still loving her...

China
April 25, 2009 3:21am CST
i and my GF broke up about 3years ago. and GF went to a very good university and may be an actress someday. but as for me , i dont have such a bright future and i still love her. every time when i am studying or at work, i may thinke of her.think of those days that we are together.....i dont know how to get through it as quick as possible. who can help me???thx....
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6 responses
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
..hi.. Maybe you try to divert your attention to other people.. try to avoid seeing things that connects you to your ex.. That's tough, however, you need to do it if you really want to forget her.. wounds need enough time to heal... as you wake up everyday, remember that you have a new hope that your future also will be bright.. be positive.. What your mind conceives, your body achieves.. If you will always think of your ex, your future could be ruined.. If there is no chance of you to be together again, then you might as well try to look for other ladies that you could court.. that way, you will not be focusing your attention to your past memories..
• China
25 Apr 09
thx a lot for your sincere remarks, i am deeply touched by you. and as you say, i should forget about the worlds of yesterday and start a new life!!!i will face the future in a more positive way!!!!! though we are strangers, thanks again!!!
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
i think you should start making those memories work for you. make them an inspiration to be good in whatever it is you're doing. the future is unpredictable but one can have a vision of it already if they are preparing for it.
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
For one it seems that there was really no moving or acceptance on your part that you two have really separated. i think the proper way to do it is to have a real closure of your breakup. Maybe if you could get in touch with her then do so. Once you got to be in contact with each other examine each others feelings about each other once you know that she has moved on then I think you should do likewise. If you have no contact with her anymore then I guess you'll have to commit for yourself that you will move on with your feelings. I think distracting yourself and slowly move on with your life. It is not a good feeling that you remain in the past and your Ex has moved on. It is you who is making this to cling on yourself and only you can make this thing go away from you. The only thing that stops you is you and the only thing that can move you is you and nobody else.
@nujoomva (111)
• India
25 Apr 09
i think you should forget her.you can have a new GF.
• China
25 Apr 09
It is common, but there has different results among you. I saw a TV series, both of them love each other very much in youth, but the boy realizes that he can not make the girl be happy, he choose to go to a famous university, and the girl was forced to marry to a guy whom is an English teach in university. Even though they have been seperated, they still love each other, they never break up. Many years later, the boy has been a successful man, but he is still a single, on the contrary, the girl has become a mom of two kids, when they meet, seems the time back to the past, when the boy raise to stay together, the girl falls into confusion, for she can not miss him. But her kids, how can they live without mom. Finnaly, she told to the boy, I can not go with you, we can not back to the past, I have put you at a corner in my heart, u have been one of hisorical persons in my heart. So, freind, hoping it is useful to you! HAPPY EVERY DAY!
@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
25 Apr 09
It is difficult to let go a person who you love however try to enjoy life and not to think about her. Try going out with friends and also try to look for the future don't cry for the past. I am sure that you will find your perfect partner, she is there waiting for you to find her. Wish you luck :)