photo and she will be going onto the Memory Page Sweet big hugs to you and remember she will now be over the Rainbow Bridge and she will be just fine no more pain Love to you Sweet
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Gracie had to be with me all the time - no matter what I was doing, even when I was up on a ladder painting.
It's ok gabs. I don't get all of everybody's discussions either so don't worry, I do understand. You responded when you saw it so it's the thought that counts. I'm attaching an older photo of Gracie but it's not that terribly old, about 2 years ago to show how she was with me all the time no matter what I was doing, she had to be with me. Another thing, her eyes never came out right in the pictures and I never knew why. She had the most beautiful eyes that I've ever seen. They were a deep periwinkle blue, gorgeous! I used to call her my baby blue eyes. She knew I was talking to her too! Gosh I miss her so much. My avatar is her too....
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 09
Sweetheart I know you do miss and I know the Pain but just think she is there with all the Pets that have left us and believe me a lot have left me who I know will look after her I shall put her on the Memory Page in Gissi's Site the next couple of Days Sweetie Love you and thinking of you
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 09
Sweetie the Photo is not there
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• Canada
20 Apr 09
Your more then welcome hun, but I really feel that you don't need to thank me for being there ... that's what friends do! It is understandable that you will be out of sorts for a while, and we all know when your ready you'll come back more and more ... and we will all be waiting for you with open arms!
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
20 Apr 09
That is so kind of you to say PurpleTeddyBear! Thank you for being so understanding and a great friend!! And YES I DO need to thank you because it's the right thing to do but yet, I do understand what you're saying. Anyway, one day at a time.....
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• Canada
20 Apr 09
Exactly ... One day at a time my friend. Everyone is different in how they grieve, but just remember we are always here for you :)
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Awwww thank you!! ((((hugs))))
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Oh I am osrry cats, with not home computer I missed that discussion..Was Gracie of one your cats? I can't remember, but I understand, I am still sad about Zoe..Losing a beloved pet can be hard, they are wonderful friends..
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Yeah, she's my avatar, at least for now till I'm ready to let her go completely. She had a heart condition where her heart was enlarged which caused fluid to fill in her lungs. She was on medication for it but still, she was on borrowed time. When she quit eating, I knew the end was very near and even had my mom sit with her while I went to my dentist appointment. She's in a much better place, that's for sure but I miss her something awful just like you miss your Zoe. Consider yourself hugged sweetie!!
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• United States
22 Apr 09
Thanks cats, and consider yourself hugged too..I love Siamese cats, if I ever get a cat, it would be a Siamese or calico..
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
24 Apr 09
Have you ever had one before? The reason I ask is because females are very demanding, vocal and independent. They can be very loving but only on their terms. Now a male is very loving and is vocal as well. Males are much more loving than a female although a female can be loving but it has to be HER idea. lol Even though they both are independent, they grieve if the owner goes away. Sometimes one will cry and cry till you return and causes them to lose their voice for a few days. I so love their personalities and is why I love them and want another one some day but not right now because I have 9 cats now.
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• United States
21 Apr 09
Just try to take it easy for the next week or so. We'll be here whenever you need us. I know how hard this is, I've been there myself more times than I care to reflect on. Hang in there, while we all know the pain never goes away, it does get easier to cope with. Big hugs to you sweetie!
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Thank you AngryKittyMSV. You're very thoughtful and kind! I don't see an angry kitty talking here but a right nice one! I do appreciate your understanding however, I'll still be on here from time to time because it does help me through this awful grieving process.... all thanks to you and the others who are helping me through it. Hugs!!
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• United States
21 Apr 09
The cat in my avatar is my Zeke, sweetest thing you could ever meet, but one day - the first time I took his photo to use at mylot, he was in a mood and he growled - he was an AngryKitty! That's where I got the idea for the name. LOL He's actually really mellow and very nice, but on the rare occasion that he is angry he can really be something else!
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@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
20 Apr 09
No problem Cats, your friends understand and know how you feel. I am sure most of us are animals lovers and have been thru something like this. I still get teary eyed when I think of my Hobo. I think its probably even worse on you right now emotionally because of all the stress and stuff you have been thru and are still going thru. You have had more then your share of turmoil going on. Our animals give us unconditional love, its heartwrenching when they leave us. Take care Cats, your Gracie knows you love her and I believe that you will see and hold her again.
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• Canada
20 Apr 09
Well said Polly! I remember when we lost our family dog due to cancer after having her in the family for ten years, that was so hard! Even to this day if my mom and I see that certain breed of dog we get a little teary eyed and remember the one we lost!
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@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Thanks TeddyBear...
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
22 Apr 09
Aw sweets, I missed that discussion being MIA and all, but I did email you and lots of others and let them know about Gracie. No thanks necessary. I love you and I know how much Gracie meant to you and my heart was bleeding for you. It's good to see you in better spirits..................Higgles.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
22 Apr 09
She was my baby girl sparks. I knew she was leaving me but I tried and tried to help her stay but it wasn't my will but God's. She was my 5th female siamese and yet I can't seem to keep them alive. My first one got into my dad's truck engine.... the other three were hit by a car and now Gracie because of a heart defect. I'll have another one some day but not right now because I have 9 cats now and that's a bit much but I won't part from any of them but once the number starts to dwindle down some then maybe. We'll have to see how it goes but yeah, she was my baby blue eyes. I wish the pictures I took of her would show her beautiful eyes but for some unknown reason, they wouldn't come up. Her eyes were a dark periwinkle blue.... very very pretty. Gosh I miss her so much.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
22 Apr 09
I know you miss her MB. I can't imagine what you are feeling, but I do so sympathize. But isn't it comforting to come here, among people who do understand and share your feelings? Take heart sweets.........I know there's another Siamese just waiting to be with you when the time is right. Much love darlin'.
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@tammyr (5955)
• Etowah, Tennessee
21 Apr 09
of course we care! You are one of my favorite people in the whole world!! It will take time to heal the pain sweetie but it will heal and you will feel better. Of course you'll never forget her, and will always love her...but the pain will get easier to deal with. And you BETTER feel better by the first of the month!! I want you in a happy mood when we meet!!!!
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
21 Apr 09
LOL I see you care!! And I thank you for that!! I just wish I had the gumption to want to comment back to everybody that responded to my last discussion but it's just not in me to do it right now but I wanted to be sure that everybody knew that I do appreciate it though. Don't worry, I'll be me when we meet.... are you really coming?!
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@tammyr (5955)
• Etowah, Tennessee
21 Apr 09
you bet your bottom dollar I am!! First weekend of the month. If your on yim now we can talk more about it!! :D (((YOU)))
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@aweins (4203)
• India
24 Apr 09
hi dear friend, i thin you dont need to say thanx. anyone who owns a pet knows the love and affection of it and knows very well how it feels when we lost them. when we lost our dog, till today we daont have any. my hubby had a rotty in Mexico, i started a discussion also on that but i dont think anybody has found it that interesting to answer. i really know how you must be feeling. it is the same situation when i lost mine and i was missing him when ever i use to go becasue iuse to take him on every walk evry stroll , every where, even in my parlour. petsa become so very close to our hearrts that when they go they give a strong feeling of sadness to us. and we all miss them. it ok, you take your time, come back in full cheer and we all are here to talk and share our feelings again, we friends on mylot are so beautiful i feel, that i feel i can share each and everything very openly and they are true also becasue they share them same pain with you without being unnatural or dramatic.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
24 Apr 09
I just responded to your discussion on Rotts and I found that you responded to mine at the same time! How cool is that? Anyway, it's been a week ago today since my baby girl Gracie has passed. I'm doing ok or as best as I can for now. I know it'll get better in due time and I thank you for caring enough to respond!!
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@sunyisos (27)
• China
21 Apr 09
this is too bad,i hope you will not be too sad
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Thank you but I'll be ok. Knowing I'll see her on the other side eventually does give some relief to my pain.
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• India
21 Apr 09
mylot is for sharing so here is no need to saying thnks at all. If you start any good discussion then automatically, it is responded well by other members of mylot.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I still wanted to thank everyone for responding and showing that they care. I received so many responses that I couldn't answer them all and doing it this way, I'm able to reach them all, hopefully.
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• United States
20 Apr 09
Hi Cats; don't worry about it, you do what you have to do to get by each day and that's all any of us can do; I'm sure everyone will understand; My thoughts are with you still, take care!
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I knew you all would understand but wanted to give an update and a why I've not commented back to all who've responded to my discussion/post. I really didn't expect so many but was pleasantly surprised. I'll still be here, just can't say how much because I'm just not all there in my mind yet plus, been busy with cleaning the woods that's our backyard. Making it look decent so we can use it for picnics or 4-wheeling when we want but as it is, it's one huge mess but looking better and better all the time. Take care too!!
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@bunnybon7 (37163)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Apr 09
well dont you worry about us hon. we understand. i was such a wreck after Bear was gone. im praying for your grief to ease soon. hugs, Bon
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
20 Apr 09
I knew you would but still wanted everyone know that I did acknowledge your responses and that I DO really appreciate it very much. It's a great feeling knowing we have friends out there that care like that. Just wish we all were closer!! *grin*
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@Loen210 (1533)
• United States
8 May 09
Oh, sorry I missed when you posted about this difficult loss. I really reach out for you. Times like these (passing like Gracie) have been some of the hardest times for me. Hang in there, and I'm sure you'll always, always remember her. It' so important to think back so often, look at pictures, hear her beautiful voice/sounds in your mind. (((Hugs)))
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
8 May 09
Thank you so much Loen210. I do miss her but I know she's in a much better place than I am. She was sick for a good while and I did my best carrying for her and never could tell what was right and what was wrong because I'm not a doctor and couldn't do any blood work on her. She was my baby girl and she was with me all the time and now that she's gone, it's taking some getting used to. ((((hugs to you too!))))
@Loen210 (1533)
• United States
8 May 09
I'm glad you have the grave nearby. We try to take something in memory for passing also. For my first ever loss when I was a child, of my soulmate, golden retriever, we planted a weeping cherry tree, and put in her ashes with the roots. Unfortunately, the tree did not survive. But another of our lost ones, we planted another tree (w/o ashes) so we can see it small, but blooming each year. Blooming now! :o) Good night, and I wish many happy, memorable dreams with Gracie with you to come. :o)
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@mummymo (23707)
26 Apr 09
Of course we care! I am a great believer that you get back what you pay out! You are there for your friends and that is why they want to help when you need support! I know you will get through it in time and I think you are coping remarkable well! Hugs and love to you honey! xxx
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
27 Apr 09
I guess I was prepared from seeing the vet a month or two before and knowing what was going on. I did everything I knew to do to help her and some helped but only for a little while. I think God needed her home with Him for reasons I won't know until I see her again. I do miss her so darned much because she was with me all the time.
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@mummymo (23707)
27 Apr 09
Even when prepared it isn't easy sweety! I know you'll get through it! Big Hugs xxxx
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@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
21 Apr 09
You take all the time you need sweetie. I haven't cried much since Fluffy left us either, so you're not alone there. Just remember that Gracie and Fluffy are frolicking together over the Rainbow Bridge and neither one is hurting anymore. I'm sending lots and lots of big hugs and love to you honey.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
21 Apr 09
No doubt you're right, both of them are up there having a good ole time with their new bodies and feeling nothing but happiness but gosh, the heartache that they leave behind.... whew! We'll get to see them some day and glory be when that day comes! (((((HUGS)))))
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@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
21 Apr 09
We understand - just take your time CatsandDogs - we will be here waiting for you. In the meantime we will be praying for you and your hubby. You will not be alone. Hugs xxx
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Oh thank you for your sweet words abbey! It's very much appreciated!! I know Gracie is at peace and has a new body and is very happy but deg gone, I miss her something awful! She was the highlight of my every day. I'll see her again some day, God willing....
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
20 Apr 09
most of us have been there at some points in our lives, give yourself lots of pampering and take it easy on yourself, there's lots of time to come back here, and HERE isn't that important in the scheme of things.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
21 Apr 09
You are right, we all have been there at one point or another but just wanted everyone to know that I haven't forgotten them because I didn't comment on their responses and that I do appreciate their concern and all. I didn't expect to get so many and was pleasantly surprised that that many really did care.
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