How can I change my bad emotion into good?

China
April 24, 2009 10:25pm CST
I have bad emotion these days cause I am losing my job and i can not find one within 2 months, although my husband has never complains at me, but i still can not be happy every day. So what should i do to change my focus? Help!
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14 responses
@wolfen13 (33)
• United States
25 Apr 09
I can honestly say that I understand how you feel. I've just recently lost my job and its not easy finding another. My suggestion would be to get a spot of sunshine on your nose daily. For some reason, when your most depressed and down sunlight helps make you feel better. But more than just that you benefit from it physically, you also get a moment to just relax for yourself. To not think and just feel the warmth in the light. At least this is my personal method for avoiding being extraordinarly depressive. Problems come and go, so sometimes you need to focus on taking a moment for yourself.
• China
27 Apr 09
Thanks you all my friends, I will try to do that, yes, it is not the end of the world.
@nzldzh (75)
• China
26 Apr 09
I think you should be brave and keep on finding your jobs . Though i am not work now ,i know it is hard to find jobs because of the finance crisis around the world .In my country ,there are lots of people loss their jobs and the factories are broken down .They can"t find the jobs maybe from last year . Do you hear the old saying that happy is a day ,sad is a day too.Why don"t you choose to be happy ?
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
hi braveheart, Believe in the saying that when you lose some you gain some. Even if you lose your job already, have faith that their is still better job for you not now but soon. Keep on looking for the job that you think you are best qualified and gives you more comfort than your previous job. the bible says Ask and you shall received, seek and you shall find, knock and it will be open to you. Have faith that God will provide what we need. God blessed.
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
26 Apr 09
Your bad emotions are termed as negative emotions. We all deal with negative emotions at one time or another. We may be having a "bad hair day," we may meet someone that really irritates us, we may get hurt, ignored, or mistreated by someone. Some of us carry those negative emotions all the time because they have been buried so deep in our psyche that they almost totally shape our sense of identity. WHAT ARE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS? I want you to think of emotions as ENERGY. That's what they are! The emotions (energy) can be positive or negative. Here is one principle I want you to understand and carry with you as you deal with your daily interactions with people and yourself: POSITIVE ENERGY is nearly the same as NEGATIVE ENERGY (emotions). Both are just focused in different directions. Got it? The "car" is the same, except you can go south or north. If you go north you will end up in San Francisco, if you go south you will end up in San Diego.
@lvyanyan (42)
• China
26 Apr 09
There must be something that confuses you,so you should find the reason thich makes you angry.maybe you shoud find some entertainment to relax yourself, then move on,beleive that chance belongs to people who have prepared for it.Good luck!
@docipain (135)
• Germany
25 Apr 09
I think there will always happen bad things in life...but honestly I think those bad things which happened will make us stronger and a even better person. On top of that I think we should appreciate the things we have in our life every day. Appreciating things we reached in life make us much happier I think. Though I am not really sure if it's really possible to everyone to look at those things when you are in a bad mood and feel like no good. But thinking about this stuff is pretty satisfying...as long as you won't hold on those reached points forever. Because if you do that you won't get the feeling of doing something different...being satisfied kind of is a good thing but you should also be hungry for future stuff and things you can succeed in. There was this nice in Goethe's Faust..though I am not sure how to translate it in English..because I just know the original line since it's german..the english one should be: "Man errs as long as he doth strive." but I think it's important to have a balance. Not to strive too much but also looking back to the stuff you already managed in life. That's the way to become happy I think. =) Maybe also listen to some happy-go-lucky music...
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
25 Apr 09
Lot of things enrage us and today we are living on the edge and its very normal that we get jittery very quickly. I thin, meditation helps. Try to focus on positive things, in things you love doing and try to relax. I think you are a wonderful person - whet that.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
That is indeed hard. Its not as easy as just saying something and things would just work out. I guess its a matter of perspective. The more you think negatively about finding a new job, the more difficult it would become. Meanwhile, you can perhaps deviate your attention with reading books or simply doing what you weren't able to do when you were still working.
• China
25 Apr 09
Hi, braveheartok, take it easy! I think the first step you should do it that going out near to the nature, calm down, telling out all our unhappiness, just listening to the echo of the nature, I think you will be okey! Well, just kiding, be patient to you yourself, you have enough time to find a god, a nice job, there is full of chances everything and any time. You must gain one in the near future! Good Luck!
@dandit (132)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 09
Lose their jobs is indeed a difficult event for us, especially for those who are already married. Moreover, the condition of the global economic crisis is difficult to predict when to end. Conditions that are not stabilized and the challenges of life that the more difficult to make a lot of people experiencing depression. However, we can not regret what has happenedd. Do what we like and of course can not hurt other people. Using all possible with the maximum.
@CMTS_87 (1339)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
Just think POSITIVE! BE STRONG my friend! POSITIVITY will radiate good vibes, so just try to remain positive every moment of your life! I think that can help you! Don't dwell on things that will just bring you more unhappiness and regretfulness. MOVE ON! And last, BE BRAVE! Face LIFE with bravery and courage! For sure in no time you'll be OK! Happy MyLotting!
@duskiss (98)
• China
25 Apr 09
I always listen to quiet music when I'm in bad emotion, I think you can do the same way. I choose pure and melodic music instead of rock or dj which are rastic, bringing negative effect. You can close your eyes while having a quiet listen.
@tzaddi (395)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
well, i think you should laugh..ü but not laugh out loud you know..ü watch comedy shows on tv, read some humor books, search some humor on the net, have fun with your family, because i believe that laughter is always the best medicine..ü and i'm sure your husband understands you..and i know that you're doing your best to get another job so don't feel sad..ü just my opinion by the way..ü
• United States
25 Apr 09
You should be thankful for the things that are good in your life. Everything could be a lot worse. Are you healthy? Do you have shelter over your head and food in your stomach? Are all your limbs still intact? Can you think properly? These are just some of the things we take for granted because they are always there. When in reality, your husband could lose his job and then your house could come into foreclosure. Then you would be homeless and people would look at you as if you're lazy, but they wouldn't know your story. Just keep filling out those applications! And go on craigslist to look for job openings if you don't already. Get off the computer. It hinders me sometimes :p