Are some people ugly or do you believe that beauty is a matter of perception ?

I think that ugly and beauty is a matter of perception, as some people don't mind it and some people do. Now, im a very nice girl who is nice to anyone and everyone if they are nice with me, and anyway some people ive noticed judge others by their looks, its not all about looks in my opinion, i mean they could be a really nice person, and something terrible which i see often when im out is people being called the horrible word 'ugly' its horrible, and people don't think they could be hurting the other persons feelings, and they are definitely jelous. So, i definitely don't judge people by their looks, id talk to anyone, nevermind how they bloody look. I have met people who i think look abit ugly, but i forget about it and i keep it to myself to be honest, because i think before i speak and id never tell someone if they are ugly or anything. I sometimes think im ugly, and im sure everyone else thinks of themselves as ugly at some point in their life, but im not being bigheaded but people when im out say im really pretty, i think it all comes from confidence in myself really, it does make me feel happier that people call me pretty because i need that confidence boost sometimes :)

Hello my friend ronnyb Ji, I think, truth lives with ugly as well, God lives in miost ugly lookings. Let's not go with externals, let's find out inner soul. It may look ugly, but may be most suitable and hospitable. Let's not discard them. May god bless you and have a great time.

Yes, some people are just born ugly. That or they grow older that way. Not sure. I am friends with ugly people. Looks do not stop me from being friends with someone. Looks do stop me from having a relationship with someone. Plain and simple if i am not attracted I can not have a relationship. Before you think I am prude or some other name. That is not the case. I am an over weight woman who I am sure some people think is ugly to. I would like to believe that beauty is in the eye of the eholder and we all have someone out there for us.

Im like you I always look for the beauty in everyone. I feel some very beautiful people are ugly because of their personalities. But I do have to say I've seen some people that I felt was not easy on the eyes. My mother always taught me never to call anyone ugly its not right. I know that I am not beautiful to some... but I aspire to be on to all on the inside

hi ronnyb I heard these words a few years ago, there are no ugly people in this world but there are people who do not how to look beautiful / nice or interesting. and I believe in that. beauty is only the skin deep, if not followed with the good personality and good attitude,what was seen look pretty will be look like ordinary. but the person who was initially indifferent even to some people may look ugly, can be someone who is very interesting because he/she has the nature and habits of good.beautiful face and physical can be by instantly. but beauty in the heart can not be.

I find that beauty and ugliness tend to show themselves more in a person's heart and actions. Someone might have knotted hair and one tooth and be the sweetest person you'll know, while someone who is the spitting image of Nicole Kidman might be the most selfish, egotistical person on the face of the earth.

I never judge anyone by their appearance. I have met some people who my first thought was that they were ugly but usually that is only for women who I think could do a lot to improve their looks. I honestly believe that beauty is only skin deep and has nothing to do with how I perceive them as a person.

I always believe that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder; and furthermore there are people who do not look so good at first sight. But the more I interact with them, I begin to find them really attractive. Attraction and appeal is really more than skin deep - I can look beyond their looks and enjoy their company, rather than being with someone who looks like a movie star, but is really dumb and boring!

I don't really think it is up to us to say what is ugly or attractive we are all different no matter what the person looks like it is their personality that makes them nice or someone you would not want to know better.I think my husband is the most handsome man I have ever met.somebody else might not think my way at all,which is just as well.I just don't see those sweet eyes,handsome face I see the man beneath with his kind,caring and wonderful personality.He sometimes annoys me but it is cancelled out by him being him.Every one is different and we all want something different so that makes us all good looking,so the answer to your original question is no,yes,no,no,sometimes,yes,yes.xx

It could have been a matter of perception. However, society had somehow dictated in us what beauty is and what it should be. A local television showed an experiment about perception and reaction of people to beauty. Interestingly, many called beautiful the female which I think and referred to as beautiful. My plain looking girl was also called by the respondents as ugly and even called her names. The respondents are from different walks of life and yet they gave the same perception of ugliness and beauty. So right now, I don't fully agree that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We don't want to admit it but our society have already set some standards. If not, how come we always get the same features of girls competing in beauty pageants? Why can't someone with 24-23-23 or 40-60-60 figure but with great wits and personality be crowned as Miss Universe or whatsoever?

Ugly or nice is always a matter of individual perception. Someone might be very beautiful for me but the same person may be felt as ugly by my best friend. Human beings and human mind is unique you just can't decode the way anybody will perceive a certain event in each ones life. Foe me I give more value to inner beauty of a person than the superficial beauty. So ugly or beautiful for me at the first sight does not hold. I start judging the person from the time I meet him/her and it is based entirely on the interactions between us. I am never influenced by what anybody else is telling about a person. I listen to them but I do not get biased by them. SO coming back to the point I have to say most people I met are beautiful some are very beautiful and very few are exceptionally beautiful. But yes I met somebody who was ugly. He was ugly because of his intentions and had a black heart. Just hate such people. That's the most I can say. But ending on a good not till now it was only one spoiled egg but rest of the person I met were roses ..... so I love to keep making friends and enjoy interacting with people. And that's why I love this place too.

That is the reality of first impressions. Yes, I've thought there were ugly people. I think a lot of people are ugly. In fact, I think we are a very ugly species compared to many other creatures. However, I have also found that beyond that first impression, my perception of some people changes. Some of the most unattractive people I know are so beautiful on the inside that I actually perceive them as more attractive on the outside. Intelligence is also something that makes someone more attractive. Unfortunately, too much importance is placed on physical appearance in society. Whether someone is unattractive or very attractive shouldn't matter. That doesn't define who they are as people and what they are capable of.

I strongly believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We all judge things differently; i think that beauty on the inside is just as important as the outside.

Sometimes, how people perceive beauty depends on culture too. For example, in the old days, men did not like their women stick-thin. Nowadays, it is a different story. Beauty truly is just a matter of perception. Beauty is different for all kinds of people. Sometimes I think a guy is handsome but my friend thinks he's not and vice-versa. I don't think the pretty ones are always nicer and more competent. Sometimes, the "ugly" people have more depth in personality, brains, and character. We should really not judge a book by its cover. I have lots of friends who were not really jaw-dropping beautiful but they are the best friends I ever met.

Normally I don't think too much about how a person looks but more about how they act. But In my life time of 64 yearsI have only ever seen one person that I would say was really ugly. It was my neighbor's daughter. She had come home because of a big earthquake in California many years ago. She was there for only about 2 weeks so I didn't really get a chance to know her.

it's all perception. Personally, I believe that ugliness is only something a person can have on the inside. It just takes know-how to see beauty in some, who're usually more beautiful than the obviously pretty some, because it's hidden in plain sight.

Frankly i have never looked at a persons features or complexion but only looked at what is in their heart. I had a friend, a very beautiful woman married with two children. Whenever she called me on the phone or met me she would constantly abuse her husband and vilify him to such an extent that i would feel disgusted. I tried to explain to her several times and show her that she too was at fault but she would never listen or try to understand.She would get angry at me so i gave up. One day she called me up at an odd time and started her usual diatribe. I immediately told her that i was in no mood to listen to her whinings. She slammed the phone down and since then she has not called me. I am thankful at having got rid of her.She was spiritually minded but all that was lost in her hate for her husband. I have many other friends both male and female who are not good looking but very warm hearted and good people.Looks do not matter as beauty is skin deep but character, good heartedness, kindness to everyone is more important.I never comment on anybody`s looks.

It is a sign of evolution not to notice let alone judge a person's appearance. I am not a highly evolved being or anything like that but I do try hard not to be influenced by society's definition of beauty. Who set those standards? Unless a person is absolutely repulsive to look at and I honestly don't know anyone like that, who is to say what is beautiful and what is ugly? I notice people's spirits shining through and if they take care of themselves and others to me they are beautiful. Don't get me wrong I admire gorgeous eyes or lovely hair etc, I'd just like to think that I don't judge people by their exterior and as others have mentioned beauty is very much in the eye of the beholder and we all perceive things differently.

I think the reason why there is an ugly and a beautiful is just because of us human tagging them to be. It is just like classifying what is wrong and what is right. It is like calling the day a "day" and calling the night a "night." So for me beauty is really in the eye of the beholder. So we can call ourselves as beautiful or handsome while others may consider us not. Well for me I do not judge people based on their looks but of course there are looks that are dangerous (signs of killing lol!) Seriously speaking people have different views and perception towards one another. We all may initially react to one's facial features but those are only initial reactions. We however should be careful in giving reactions so that we won't hurt others. A lot of factors could affect the appearance to be ugly or pretty. We must all be very careful in giving comments. Beauty and Ugly tags were just based on widely accepted criteria or universally created criteria. We can all create our own criteria based on what we think that is different from others.

Hello Ronnyb, First of all, we should define "ugly" and "beauty." If you are referring to physical beauty, then of course all of us at some point or another will comment on a person's physical body, and think they're "ugly," or "beautiful." It is a completely separate thing, however, internally. A person's personality can never by ugly unless seen through the most extreme standards or created through the most extreme actions. Now, I'm no saint, but I'm not a serial killer or a baby rapist. THOSE in my mind make a mind "ugly," or really just plain "evil." In terms of personality, as long as you're kind, you can be beautiful on the inside and ugly on the out. It doesn't really make a difference how beautiful someone is, as you must look deeper to see their true personality. From my personal experience, I've chatted with many GORGEOUS cheerleaders, and I'm not joking around. But when I got to know them, they were completely disrespectful and rude people. I didn't want to be around them. Physical beauty helps, but it's true beauty on the inside that defines what a person is and is not. Regards, -Fresh Writing