Here has any body been ever rude on mylot?

@agrim94 (3811)
India
April 22, 2009 7:05am CST
I was surprised today that a perosn was quite rude today as i had started a discussion on my dog seems to be in love and i was told ur question is pretty silly and go and ask your dog if she is in love with a dog and then goes on and on how good mylot is and what we can do on mylot..strangest part was i didnt even ask anything about mylot but he writes 4 to 5 lines on what we can do on mylot so i thought i should give him my piece of mind but i let it pass.. did i do right?
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@landi927 (657)
• China
22 Apr 09
If you really felt that mylotter was rude you can give him a negative rate.There must be some people who are rude and won't care about other people's feeling. U needn't be angry about such people. Just let it goes. It's no need to make yourself into a bad mood for a such rude guy! Take it easy, be happy!
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
23 Apr 09
Thanks landi for the response and yes i would do this thing only that i rate him negative.
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@cassyisme (108)
• Canada
23 Apr 09
hey. yes, I was rude once, but only in a defensive way. =p we were joking around I guess, so its all good hahaha. yes, you definitely did right :) cause fighting is never the answer, always peace ;D. yeah, people are so random sometimes xD like, seriously, what does that have to do with anything? oh well, whats done is done and tis all good now? :) anyways, Ima go. ttul, peace !
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
23 Apr 09
I agree with you here. However, I feel like I should say something because I'm bad to dwell on things. I know it doesn't do any good to dwell on it. I think it's a good idea to rate them negative and to say something like "I'm going to pray for you". Kathy.
• Canada
24 Apr 09
thats true :) very very good advice ! but it wasn't a big deal or anything, I wasn't really rude. just it was a Canadian talking about stereotypes of Canadians and saying how they were true. I just pretty much said that not all of them were true, so you can't be judging ME personally based on the fact that I'm Canadian. he basically said that all Canadians were like that, and I was being defensive by saying that I don't say that so please don't judge me. I guess it wasn't rude. just .. not necessarily NICE =P thanks for the reply :)
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
24 Apr 09
Thx Cassyisme for the response and let me tell you i got some Canadian friends too. Ok we got cultural difference, racial difference and social difference but that doesnt give me a right to make fun of them or they make fun of me..it is ok if we get so close that we can laugh on each other so he makes jokes on Indians and i laugh and vice versa, but to a new person who u dont know and say hey ur race or ur society is like this or that is pure rudeness . And ignoring rudeness can hurt the person who is rude, so i do this.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
23 Apr 09
Hi agrim! I think that your discussion was probably really sweet! I am an animal lover so of course that's how I would see it! And I am sorry that I missed! You can add me as friend so I won't miss any more!lol Unfortunately, there are alot of rude people here and I find it best just to try to ignore them! There is no point in bothering to stoop to their level! There are more nice people here then there are the rude ones I am happy to say so try just to let whatever they say go if you can! Just think of all the wonderful people that are here and pay attention to them!
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
24 Apr 09
Thanks opal for the response. I am sending you link to my that discussion right now and adding you right now http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1984037.aspx and you are right i am going to ignore this man but i did feel bad and i wish people should understand unprovoked rudeness can hurt people and though they miight not like to be rude back, doesnt mean it doesnt make them feel bad.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Apr 09
I read his comment and he was just being stupid! His comment didn't even make sense! I think that the discussion was great and everyone else thought so too! You did a great job! I am glad to have you as a new friend!
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
24 Apr 09
The male dog must have been a good looking dog! Kathy.
@aweins (4203)
• India
23 Apr 09
i fully agree with joyce and landi, my dear, i will also suggest you to rate him negative. he wont even know about it . i dont think one should be rude but if he is, that shows how good a person he is. i am here to make friends and not enemies. i love to be with them, if ican , and i also love to share my feelings and wanna know their's too. there are people who are great snobs and feel as if they are the only souls sent by GOD on earth. i just hate such people. mylot is such a good website that one can make so many good friends and can discuss anything . one can open his or her heart without any tension or worry on mylot . once a mylotter replied rude to me too and i rated him negative, i didnt like his response and once i was responding to a discussion and there wasa man from Pakistan, he responded to a discussion and was going to response. when i read that, he had written all sort of bad words and abused my country. i felt so bad, that i rated him negative. so thats the same thing. you can rate him negative.
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
23 Apr 09
This is a very good comment but you shouldn't hate people. I love everybody. I just don't always like the way they do. I'm not going to preach anybody a sermon but the bible says to love your enemies and to pray for them that dispitefully use you. Have a great day and happy mylotting! Kathy.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
24 Apr 09
Thanks aweins for the response and yes i am doing to ignore him and ignore him totally, no more answering his discussions nor thanking him if he ever reply again to my discussion or anything.. and we all discuss lots and lots of things here including money making sites and all the things in life but i dont think it is worth being rude and what would i get in being rude , just make someone feel bad and if someone is rude for no reason then ppl might question his upbringing.
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@bdugas (3581)
• United States
22 Apr 09
Yes I think you done right, I recently responded to a topic on here where any response had to apparently, agree with them or you was in trouble. I was called a fuking idiot and other choice names, plus some stalker got into with lies about knowing me in 1975 and being out in SF, hell I had to put SF cause I can't even spellit much less beeen there. Responding only gives them the advantage of insulting and being mean again. Your topic as all topics on here are not silly, and if someone don't like it they can always skip over it. I think some on here just look for topics they can bash someone for. Seems some have no life and want to tear the ones that do down.
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
23 Apr 09
Yes i dont think my topic, do dogs fall in love is really very silly. Ok i must admit it might not be the most intelligent thing in mylot but then i am no Newton or some big scientist. And i did ignore the answer as i dont want to start a war of words which would have no meaning and we both end up being warned by mylot. Wow i cant believe that someone called you F***ing idiot , now no one deserve this.. and from your response i can see that you are a nice human human being. I have started so many discussions and in that there are so many people who didnt agree with me. I dont start a discussion that only those who agree with me should respond. I want responses from everyone from every quater of world ( not only for money) but to know different point of views. People should know everyone has got his way of thinking but you can tell them your point of view without being rude or abusive. we are all civilized people here and difference of opinion makes a discussion good.
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@jazzsue58 (2668)
24 Apr 09
I'm a BSc biologist, and the story I've got about Rebel and Mitzi is so saccharine sweet you'll get spots just reading it! Trolls have no intelligence, hence do not have the intelligence to think, "Hm, might be a good discussion for some people, but not my cup of tea" before moving swiftly on. Or maybe starting a discussion on something that IS their cup of tea. Someone here posted a lovely link to a YouTube video yesterday. It was a pop spoof made by some college students, taking the pee-eye-ess out of troll mentality. It made my week! If you can find it, go there - you'll soon see you are in the majority, and these poor losers definitely the minority. I'll try and get the link off my history files.
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@jazzsue58 (2668)
23 Apr 09
I'd suggest telling him that MyLot is for discussions, not money making, and since he only replied to your discussion to baump up his daily earnings by 0.005c why doesn't HE make more cash by opening up his own discussion instead of trolling on others? And then thank him for making you MORE cash cos you've now got double earnings thru'it. (Yes, dogs do fall in love. My old Rebel married his gf Mitzi and got her in 'the family way'. Then she upped and left him - he moped for ever. Not her fault - family moved. Sorry, gone off topic here)
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
24 Apr 09
Thanks Jazzsue for the response, and i am so sorry that that family moved:( and yes he should start discussions on mylot a lot as he is always talking about it.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
22 Apr 09
It's best to ignore this at least the first time, we all have good days and bad. If you keep having a problem delete him as a friend, if he is a friend and you can always rate his response poorly. Most of the time I just hit the delete button and forget it.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
23 Apr 09
Thanks savypat for the response and i must thank you a lot because you always come up with nice solutions when ever i start a discussion when ever i am in problem. I think i would ignore him right now and if he does it again, then i would report him.
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@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 09
Postings which are rude, flaming, abusive, and anything else which are provocative towards the negative are best left alone. Replying to them can bring further posts with negative content and will not create a good image for myLot. On the other hand it could be the way the person reacts to any discussion. He appeared to be sarcastic but maybe he was trying to 'teach' you on your responsibilities as a member of myLot. I am not trying to defend him. I prefer looking at things from several angles. You may have done the right thing to let it pass. At least there is no war of words between the two of you. all the best, rosdimy
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
23 Apr 09
Yes you have put it very beautifully. After all we all love this site even if it is addictive. none of us want that mylot should not have a good image, after all we are doing same thing here what I did on yahoo answers before i knew about this site and i get paid for it. Yes you can say what i said is not right or totally untrue or false and then give reason why you think so. There is no need to be abusive or rude here even when i wasnt even rude to him , i didnt even responded to his discussion, he responded to mine.
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@ashwlzhq (47)
• China
22 Apr 09
I'm sorry to hear that.It sounds so rude and impolite.Your idea is good,but it seems impossible.
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
23 Apr 09
Thanks for the response ashwlzhq. I think i would just ignore him.
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• United States
22 Apr 09
there's always one..just try to ignore it. you can always report them if they really start bothering you.
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
23 Apr 09
Thanks scarlet, i think i would just ignore him.
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• United States
22 Apr 09
it is always better to not stoop to the level of someone who is obviously cranky or has issues. i don't understand why someone even responds when they aren't going to be nice. i have seen some rudeness but i choose to not get into it with anyone. it just isn't worth it. as far as your question being silly, if they thought it was silly they didn't need to respond. btw, your dog is in love? how cute.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
23 Apr 09
yes thats why i didnt reply to him because it would have started words war and i didnt want that on my discussions. I dont like being rude and i also dont like if someone is rude to me and it would be below dignity to reply in same coin.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
26 Apr 09
go and ask your dog if she is in love with a dog Sorry but couldn't resist me from laughing. Sorry. I think the guy's user name is like vipin something right? He has 1 star rating and very very rude. He almost made me cry with one of his posts. I am very scared for his real life friends!
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
26 Apr 09
well this guy is from malasia and i dont know why he choose to be rude.. and yes there are people who are very rude in life too and i dont think they have many friends ..do they?
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
26 Apr 09
He has 52 friends and I know he isn't that good but I would still not mention his name as it might give him negative popularity which is against mylot rules but he is really rude and I can't see many people answering his discussion but he is still logging in. I think most of the people at mylot get annoyed with him.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
27 Apr 09
yes you are right and ppl do get lots of friends here, he is still in my friends list because i have over 15 pages of friends and it is too time consuming to find him and then delete him , and out of 52, there might be over 25 inactive so they would always be there
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• United States
22 Apr 09
Agrim- Unfortunately there are lots of rude people in life online and offline. On Mylot there seems to be a large share of them simply based upon the numbers (volume) that Mylot sees on any given day. I'll sound the others by saying I too try not to be rude, but I am rather passionate about certain topics that I know about, and those I care about. I can be rather direct and to the point, but I try to remember to say things with compassion and without judgement. However, I too have seen rude people, and have dealt with them since day one on Mylot. At first it hurt quite a bit when people would be rude with me, and then defend their own rudeness. Now, I tend to just repeat myself, state the facts, and move on. Though, if I know that someone is starting a thread that seems like it could be just there to create rudeness or "ugliness" as we say in the South, I just don't post. And yes, I tend to write lengthy replies if I can because that is what is stated in the Mylot Terms of Service. I'm sorry that someone was rude with you about your dog, I will have to see if I can find that thread and make my own response. Namaste-Anora
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
23 Apr 09
Thanks Anora for the lovely response and i do like long replies in the discussions. it shows a man/lady knows what he/she is talking about and then giving reasons for why he/she is saying so. Yes it does hurt when someone is rude and that too who i dont know and would never meet in life. I am quite sure the persons who are rude for no reason on net has no guts to be rude in real life because they know their rudeness can bring them black eyes. One thing i have learnt in life is never get provoked because if someone is trying to provoke you and you get provoked and even if you harm him, he still wins as he got what he wanted from you and if you ignore them then it is their worst defeat because it is very difficult to digest that you cant provoke someone to hit back.
• United States
23 Apr 09
Agrim- That reminds me of the Karate Kid when Myogi tells Daniel that "Even if win, you loose". Meaning, even if you win a fight like that you loose your self-reself and dignity. It's just not worth it. Many blessings. Namaste-Anora
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
24 Apr 09
Thanks anora, i havent seen karate kid but i would see it soon
• United States
22 Apr 09
i will never understand some people.. i try to never be disrespectful (unless the person is just trying to start up stuff and lying etc on theirs and even then i usually ignore) to others posts since something that one person may think is silly may be important to another.. to me these people are shooting themselves in the foot because most of them complain about the discussions they think are "silly" earning money yet they reply to them to tell them how much they think their discussions are crap JUST to earn the poster money!! where as if they thought the discussion was so bad they should just ignore it and not help out who they think doesnt deserve it.. now im not saying that yours was silly.. heck i answered it so obviously i didnt lol since i usually just ignore if its not worthy of my time.. i think some people just need to complain and make themselves feel better.. and i dont know why they would give you a lecture on rules because it didnt break any! ugh people are stupid!
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
23 Apr 09
Thanks moonlitmagikchild for the response. I dont say i can not put up a silly discussion i can but if i am silly then if someone calls it silly, he should back up his words with reasons. If he has good points then i got not issues admitting yes i was silly. And yes we all are here for money ( sorry not all but majority) but we can earn politely and without being rude. I see you have 6429 posts and you have replied to so many of my discussions, yet not even once i felt that you are talking vauge or not to point or never i felt that hey she is trying to be smart. I respect you for that. I dont mind people joking even at my expense but there is a fine line between joking and rudeness. Yes if i feel that the discussion is below my level then i ignore it. There are countless discussions here where people can reply and i am sure lots and lots of discussions are here where that person wont feel hey he is replying to silly discussions, let him take part in them.
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• United States
28 Apr 09
thanks for the br
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
1 May 09
No need to thank me for giving you BR, i should be the one to thank you for such a beautiful response and ur intelligent thoughts.. ur deadly beauty with brain wow. deadly combination.
@rusty2rusty (6765)
• Defiance, Ohio
27 Apr 09
Some peopel on My Lot are very rude. I encounter a member who claims to be religious. But than calls two 8 yr old girls some very bad names for no reason. I reported the comment to mylot. They removed the comment but not the thread. So, you can always report the comment to mylot to remove it. They will. They did for me.
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
1 May 09
Thanks rusty 2 rusty i have made up my mind to ignore him so he stays ignored and not even going to give him satisfaction that he cud make me work up enough to report it.
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• Defiance, Ohio
1 May 09
Sometimes ignoring Is a good thing. But reporting it lets MyLot know the person is not behaving in a nice manner. No need to make someone else suffer. Because they will move on to someone else. If the comment is really that offensive..Please report it. That Si what the "!" is for.
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
26 Apr 09
Rude people are ignorant people...it's a childish thing to do and these people are generally looking for attention, as children do. I've been annoyed sometimes by a post I've read and I've been a bit rude. While I believe some people need to wake up to themselves, being rude is not the way to handle things, being intolerant is a fault of mine ...I usually move on but sometimes the post gets the better of me. None of us is perfect. Just ignore these posts and move on. Be the bigger person.
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
26 Apr 09
That's the way...good for yopu!
@cortney09 (1346)
• United States
25 Apr 09
You are going to find some rude people anywhere. But as for here on my lot there are some rude people that I have come in contact with, but I usually just try to ignore it. that's not easy all the time though. I think some people just want to stir up trouble.
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
26 Apr 09
Yes i think so, but if he was on the point i would have understood that but he wasnt at all on discussion, it looks he hasnt even read the discussion which got me hurt. Thx for the response cortney.
@cortney09 (1346)
• United States
26 Apr 09
Oh well. If that's the case that he really didn't respond to the discussion or answer what the discussion was about then I would be hurt and upset also. I hope you don't run into anymore people like that.
@wc8722 (36)
• United States
24 Apr 09
This world...is full of different types of people. Good, and bad. I really wouldn't allow what this guy said about you being silly or whatever get to you. Most likely, he is not very happy with his own life and he feels some inner need to down others to re-affirm his self importance. Best thing to do?...is avoid those people and simply not respond to them. You have a lot of people on here are NOT rude or ignorant and even share your views. You did absolutely GREAT by not sinking to his level and giving him the attention he is most likely wanting. Good or bad attention, attention is attention and the best thing you can do? Is NOT give him what he wants. The best way to give him a piece of your mind? You already did it. You ignored him. That will get to him more than any rebuttal you could think of. And you didn't have to sink to his level. Good for you! (::smiles;;)
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
26 Apr 09
Thanks Wc 8722 for the response, Yes world is full of good and bad people. May be what you said is true that he has some problem with himself , may be family life not good, wife not treating him good,or something and he has to make others feel small to make himself feel big.But then you dont get big by being rude, you get big by doing big works, like if you ever heard of Mahatma Gandhi, who didnt ever use violence yet he got our country free from British rule. And might empire of Britain had to bow before him for the big work he did for India and was he ever rude, even when he was jailed he never talked in raised voice.
@wc8722 (36)
• United States
26 Apr 09
Mahatma Ghandi. Indeed!! Every once in a while certain people arise. They stand out among others. Why? because more often than not, they display a great many traits that most of us would like to possess. Strength, discipline, patience, compassion, even affirmation and persistance when the time is called for. Ghandi, was such a man. He stood his ground in all things. A good man. The world misses him I'm sure. Anyway, getting back to the matter at hand, you did good!! By not giving in to what he was attempting to get from you.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
24 Apr 09
sorry u got treated that way. no sense in anyone being rude. if they don't like your discussion they are not obligated to answer it. i have just recently had a real bad experience w/the very same thing. a friend of mine reported him &mylot took his response off.it's very uncalled for. so since in people showing everybody what a jerk they are. hope it doesn't happen to u again.
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
26 Apr 09
Thanks antiquelady, I feel bad yes and yes they are not obliged to answer any of my discussion and if he is here only for money , then earn it nicely, we are are earning what ever we are nicely , rudeness wont give him more money , so y be rude.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
26 Apr 09
no sense in anyone being like that but am afraid rude people are evrywhere.
@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
23 Apr 09
I agree with one of the other mylotters here. You can rate his discussion negative and explain to him in a nice way why you thought your dog must be in love. Like she said, just don't stoop to his level. The best thing to do for rude people is to pray for him. There was no call for his rude remarks. I used to have a dog I thought had a boyfriend one time, lol. I know it sounds silly but I was raised on a farm and cattle and horses fall in love all the time. This guy needs to realize that animals do fall in love so it's no big deal. Kathy.
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
24 Apr 09
Thanks cyrus for the response and i think i would let him go and i am basically a villager too and though have to move to big city because of not much higher education available near m village. Yes the animals do fall in love too whats silly in it, unless you say love is silly emotion but then if it is we all are silly because we love our mate, our family , friends and country.
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
24 Apr 09
Yes, I agree. Love is not silly. I don't know why I said that. My mother never did like animals too much and she would have thought it was silly, I guess. She loved all of her family but she was from a different generation, if that explains anything. Kathy.