my friend is cheating

@savypat (20246)
United States
April 25, 2009 11:44am CST
What would you do if you found your friend was committing fraud on the internet? You know how your receive those hook letters in your e-mail, well you get one and recognize the name as a name your friend uses. What do you do next? Tell him/her. tell the FBI. Threaten to tell the FBI if they don't stop. Just ignore it and go on with your friendship. Ask for a cut to keep your mouth shut. Or is there another choice?
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@lumenmom (1996)
• United States
26 Apr 09
I am curious to know what is a hook letter? Are you talking about the ones where people tell sad stories and then ask for money? Alos, you say you see a name that your friend uses. Is it possible that someone else can be using the same name as your friend and that it is not your friend afterall? Or is the name something that is so unique that no one else would have it?
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@nainesh1 (1657)
• India
25 Apr 09
I will ask him that if he doesn't stops doing all these activity our friendship will be over.
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@mrsl2008 (635)
25 Apr 09
I am on my high horse today!! (Please don't take this the wrong way) I would report them, tell them I would report them & cancel the friendship. Some of us actually have activities on the internet to help people out, your friend is abusing people. The vast majority of internet uses don't understand the way it works or when they are being scammed. They don't use anti virus or their email filters. They take everything at face value and trust everyone, how dare your friend take advantage of them!! I'd call them & let them know exactly what I thought! But that's just me!! If you can live with yourself knowing what they are upto, go ahead. If you take a cut be prepared for the consequences that go with it. Your obviously concerned and know it is wrong otherwise you wouldn't have posted the discussion. Just do what is right x Mrsl x
@savypat (20246)
• United States
25 Apr 09
Guess what folks this went directly to the people who police this type of thing, as soon as I found out there was more than $10,000 involved, if you have followed my posts you would know I have no sympathy with anyone like this even if they have lost their job. I hope they put them away. There are millions of dollars being ripped off from unsuspecting people by crooks like this. But in the end Greed causes all of this, greed on both sides, the thief and the sucker.
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@mrsl2008 (635)
25 Apr 09
I haven't read any of your other posts as this is the first time I've come accross you x I don't think greed always plays part of the "sucker", I've disscussed things with many people of late who have lost their jobs or wages/hours cut and are just looking for ways to keep afloat. I think desperation would be a better word then greed for the "sucker" From the sound of it you or someone else has already done the right thing and good for you!! Too many vulnerable people on the internet at the minute, one less con artist is a good thing, it's just a shame they are your friend. It's also a shame that there will be someone to pick up where he left off. I just hope people get wise and quick Mrsl x
@kprofgames (3103)
• United States
25 Apr 09
I'm unsure of what hook letters are, but you can reply to take you off the contact list. It is unsolicited mail and if you continue to get them report them. Just because they are a friend doesn't mean that you should cover it up or ignore it.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
25 Apr 09
my understanding of a hooked letter is one of those that says you have won so much in our Lottery and we have a check ready for you to deposit, just give us your account number and the name of your bank and we will deposit it for you. Or any of the very many variations of this letter that hooks you into give your information out.
• United States
26 Apr 09
That is a securities scam and should be reported. Friend or not, they are in the wrong.
• United States
26 Apr 09
Oh, Pat! What a horrible situation! I thnk I'd report it to the ISP, but I'd probably lose a friend. I don't think I'd really want that person as a friend, though. Karma should slap him or her around a bit -- they've earned that!
@Trensue (5253)
• United States
26 Apr 09
I would have to have a conversation with my friend and let them know how I felt. Even if the friendship continued after the discussion I would ask that there be no correspondence via email and that they remove me from their address book. I do not wish to be associated with such activities. I am guessing most would be happy to end the friendship because they had been caught.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 09
I have received many of that in my emails. I would just ignore it and pretend I did not see the letter and continue the friendship. Some people are just trying to play some kind of jokes on us.
@xcapex (48)
• United States
26 Apr 09
I would tell him/her that he/she could get caught and it would not be good, and that I suggest for them to stop immediately.
• United States
26 Apr 09
i'd make sure their machine wasn't hijacked first. some trojan/viruses infect the mailbox and send things to everyone on their list.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
26 Apr 09
Hi savipat. First of all I would be extremely disappointed. I would certainly approach my friend and talk to him or her about it and explain that this behaviour would have to stop or I would report him or her to the Authorities. I would want to know why and consider my friend's circumstances as to what may have lead to the criminal behaviour before deciding whether to continue with the friendship. As a rule I would not want to be friends with someone who intentionally broke the law especially by stealing from people but because life is not black and white I would weigh the situation carefully.
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
I'll activate his/her conscience LOL;P well, I think it's enough to remind that person of what crime that person is committing maybe 2-3 times so you won't be accountable.but if that person doesn't want listen, then you had enough. your a nice friend for doing that :)
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
26 Apr 09
How close are you to this friend? It would be hard if not impossible for me to rat out a good friend. I would try to talk my friend into stopping it. I would not ask for a cut for sure. I would not want to be involved and who blackmails a friend anyway? I think I would just not be so connected to this person. Sooner or later he will get caught and / or hurt someone that I know and care about or maybe even me. It doesn't sound like anyone that I would want to be really close to.
@tzaddi (395)
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
first i 'll tell my friend to stop, and if my friend doesn't.. well if my friend still continues these fraudulent activities then i'm gonna have to report him to the authorities so they can make immediate actions for my friend's behavior..ΓΌ
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
26 Apr 09
Hi pat~ Are you sure that it is really your friend? I wouldn't do or say anything. I would just leave it alone. I wouldn't want to get involved in any way. I certainly wouldn't inform the FBI! you definitely don't want to get involved in that sort of mess! You would really have to be sure about it if you wanted to confront them. As for continuing with the friendship, now that might be a bit more difficult!
@KUSHANK55 (2437)
• India
26 Apr 09
the first thing i will break all my relations with such a person and never claim him / her to be my friend. besides also initiating the necessary action!!
• United States
26 Apr 09
First of all I have no idea what a "hook letter" is, but knowing me I would say somethin that's just how I am. Ask any one who knows me lol. I would ask what they thought they were doing" And what would you do if you got caught? See what they have to say about the fact that you know what the deal is. And just take it from there. You have have a hard task of reporting them.
@GardenGerty (101792)
• United States
26 Apr 09
I would first hope that someone else is using your friend's name. Then, in that hope, I would approach them, saying that "I received this scam e mail today, and funny thing is, they were using one of your names. I reported it, of course, because I knew it was not you." I would, then report it, if I had not done so already.
@benny128 (3621)
25 Apr 09
I would report them if they didnt stop after I told them I knew. If you allow them to continue you are no better than the person doing the scam. Just look at how many people here on mylot complain about scam sites your friend is one of those scam sites. Sorry for being blunt.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
25 Apr 09
well, if i come to know that my friend is misusing the facilities of internet and cheating then i would point blank tell that person that he/she is doing wrong and would also let that person know that i would not continue my friendship with a cheater. finally, if the person does not stop the dirty activities then i would surely cut off from the person and block that person from my list of friends.
• United States
25 Apr 09
Hello savypat, I would talk to him and let him no that you are uncomfortable with these types of activities and that you want no part in them. Tell him that you think he should stop before he gets in trouble. And that you don't hang out with people who do this type of thing. Also, tell him to take you off his cheating email list.