Why would a pregnant woman smoke and drink???

April 24, 2009 1:38pm CST
The other day I was walking by the streets and I saw the most awful thing.. A heavily pregnant woman smoking a cigarret and drinking her can of beer. She didnt look like a begger or homeless person. Infact she had make up all over her face and she had two small kids with her.. She kept on yelling and screaming and cursing at them.. I watched in absolute horror that people just walked past her and did not see that there was something wrong.. Now I went up to her to explain to her what her smoking and drinking beer is doing to her unborn child. She started cursing me and told me to mind my own business.. Everybody else seemed oblivious and didnt care at all that this woman was killing her child.. I felt so gutted and I asked myself why oh why would someone do this? My main question is would you correct a stranger in the street if you saw that they were doing something wrong? Now there was nothing I could do for this lady as she didnt want my help at all which was the more concern to me.. What would you have done if it were you who witnessed this?
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@maezee (32288)
• United States
24 Apr 09
Oh my gosh, that's horrible, and it's truly child endangerment. There's most likely a law against it and she could get in trouble with child services. You could most likely get her into some trouble. I don't know why someone would do something to intentionally hurt their child. That's beyond cruel.
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24 Apr 09
Its is barbaric.. But I guess some people just have no heart at all.. I feel sorry for kids though that they have such a horrible mother who would do that them...
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@John4Christ (1598)
• India
24 Apr 09
Heloo friend.....what you did was absolutely correct.....if you would not have spoken to that lady....you would have felt disgusting for the rest of your day......you did it out of genuine concern.....but what we need to understand here is that....not all people care.....some people are just so used to drinking and smoking that they don't seem to understand the gravity of any problem.....for them its just another day.....but that should not stop us from correcting or giving out our suggestion to someone...atleast we will have a peace of mind.....but usually i would avoid doing it in hugely crowded area.....as the person on the other end will feel offended and offcourse as you experienced showers of curses that will take place......so depends from person to person.........
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24 Apr 09
well i guess some people just choose to do the wrong thing delibaretly. I mean who deosnt know that smoking and drinking while pregnant will harm your child??
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@hmkoct5 (2067)
• United States
24 Apr 09
Wow, this would have bothered me so much! Some people should just not be parents. People like this make me want the government to issue licenses to parent! I probably would not have said anything though. I think she would have just ignored me anyway. I don't think words from a stranger would have any impact. I just pray those children will be ok.
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@AlyMay23 (10)
• United States
25 Apr 09
Well sadly there are people like that in this world. When I got pregnant I was a heavy drinker and smoker but I knew I had to make changes to have a healthy baby. I quit drinking immediately, but I had to gradually stop smoking. yet I knew I had to do this because I actually had an aunt who refused to quit drinking while she was pregnant, and my cousin was born with Sotos Syndrome. Sad, I know! I think if I were in that situation I would have done the same thing and told her it was harmful to her child.
@berrys (865)
• Singapore
25 Apr 09
i feel really sorry for her unborn child as it has done absolutely nothing to deserve that sort of treatment. nevertheless it doesn't mean she doesn't love her child. she most probably was going through a really rough day and really needed a form of release. being said so, it still isn't the right thing to do. who are we to judge others what they are doing to themselves. as much as i would love for her to not do what she is doing, it is out of my hands and there's nothing i can do but to sit aside and watch from afar as she screws up her unborn child's life. her child could've been a beautiful healthy baby and still could become one if it was lucky. and now it could be brittle and deformed all because of a mother whose being quite unthoughtful. if i had witnessed it i would've just minded my own business. if she wants to screw up her kids life, that's entirely up to her, but when it comes to other people's children, that's when i draw the line. you tried all you could to help her and that was very noble and it did backfire, no worries you're still a good person. cheers love.
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
25 Apr 09
Addiction causes people to not care. She didnt care about anything but herself and getting her cigerrette and her alchohol. People like that wont listen no matter what you say to them. I probably would not have sai anything directly to her because I would know it would do no good. Butif her children wer being mistreated i would sure call the police. And yelling and cursing at child is abuse in my book.
@tzaddi (395)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
it's very wrong indeed..maybe she hates her life..ü i don't know why but i think there's a reason.. everything has a reason for sure..ü then i'll pray for her..asking god to forgive her sins..ü we must pray for the ones who are in need the most..ü we can't talk to her cos we know that she wouldn't listen..ü so i think we should pray for her..ü
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
25 Apr 09
I never comfront anyone! It does pay! Like this women other can be nasty and don't care! To me this women is probaly caring a baby she doesn't want or maybe just unexpected! What ever the reason this women does care what she is doing to her unborn child! She's probaly a single mom and she is so stressed out she's drinking.smoking and treating her other 2 kids like crap! To bad you don't know this person! If you did you could call child services and report her! To bad you can't! I really feel sorry for her two kids and expecially the unborn baby!
@surajben (262)
• India
25 Apr 09
There are some people who do not like to be corrected. It is always safe for us to not to correct them. Drinking and smoking while being pregnant effect the baby in the stomach. Never advise a stranger, who will not respect us.