What is the hardest lesson you have ever had to learn in life?

Push!..................oh sh*t woman, you weren't supposed to fall off the edge, you were supposed to leap to the other side! LOL

*hanging on to tree limb* now ya tell me!!!!! heeelllllllpppppppppp!!!!!!!

So True! I just about have the faith thingy working... but still having trouble with my leaping! will ya gimme a push??

do you really, really get angry sweety? I just can't picture it! You are so lovable! xxxx

That's the problem Mummymo. I don't get angry and sometimes I really ought to.

It's taken me so long to get through all of these answers that I have almost missed the party over here haven't I?? P1key!! You have a big problem with this one! I know it is hard to change the way you think but you truly need to Accept that it is OK for you to get angry! Everyone else does and is allowed to when something is not right in the state of Denmark so why in the World not you? If you don't accept this and if you do not allow yourself to get angry when you have good reason then; #1 Everyone is going to walk all over you #2 You will probably one day just explode! It is Not physically healthy to hold your anger in, in fact it is very dangerous to your health, it affects your heart, stomach, mind and many more parts of your, what I assume, gorgeous body!!!!!! It seems to me like maybe you need to take some training for this problem! I know there is anger management training out there and there is also training available for people that have problems showing their true feelings!! I am sure that this would help you. You don't have to become an ogre, you only need to learn It's OK to Be and Show anger!! By the way, I'm curious like Aliceinwebland...don't you even get angry when you stub your little toe on the bedpost? Thanks so much for responding!

Yes, acting maturely and making mature decisions is not always easy is it? We spend so many years to get to this point, (trying to grow up as fast as we can and be acknowledged as an adult), leaning right from wrong, always being told to grow up and act mature and then when you get to that point...the point you will stay at the rest of your life, it's just not always easy and in fact a lot of people never mature and try to spend our lives being childish again because we find that we don't always like what being mature entails! Thanks a lot Canellita for responding!

Oh I think that is a very important lesson to learn. It is wonderful to love someone completely but when you start giving up family and most importantly yourself it has gone way too far. This then gives the other person the upper hand and I find that is when you really begin to get hurt and then of course it is too late to do anything about it unless you get the courage to just walk away! At least you know this now first hand and while you will find another person that you can love completely you will be prepared and hopefully remember this experience so it won't happen again! Thanks for responding!

I agree with you 100% I think if you give and give and give until you feel you just can not give anymore and you still receive nothing in return then it is definitely time to give up. It is not right that one should waste their life on someone or something that just does not appreciate it. We have but one life so we definitely should try not to waste it. Once you move on you would be surprised that there is a wonderful World out there with many wonderful people and one day you will finally find someone that will treat you with love, kindness and respect...just the way you deserve to be treated! Thanks for responding!

This is so true, one should never assume that people actually Want your opinion even if they do happen to ask for it. I find usually it is accepted just fine when you are telling them what they want to hear but the minute you don't you get into a lot of trouble...or in your case loose a friendship entirely!! Thanks for responding!

LOL I wish I had been able ot go for a lie down! Niamh has ended up with her arm in a plaster cast and is feeling down, not cos she is in pain but cos of all the things she can't do! I took her to a film at the cinema tonight and she loved it! I thought I would hate it and the seats would kill me but the seats are much better than they used to be in our new cinema and the film was fantastic! Hugs xxxx

HI Mummymo!!!It's so good to see you here! Oh I know very well what you mean, I seem to have the same problem! I learn something new and then forget some important old ones!!! I don't know! They say the mind is the first to go and I am truly starting to believe that one!! I do love the lesson though about considering ourselves and not get run down or pushed aside! It is so true! And if we are run down and no good to ourselves how can we be good with caring for anyone else!! Thank you so much for taking the time to respond...now go lie down and take care of yourself!! Sending lots of big hugs your way XXX's! I'll be in touch soon I promise and I love the bunnies...Grandma!!! :D

That's a really good one. I agree learning how to get along with so many different people from so many different walks of life with so many different personalities is a very hard lesson to learn. And it is the one lesson that we have to Continuously learn every day of our lives...we never graduate from this lesson! Thanks for responding!

I certainly agree with you, learning to let go is not only a difficult lesson to learn but very painful also. Unfortunately it is something that everyone must go through at least once in their lives and of course it is feels so unfair that life has to hurt! The really unfortunate thing is that it never seems to get any easier no matter how many times one goes through it! Thanks for responding!

In order to answer your question, the hardest lesson for me is the growing up itself, every chapter in it is hard , they all add up to become the 'hardest' i ever encountered. As for the temptation, i can hardly overcome it myself let alone be able to advise you with my 2 cents, but i will sure PM you if i find the enlighten path in my later life.

Thanks Lampar, I will look forward to receiving that PM so I can be as enlightened as you! ;)

Hi Lampar! It is great to see you! I have to agree with you, I think that all lessons that we learn are not very easy, some of course a bit harder than others but all hard just the same. I also had difficulty every step of the way and I like you, was not born in a privileged family so we had those extra lessons to learn it seems. With privilege brought "things" and of course when you are not from privilege you have to learn that those "things" just do not come your way easily...if ever! It was hard seeing the other kids, and adults, (but it's easier now), with things and knowing that I would Never have them but I think in some respect that made me better. Not better than anyone else mind you, but a better person in and for myself. I've learned how Not to have things and to appreciate what I do have. I've also learned that if I have a bit of a windfall, money wise, I don't just go out and spend it frivolously because I can, I think very hard and then decide, spend it or possible save it for that rainy day that I Know is going to come my way! I am like you also that I had a hard time learning to have the courage to love, sounds crazy I know, but some people are just afraid of being hurt, like myself and you I assume, so having the courage to love anyone besides my parents was a real hard one for me. Resisting temptation?? Well I still haven't COMPLETELY Mastered that one yet...so if you have any tips you wish to share I am all ears!! Compassion for some reason I never had any problems with that one. I have always had a very hard exterior but anyone that knows me any length of time at all knows I Can be a real softie, and extremely compassionate. But I do have to say that hard exterior is very real also. I can be as hard as they come and extremely stubborn so to reach that soft inside, (I sound like a piece of candy!!), sometimes you do have to break through a little bit unless you just happen to get to my heart the moment I see or meet you! I'm happy that we both still manage to hang in there though and all in all I think we Both turned out pretty darn good! Thanks so much for your response and it was really great to see you here!

I agree with you that learning responsibility and preparing for the future, family, parenthood, paying bills, earning a living is a very difficult lesson to learn. And of course everything that has learned before is to prepare you for just this time! Thanks for responding!

Join the club, I still have a hard time with that one also! If someone has deeply wounded me then I don't think I ever fully forgive them because unless I care for them deeply they can not wound me and I do not expect anyone I care about to do that. As for apologizing, I am the first one to apologize if I feel I am wrong and I mean it from the bottom of my heart...But when you talk about it the way you do, then I also have problems apologizing when the other person has done me wrong also...in fact it is almost an impossibility that I will apologize in that instance! Thanks for your response!

Yes resisting temptation is a very difficult lesson to learn made even harder when you loose someone that you care about because you haven't yet learned it. Hopefully you have now and hopefully one day your best friend will be able to forgive you and you can have a relationship again, only better next time. Thanks for responding!

This is just so touching and so very true. And it is a lesson that never gets any easier with time unfortunately...I am sorry. Thank you for responding.

A lot of people have the same problem. They just can't love themselves and treat themselves and allow others to treat them terribly! I am so glad that you have learned to love yourself and accept yourself for who and what you are. I honestly believe with all of my heart that if you don't love yourself and see your importance then you can Never love someone else the way they should be! Congratulations! Thanks for responding!

I am truly glad that you have learned this lesson because if not, it will carry into your adult life and things can be so much harder for you than they need to be. I think you will find that if you apply yourself a little more you will be amazed at the change and if you start getting good grades and passing those tests it very well may make you feel better about yourself and know you can achieve anything you set your mind to as long as you work for it! It is a very tough lesson to learn and I'm happy you learned it before it is too late! Congratulations! Thanks for responding!

I have to admit that learning to swim was not easy for me. In fact I had to be sent for private lessons to learn. Would you believe now I love the water and swimming almost more than anything and I became a swimming instructor teaching babies and very little children how to swim!! So I have no doubts you can learn and given time you probably will and love it! Good Luck! Thanks for your response!

I know what you mean about rushing things especially relationships/marriage and growing up also. People have this fantasy about how fantastic and perfect everything is going to be and when it is rushed and not thought out properly it usually doesn't live up to their expectations. Especially in relationships. Many people get married etc. so young and forget about education and good paying jobs, how they are going to pay the bills and provide and unfortunately then they do suffer hardships like you are going through now. Good Luck in your future. Thanks for responding!

I also think that letting go is such a hard lesson to learn Sharlionse. I think it may have something to do with not wanting to fail, being a bit afraid of the unknown, being alone and not wanting to give up and admit defeat. Thank you for your response! ;)

Hello Benjamin, I have to say I think that the greatest lesson(s) that you have learned are some of the best that I can think of. If we all could learn this lesson and live this way then I think the World would be a much better place for all of us to live in! Thanks for responding! ;)