Dating a Bipolar chick while you(yourself) are bipolar.....
April 23, 2009 6:30pm CST
Has anyone had expierience with being bipolar and dating another bipolar person? I find most of the people I date just are not understanding when it comes to my condition. The stigma attached to being bipolar is really hard to overcome. So i'm thinking about trying to find a bipolar chick to date...any thoughts?
• United States
23 Apr 09
first of all, is your bipolar under control? what i mean is are your meds working well for you? do you consistently see your doctor and therapist? you know that bipolar people can be a little more high maintenance and i understand how you find that most people are not understanding. dating someone who is also bipolar is asking for trouble. what if they are more "needy" than you are? yes they are going to understand bipolar disorder because they are experiencing it but can you really help each other? it takes a very strong person a lot of patience to stand by a bipolar person. in the best of situations there are ups and downs. be honest with yourself and take your time. there is someone out there for you, don't think that the only relationship that you can have is with another bipolar person. i think that you just haven't met the right person yet. relationships are tough. finding someone who is right for you is tough. if someone really cares about you and learns about the disorder it is no different that any other disease and they will accept you if they love you and want it to work.
• United States
24 Apr 09
maybe they are just immature. my oldest daughter is bipolar and also has a substance abuse problem. i feel bad for any guy who gets involved with her. she has a long way to go before she can be in a relationship. i think sometimes bipolar people need to lean on their partners a little more but they also need to be able to be there for someone else. my daughter is selfish and unable to give to someone. but she is young still. maybe with maturity she will be better. i think that you need to meet more mature women. someone who is intelligent and secure in themselves would be more capable. when it is right it will happen. in the meantime never be afraid of talking about being bipolar. it is important to educate people so that we lose this stigma that is attached to being mentally ill. good luck to you. you sound young, you will find the "one" when you are not looking.
• United States
1 May 09
My guess is that within those weeks of knowing you they sensed that something was not quite right or different and couldnt put their thumb on it--I know because I've been told the same about me when discussing it with old friends or boyfriends and after finally confirming what it was they choose (and have every right to!) they do not want to deal with it that time in their life. My boyfriend is a saint (and some level of codependency) when it comes to dealing with my mood swings--I just do not know how he does it; pays the bills every month, works 50 hrs wk, then has to come home and deal with my moods never knowing which he'll get, even I have to sit back and wonder....one day, you just have to be patient--I was never looking for a guy when I met him.