Should I tell my crush how much I like him?

Philippines
April 22, 2009 3:04am CST
I have a crush on 1 of my officemates.He's fun to talk to and smart.I am beginning to get very,VERRY interested on him.Should I tell him I much I like him?
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21 responses
@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
15 Aug 09
I am sure since you started this discussion 4 months ago, you have progressed further with this one, and decided to tell him you liked him, or felt it better to wait. Because when it is someone you work with, it could end up backfiring if things do not work out and make for a very rough situation indeed. Personally if I were you I would make sure and Test the waters a little. Find out more about them. Do they have someone in their life, see if they are interested in you, etc. Because if you make a move and they are not interested, or things do not work out it could be something that could become a problem for sure.
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@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
28 Apr 10
You said it Krause, Since this involves your workplace, I would totally avoid this situation all together. Get your feelings in check immediately, while weighing the consequences. This is your workplace. Very important stuff. never Ever date a co-worker. Rule number one. You may live to regret it. If I were you I would totally forget the whole idea. Sometime just keeping the idea a fantasy is better. Can make for easier mornings, getting out of bed to go to work, lol but I would not recommend even dating a co worker, much less going off telling some guy at work how crazy you are for him. Not a good idea. Find a nice guy outside of the workplace, or talk to him, get his reaction and if it is a go, start looking for another job. Better now than later, when you two have a falling out and you still have to spend eight hours a day together, at work, when really you'd both rather be on the opposite sides of the earth.
@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
Haha! Well you can tell him how much you like him but he won't believe it anyway. Guys aren't used to be told how much they are liked but when that happens, we just shrug it off because we're thinking it's just some kind of a joke. That's the problem with us, we can't detect. Maybe we just don't assume that it's true because it's quite unbelievable. We're quite cautious about being the subject of a prank or what we locally call "good time". I don't discourage you, so you may try.
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
22 Apr 09
Modstar, you ARE my crush!
@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
I believe you. lol!
@ced_cap (207)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
girl, just say it. it's hard to keep it coz it might cause your heart explode. but also get ready for his reaction. it depends on how he's gonna take it. some guys just "huh, okey" but some just walk away and don't wanna talk to you anymore. what could that possibly mean? but, anyway, at least you speak it out and lessen some burden in your heart.
@ced_cap (207)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
by the way it's been 8 months. any progression???
@mizstress (719)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
your allowed to use your right! hehehe but first grab some/more courage before doing that and be ready for the consequences.. one things for sure! he surely will noticed you everytime you bumped into each other in the elevator or pantry! hehehe!! goodluck to you and may you have great positive response with your announcement! ps.. dont announce it in front of your other officemates.. you know why
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
hi mizstress...yes I do need more courage.only my female officemates know about my mad crush about this guy.they encouraged me to actually go for it.I'm just so scared of the rejection.
@jshekhar (1563)
• India
22 Apr 09
Hello friend, I know that it is easier said than done but you do not have to hold back your feelings. If your crush is single then you want to tell him now itself, rather than hold your words back and wait for him to start going around with someone, isn't it? all the best
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
hi jshekha..thanks for replying.I'm scared of being rejected by him.I experienced rejection before and let me tell you,it was very painful.I don't want to experience that feeling again.
• Australia
13 Mar 11
You should definitely tell your crush that you like him! I spent two years working with a woman whom I had an enormous crush on; and I never said anything. Some years later - after she had left the company, gotten married, and had a child - we bumped into each other. And she told me that SHE had had a crush on ME; but that she never said anything about it because she wasn't sure if I liked her too. So, as you can see, it is better to give it a go - because you just never know what opportunities your depriving yourself of.
@SHAMRACK (8532)
• India
25 Apr 10
Dear friend, I do hope to have crush on others is not offensive. But as for example if I feel a crush on you but you have crush on other. I mean that we should be sure to know that if that man have any other crush so that our crush could be informed or told without any hesitation. Moreover it is just words that is spend for getting a final answer from your crush. Also I wish if a crush is achieved better it be ever lasted. Wish you all the best to get a positive reply from your crush.
• India
5 Apr 10
Hello This discussion is one year old, i am sure you have told him, so what was the result, share it here, if you like... Thanks for this nice post, cheers Happy easter Prof
@ced_cap (207)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
by the way, it's been 8 months...any progression?
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
23 Nov 09
Hello coco. I think that you need to tell him that you like him in case you will have the chance to develop a relationship. If you keep it to yourself, how come he knows about your crush on him? There is no need to worry about failure, as failure is considered to be the mother of success. It is now eight months since you posted this discussion. I am wondering how you have been doing with each other. I wish you good luck, coco.
@busky5 (3166)
• Thailand
25 Jul 09
Sometime you will impress someone because he funny took and smart, but someday you know for long time.You will feel normal.You may like to be friend but you don't understand yourself.
• United States
8 Jul 09
This is my opinion on this I was always told to never get invovled with someone that I work with. There was a guy that was liking me at this job I did a few years ago and he was really on my butt all the time. I think that is why I quit that job to be honest. I did not feel right at the job and knowing that he liked me made me feel uncomfortable. I am just sharing with you my thoughts on this. I am curious if you ever did anything about this since this was started a few months ago. Let me know thanks:) Oh happy mylotting as well.
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
well thats up to you my friend. but for me its still best for me to tellhim how you feel. well you are just admiring him, right and i guess it aint that bad to be friends and to admire such person. and its still better to be true with what you feel and just be yourself. thanks friend jhelai
@Kool121 (292)
• India
29 May 09
Yes friend you should tell him.
@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
25 May 09
What about trying to find out through a common friend if you think it's a good idea? Make sure it's a girl though, guys are SO bad at keeping secrets about which guy a girl likes. They'd even think it's funny if they themselves told the guy that you liked him. Thanks for the response on my discussion!
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
23 May 09
Just keep it to yourself. Try to ignore the feelings. I am a person who hates being rejected and I don't have the guts to tell someone that I have a crush on him. As much as possible, I will just keep it to myself and at the same time refocus my attention -- like my job (???)
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
5 May 09
no. he might take advantage on you then dump you after. but i don't know the guy so i might be wrong. it really depends on you in the end.
@misshoney (973)
• Philippines
5 May 09
hi coco. oh it seems like you really have deep feelings for him because it is unusual for a girl to reveal a crush on a guy...well if you really really like him, then i don't see anything wrong if you want to reveal your intention..but i advise you to be careful and be aware of the risks involved. you might get hurt and disappointed..make sure you are ready for these possibilities.
@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
22 Apr 09
Sure, if you like him you should go for it and if you're afraid of rejection, this is a good chance for you to toughen up yourself, and if he says he's just not that into you then who cares right? You already told him you like him, you'll have no regrets...So you should totally go for it...Good luck. love, mira.
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
22 Apr 09
In other cultures, and to other people, it doesn't matter if a girl tells a guy she likes him. But for me personally, I would just hide it and leave it to fate if this guy is really meant to be for me. That's how I think I should keep my shreds of dignity. But it is totally up to you. I guess you better try to know the guy first. See how open-minded he is so that you won't end up hurt if he doesn't like it when a girl tells her feelings to him. SOme guys are like that. Better yet, you could recruit him to join mylot and encourage him to answer this post. Haha, thatwould be an indirect way of saying he's your crush, right?