How long can you keep a secret ?

April 25, 2009 4:17pm CST
Recently, I have been bombarded with people trusting me with their secrets. As much as I appreciate the gesture of people trusting me but I can't take any more secrets!! I have kept a lot of secrets and now I dont want anymore. Do you feel burdened with other people's secrets?? Now I'm thinking of getting a t-shirt slogan so i make my point clear.. Keep your secrets to yourself! or am I just being unfair?? Let me know your thoughts on this.. thanks
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25 responses
• United States
25 Apr 09
Sometimes people just need to vent. I usually let them tell me whatever they want and dont think twice about it. Its their problem and they just want to talk. They dont want advice they just need to get it out. So listen and dont sweat it. It is what it is..... just dont tell any of these people your secrets!!
25 Apr 09
Hehehe.. no I never tell anyone my secrets!! It's just God that knows about them.. Your right though.. some people just want it all out.. welcome to my lot by the way and I hope you enjoy it here as i do.. xxx happy my lotting
• United States
25 Apr 09
I have the same problem. I write everything down in a journal and someday when I die I'm going to have all thier secrets published! By writing all them down then you get to tell someone, even if it is yourself and then you get to unburden yourself and still keep their confidence. I like your tee-shirt idea but remember when you have a secret to tell...you don't want to have no one to turn to. Good luck!!
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25 Apr 09
Hey flowerpups welcome to my lot! nice name by the way.. I do actually keep a journal. Been keeping it since I was 13.. so they are definitly a lot of secrets in there.. Happy my lotting xx
@lumenmom (1996)
• United States
26 Apr 09
I have no problem keeping secrets because most of the time the secrets I am told I have no interest in repeating. Either I have no interest in the secret itself or the person telling me the secret is someone I would not want to betray. Now that I have gotten older gossip doesn't fulfill me and nothing is so shocking to me that I feel I have to tell it.
@UK_Shree (3604)
27 Apr 09
Thats a really interesting view. I know what you mean, when I was younger I would be interested in the sordid details people offloaded onto me, but these days I tend to keep other peoples details to myself. Gossip just isn't that great.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Secrets, how long can you keep a secret. If a person trust you enough to share a secret you should feel honored and try ur best to keep it....... I wouldn't go so far as to make a tee shirt slogan though. Happy mylotting.
@Rakhi6c (299)
• India
26 Apr 09
I cant keep my secrets . I tend to tell out secrets i mean i cant be caught lying while trying to keep secrets . So guys dont tell your secrets to me :)
@haroont2 (101)
• United Arab Emirates
26 Apr 09
What i think that you should keep secrets till the it is revailed by the owner itslef.. thats how i think..
@kaleem_jr (106)
• Pakistan
26 Apr 09
There's an arabic proverb (Razoka aseeroka)"Your secret is your prisoner". Once you've freed it its no more a prisoner and not a secret any more. A secret is a secret if it is in your heart. I know there are some unsecret secrets made by ruling authorities to make realize people that government is going to do something and government does the opposite.
• China
26 Apr 09
Other people tell me his secret showing that he trusts me.Also i can keep secret.Ah,but too many secrets in the heart did suppress myself.The best is what we do all can see the light.Not tell our friends and family so many secrets,this will allow them feel the burden.
• India
26 Apr 09
As long as it needs to be kept . I would like be a person with integrity no matter anything the issue once something is told to you as a secret it needs to kept amnd that what i believe strongly in.
@tzaddi (395)
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
i can usually keep a secret for a long time. maybe a year, until i can't remember it anymore..haha!!so if somebody wants to tell me a secret, you better not..ü cause i'll just forget your secret..ü
• India
26 Apr 09
I'm proud to say that I'm very much good at keeping secrets. I know I can keep them without divulging to anybody and that's the reason many of my friends confide their secrets with me. But on the other hand I do not trust anyone, so I keep my secrets with myself, without sharing them with anyone. bourne
@ronaldinu (12445)
• Malta
26 Apr 09
Why don't you put a label... full with secrets... or .... I can't take any more secrets :) Yep I know the feeling when you hear and hear others with their personal problems that you feel burdened and you need your time to unwind and get your energy back.
@sambilay (175)
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
depending on what kind of secrets, if it is for goodness of the future, then it can last long. But if not, i believe it will not last and will be revealed. People keeping secrets that are related to bad feels hesitated that is why they are revealed.
@Archie0 (4669)
26 Apr 09
Well i can be sure that i am a good secret keeper.i can keep inside me any hidden thing forever if you tell me to do so, sometimes i do talk about some secrets but then they are not actually as they are aldready spreaded before me doing it.but the deep secrets are still kept in me and i can promise the person that he can be assure for that with me.
@berrys (865)
• Singapore
26 Apr 09
im in the same situation as you. my dear have a little sympathy, what else are friends for than to lend a ear to listen every once in a while? who else are going to be your friend's best friend if not you? i feel your annoyance agitation too as i once felt the same way. im sure if you wanted to tell some one something that person will be more than glad to be listening too. sometimes all it takes is for someone to talk to a friend to make them feel better and you are flaterred as people trust you and that's good. there's nothing wrong with what they're doing and you shouldn't be too harsh. i know its painful to hear things being repeated all the time but its for your friends sake. cheers love.
@junojose (43)
• India
26 Apr 09
I cant keep secrets either.I think when u have to keep secrets you have to be a bit matured in your mind.
@jdbalts (37)
• United States
26 Apr 09
Secrets are just a memories from the past that you keep it for a lifetime and you don't want it to tell anybody cause you're afraid of something... but secrets cannot be kept for a very very very long time.. You may feel guilt of that secret, or you just can't take it anymore on keeping it for your whole life and you feel burdened about it.. so you try to tell it to someone you trusted. But didn't you know that the person you trusted feel that burdened too? Think about it too... they also don't want it to keep it so they tell somebody, tell somebody, until everybody knows it and you may think that secret cannot be kept.... You have your secret? forget it! so you can't feel any burden....
• China
26 Apr 09
The way of keeping secrets is forget . If you can forget those things which you think them as secrets ,you can keep them for a whole life .How do you think about it ?
• United States
26 Apr 09
I can keep one for a long time. :-) Much like you, people tend to trust me with keeping their secrets. :-) For me, breaking a person's trust is a really difficult thing to do. :-) On the other hand, if the secret is something that must be told, for example abuse, then of course it would be mandatory to help that person seek the help that they need. :-) I guess for some keeping secrets is difficult to do, but for us, I guess, it comes quite natural. :-)... The idea of the t-shirt is really cute, but come on! :-) Do you think the people who trust you will believe that, :P. LOL. :-)
@flagella08 (5069)
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
i still do accept secrets from friends. it's like i can keep them forever or as long as whenever they want it. but in terms of my personal secrets, i don't usually share them with others. only God knows why and how. im just not fond of sharing secrets. sorry friends but that's me. but still you can trust me with your secrets.