Dead Marriage

India
April 26, 2009 9:00pm CST
Its not a very closed guarded secret that after few years or decade marriage seem to go down hill and spouses doesn't have a clue about it.The major reason I think for this is taking spouses taken for granted and in order to live in the rat race one forgets to give space to each other.And yet people keep on living in this dead marriages as they cant figure out how to mend it and instead working out things ,they look forward for another relationship or another marriage.I feel majority of marriages can be saved if people give a try to rejuvenate their marriage rather than looking for easy escape route of blaming the institution of marriage.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
27 Apr 09
This is a very good topic and something that I feel that everyone will have to go through someday. I've always envied those that have been married for 15-20 over years and I do know that just by looking at the outer surface, there is certainly lots of work into making the marriage last till that long. Someone told me before. In a marriage or partnership or couple-hood, there will always be 1 fire and 1 water. Not literally, but more towards if one is fiery, the other needs to be cool so that the relationship will lasts. This is my opinion on a very well-last marriage, but others might have different opinions and views though. I think boredom and too familiar with one another would be one of the most plausible reasons for spouses to 'get tired' with one another. Another major factor would most probably be lacking in certain areas like in the innermost personal intimate life that they share, or problems with families that they are coping with. Or perhaps both are too busy to have time for each other. It takes a real hard work to make a marriage work and I have always envied those that have embarked on the journey and braving to make it work. Came across this article on the net and thought of sharing it though. Good discussion here, keep it up. Here's the link: http://ezinearticles.com/?Advice-For-A-Happy-Marriage---5-Guidelines-To-Happiness&id=863496
• India
27 Apr 09
Well very well written. I really feel sorry for those who couldn't have a stable marriage. I am married for last 22 years and certainly its not been a very successful as well loving one but then after lots of sleepless nights infidelity and compromise, we made it work, may be we didnt made it work for ourselves but for our kids.I hate to give my kids a broken home which is far worse than a compromised marriage.
• India
27 Apr 09
Well very well written. I really feel sorry for those who couldn't have a stable marriage. I am married for last 22 years and certainly its not been a very successful as well loving one but then after lots of sleepless nights infidelity and compromise, we made it work, may be we didnt made it work for ourselves but for our kids.I hate to give my kids a broken home which is far worse than a compromised marriage.
• United States
28 Apr 09
No matter how long you are married, you must always work at it. After 30 years for me, it is still work like any relationship is. Yesterday I learned that my cousin passed away from a head injury that happened when he was cutting down a tree. He was 68 years old and I would wager that he was married well over 40 years. As memories of his life have crossed my mind today, I couldn't help but wonder how we take life so much for granted instead of embracing every precious moment.
• India
28 Apr 09
Exactly! We do take life for granted and thats pity and when you take life for granted then any kind of relationship is not going to work