Strange Place To Find A Friend

United States
April 23, 2009 7:20am CST
Where is the strangest place you've made a friend? I've lost pretty much all of my friends since I've become a stay at home mom, and I'm having a difficult time making new ones. I have plenty of aquantances from the neighborhood and my children's schools and activities. But no one I'd really consider a friend. At best I might be able to strike up a short conversation when we run into each other. I joined plenty of online socializing websites hoping to meet new friends or find some old ones. I've not had any luck yet. The other day I was browsing around Craigslist and found that there are ads on Craigslist for friendship. Some people post looking for workout buddies, some post looking for a date, and some post just for someone to talk to. I answered one, someone actually who was looking for a sitter. Not because I wanted to be their sitter, but because I felt a connection to this person who knew so few people, but desperatly needed a sitter for when she went to the hospital. I've been in that situation more times than I can count! Would you place an ad on Craigslist in hopes to find a friend? Would you answer an ad for friendship?
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9 responses
• China
24 Apr 09
Sometimes a woman is actually relatively hard,especially with the children after marriage,life is fundamental in running around! Therefore,I have to realize that your boredom!I need a friend and exchange are,therefore,the current era needs a lot of people but at the mercy of the spirit of the network,including me! But I have not thought about this method you try to make friends,in fact,as long as the exchange of good faith with the people,it will be friends!
@gbzjz123 (17)
• China
24 Apr 09
everyone can be your friend.just smile and listen. usually we think that our friends don't conect with us for a long time. when you meet this conditon, don't blame them. i've read some words which i benifit form. don't expect return when you give. just follow your heart. have a good day.
@vivianchen (2648)
• China
24 Apr 09
Hi Katsmeow, I understand it's not easy to be a home mom, but you have to know it's not easy to be a work mom, too. At least you can stay with your kids and family more time than other people. That's a good thing about bening home mom. I remember one of my classmate, when teacher asked she, what did she want to do when she grown up, she said she want to be a home mom! And she really is one now. We envy she alot. Okay, back to the topic, where is the trange place to find a friend? I don't know. Maybe in the bus station while waiting for the bus.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
23 Apr 09
Hey kats! To answer your first question about the strangest place I have ever made a friend~ It was many many years ago! I was young and at a party at a friends apartment. I needed to go to the bathroom because I had been drinking! I don't remember exactly, but I don't know if there was a door and it didn't close or there was only a curtain, well anyway this guy and I ended up in the bathroom together! Turns out he was going to watch the curtain for me? His back was turned and he was a perfect gentleman? Then I watched the curtain for him! Well, it turned out that we lived around the corner from each other and I got a ride home with him and his friend. We are still best friends to this day even though he doesn't live in the same state anymore and it also turned out that he is very much gay! And no I would NEVER look on Craigslist for anything or anyone! That's how those woman got murdered! No way would I ever take that chance!
• Brazil
23 Apr 09
I lost a lot friends too after I had my baby and had to quit my job and stay at home, because all my friends like to go out and do stuff, and I can't do that anymore so, they don't even call me anymore, we do stay in touch on social websites but it's not the same anymore. And I do meet some nice people online but it's not the same thing as having a real life real friend to go out with.
@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
23 Apr 09
I went on kijiji which is almost the same thing looking for mom groups.. i just moved back to my home town and all my friends.. well most of them, have had kids much younger then i did so their kids are all older then mine, and well after being away for so long.. i dont really feel like i have much in common with them anymore.. i didnt' find aany mom groups, but i too found people looking for sitters. so now, i will be starting to sit for a lady who's first born is about 5 months older then my second. i will be busy, but maybe i'll make a friend, and its extra income!! ;)
@ZephyrSun (7385)
• United States
23 Apr 09
I am usually so busy that I don't have time for friends. When I first got internet connection I went into a chat room I didn't really talk to anyone but someone IMed me and he ended up becoming my "best" friend. We have talked online for about 10 years now and my husband and I actually went out to dinner with him when we were out on the West coast.
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
I used to be a member on an online dating website. I was looking for a date for my future bf and to meet some new friends. I have met a lot of people online, men and women, its a mixed of the good and the bad. Not everybody is nice, some are nasty and will do some bad things to you. They would try to be friends with you first but they will try to get advantage of you especially with money. I have get rid of those bad persons online. I have met my current bf from the online dating website. I can say that its not wrong to find new friends online but we need to be careful and play safe so that others can't fool or take advantage of us.
@laglen (19782)
• United States
23 Apr 09
I would not but do not begrudge somebody who does. The people that you meet at your kids' school, do you try to form a friendship? Invite them over for coffee? Maybe reachout. Good luck