do you earn more than your husband?

Singapore
April 25, 2009 10:50am CST
do you earn more than your husband ? how your husband feel ? some guy don't like that.
2 responses
@UK_Shree (3604)
28 Apr 09
I am not married yet but I would like to think that if I was earning more than hubby that he would not only be okay with it, but that he would be really proud of me. I would hate to think that the man in my life could not handle it and in my opinion it would display a shallow type of love.
• Singapore
28 Apr 09
yes is good that you have such thinking. earn your own money . i earn my own money as well. i realist i get more happy and no more argument in money . you spend guy money he won't be happy sometime ,starting they will say ok. after sometime they will stop you to buy thing. than fine if is not important but after long term what i want to eat they also control.got one day i haven eat dinner he don't buy food for me . this is what happen to me. if is your own money he won't control what you want to eat . and he enjoy eating my money ..as long i don't take it too seriously i be very happy to spend him food.. . and if you earn a lot and we willing to share our money ,not to compare whose money is that you will be very happy to spend money .
@UK_Shree (3604)
29 Apr 09
Exactly. I agree with what you are saying. It is so important to be independent. I could not imagine a life where someone else is able to control what I can and cannot buy.
• United States
25 Apr 09
I'm not married yet or anything but I actually did have this conversation with my boyfriend. He wants to get into historical restoration - which he already does while he is still in school and so unless he becomes some big shot project manager, if I get my dream job of being an AP Correspondent in DC then most likely I'm going to be making more than him. To him it doesn't matter because what matters to us is going what we want and not really worrying about how much money we are actually bringing in as long as it gets us by and then we have some leeway in order to enjoy ourselves. My parents drilled into me that I needed to work hard and not worry about making more than my future husband due to the fact that if something happens, like a divorce, I need to be able to take care of myself and not have to rely on anyone. And that is exactly how I want to be - independent.
• Singapore
25 Apr 09
yes agree that not to depend on guy ,and be independent. and one thing i feel if you earn more than him at least he respect you,as it happen to me.