What do you do when you get very angry?

Angry man - It has been seen that when people gets very angry then they do unusual things. They loose control. For example some people begin throwing things whatever they get in their hand. Some start shouting and some come down to fighting. There are some people who stop talking when they get very angry.This is a picture of an angry man who is plucking his hair.
@arkasen (748)
India
April 27, 2009 12:32pm CST
It has been seen that when people gets very angry then they do unusual things. They loose control. For example some people begin throwing things whatever they get in their hand. Some start shouting and some come down to fighting. There are some people who stop talking when they get very angry. I have a very simple question- What do you do when you get very angry?
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@flowerday (322)
• Singapore
27 Apr 09
hihi...i am someone who is easily agitated...over small matters and stuff, i will become very angry...but i wont become out of control, get out of hands, scream and shout...i will just control...control...control...and keep it all inside myself, and not show it at all when actually i am feeling very angry and unhappy inside.. it can be quite painful at times but after awhile, i am used to it... i do not see a point in losing control, there will be nothing good out of it...there will be more misunderstanding, more troubles, more problems....so whats the point of losing control...just keep it inside is much better isnt it... however, when things are really too overboard, and i really cannot stand it any more, i will lose my temper and become out of control..but that just happens once a while..i cant even really remember when was the last time it happened... afterall, getting angry is bad for health! stay happy!
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@arkasen (748)
• India
27 Apr 09
Yes I got your point. But it is not always good that you suppress your anger within your self. That is also harmful to health because you take so much pressure in your head for controlling yourself. Shouting or screaming sometimes help releasing the pressure. We always have to follow your rule in front of our bosses because it is the only option we have. You can not shout on your boss he may fire you so the only option available is to take the frustration with in yourself. LOL
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@chimrani (1431)
• India
27 Apr 09
[b]Friend really saying i don't get angry more.But some times i get angry and i just sit and discuss and responce on mylot.I get relax while working on mylot. Some times i hear music[/b]
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@arkasen (748)
• India
27 Apr 09
This is the most unusual response till now. I think probably you are the only person who think this way. In my lot sometimes we solve others problem. How do you manage to solve others problem or give proper reply to discussion being angry at the same time??
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• China
28 Apr 09
I think you must be good,will not be angry. For me , I will usually go to the side of fat heart, but i think this is very bad i have to change at random. Do not anger!
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@amitksing (1324)
• India
27 Apr 09
Whenever I get angry, I try to control myself and cool down. Anger is biggest foe of a person and we lose our control on our sense when we are angry. Whenever I get angry, I count from 10 to 0 (reverse counting). This helps a lot. Sometimes when even this doesn't seem to work, after 0, I start counting the correct way, till 10. This much time gets me cooled to a certain level from where I can control on myself. Another good way is to drink a glass full of water. Usually this can be done only when we are at our place. On other occasions, the reverse counting is what I go for. When I learnt about these methods, they seemed very funny to me. But I came to know about their worth when I tried them. These work!!
@arkasen (748)
• India
27 Apr 09
I do not find your method funny because I have some friends who also follow the same process. They told me that if you are angry then start counting from 10 to 0 and if still you can not gain control over it then start counting from 100 this will definitely stop doing from something that you never wanted to do like screaming or shouting on others.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
27 Apr 09
I am sorry to say, but i am a person who lose mt temper very easy, and i have 2 ways to show my angry; Depend with who i am angry..if i am with somebody who i care, i will fight and argue a lot, because is very importan t for me to fix the problem. If i get angry with somebody i don t care, and offence me or acusse me for something...i don t talk any more, just keep silance, until i ll receive his escusses. Of course are moments when even i am carring about this person, if offence me a lot, i will keep silance too
@arkasen (748)
• India
27 Apr 09
Yes you are right we mostly shout on people whom we care about. Because we have sentiments with them and when they do something wrong we feel heart. But if we do not care about those persons then it is not worth shouting on them.
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@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
27 Apr 09
I don't get truly angry very often, but when I do I tend to throw things. If I'm really mad I'll even start crying. I don't know why, but it helps.
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@arkasen (748)
• India
27 Apr 09
I have a very important question for you. Do you regret after you calm down for breaking the things of your house. Because it need money to buy something and when you break then then your money is gone. What kind of punishment do you get from other people of your house for doing this??
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@tzaddi (395)
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
hi there arkasen! sometimes, when i get very angry i usually stop talking and stay quiet cooling my head down. i don't want to start a fight or throw something because somebody might get hurt and i'm all to blame. so better stay calm and focus on releasing tension in your body than to lose control and boom! just an opinion!
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@anniefannie (1743)
• United States
27 Apr 09
If I get mad at some people I shout and some I don't say anything .It is who that or what makes me angry is how I react.
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@dodo19 (26645)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
27 Apr 09
When I get angry at a family member, or something, I tend to try to leave the room, and spend some time alone, in order to calm down as much as possible. Then, once I've calmed down, then I go back, and try to sort things out, with whomever I'm mad at. This is usually how it goes.
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@shell2784 (752)
• United States
28 Apr 09
Well - in my teenage years I used to actually get black out mad. Break things, bust things, throw things, scream and yell and pitch one helluva fit!! Then I did anger management classes and now the only time I actually get mad is at my parents-in-laws (c'mon... eveyone knows how that feels lol) of when I'm PMSing. Then I pretty much just spout off at the mouth, get quiet, clean more, try and stay away from everyone. I think I had TOO much anger management classes... I don't always get it all out if you know what I mean.
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@arkasen (748)
• India
28 Apr 09
Wow.. You did anger management class?? And what they teach you?? Is there any practical classes there. I mean did they first teach you how to control it and then make you angry to test that that you are really able to control it following the methods.
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• United States
28 Apr 09
I was in basic counseling combined with anger management for 6 years... yeah... I was an angry kid! lol Basically, I'm glad I was forced into them, but I wish I didn't do it all at the same time. They basically just instill in your mind that getting ridiculously angry is wrong. That there are ways around it... breathing, leaving... whatever your scape is. Basically... to avoid the situation that makes you angry. But I think it was a downfall in that... great. So I can put aside anger numerous amounts of times. I can sit there and grit my teeth and b---- silently in my head, I can tap my foot or a pen, I can get in the car and go for a drive (which isn't a good idea for me to do when I get mad... I tend to drive fast normally... piss me off and watch out! lol), I can lay in the tub with a good magazine/book whatever... but you know, you can only avoid things for so long... so basically, instead of snapping everytime... I snap about once a year. But it gets ugly! Really ugly! Last year I REALLY snapped at my mother in law (well, soon to be). Which luckily by the time I snapped, she, and everyone else, could understand why. So, even with all the classes and such, I can only control my anger 95% of the time or so. But I wish instead of teaching people how to avoid the feeling, the anger, the, however you would describe how you feel when yu get to that point - I wish they would have focused more on solving the problem at hand. Why avoid the problem? If something is really wrong, or if someone REALLY pisses you off... why let it rest at that? How about teaching people how to calmly put the rage aside, you know, the REALLY bad side of your anger aside but sill have the legit part there. Does that make sense? So, I think for the most part I do really well. Also, I try and keep in mind that I did my anger management from 10 years old to almost 16 years old... so "problems" are a whole lot different at that age then in adult hood... so that might be part of my set back. **oh, quick note. My soon to be mother in law and myself patched things up after about 5 or 6 days. She has anger problems (although she won't admit them) and told me that she was in the wrong. I called her... b/c I had to, I couldn't take it anymore. I explained to her that I wasn't sorry for what I said, I was apologizing ONLY for how I went about saying it. That I had a valid point that I needed to make and at the time, it seemed the only way she would listen was how I went about it. That I didn't mean to scream and yell at her, but I couldn't help it at the time and that I was sorry if I hurt her by doing that. SO - maybe I am doing a little better anyway. I just need to relize things like that BEFORE I blow my lid so to speak. SO - if anyone has any advice on THAT... PLEASE let me know! ***
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@Margajoe (4721)
• Germany
28 Apr 09
I don't get angry easy, but when I do, I usually walk away. The people that know me, let me walk away, if they don't I could start to fight. I don't like fighting. I have had this ever since I was 9 years old. Child Hood trauma. It does not go away. hahaha! Oh well, I normally just walk away until I cool off. Take care, have a nice evening!
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@Margajoe (4721)
• Germany
28 Apr 09
There are ladies that do that. This is why I avoid fighting with women. I used to be afraid I would hurt them. I grew up on a farm and was stronger than the city girls. I got into a fight when I was young and almost killed this girl. Not on purpose. But she started fighting, I had never fought before that. I kicked her in the head and she fell to the ground. That scared me so much, I said, no more fighting with girls. I rather walk away. It only happened once after that. Boy's, men not problem. But no hitting women. The last fight I had was not even 1 year ago. And I have a bad back. I am not strong like I used to be. I am almost 43 years old. hahaha! I don't like to fight. Problem is, I get angry and then I turn speechless, then my hands start to shake. Then it is too late! The last fight I had was with a young man of around 25. He wanted to fight with my BF. I looked at this, and just could not help myself. I kicked him out of the door. My BF was so angry with me. He thought he had everything in control, but he did not. Of course I was in pain for 3 days after that, my poor back. hahaha! I hope I don't need to fight anymore. I am too old! Seems the trauma I got when I was 9 is what triggered it. My adrenaline works faster than that of normal people. If the old man had not did what he did, I would not have become this way. It is not good for a women to loose control, believe me. And yes, I was a tomboy. hahaha! Take care, have a nice day.
• India
28 Apr 09
i will shout loudly on others and i can hit them hardly...
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@arkasen (748)
• India
28 Apr 09
I do not think that being violent is not a wise decision. Because being violent you cannot solve any problem, you will only make the problem bigger. I will suggest you not to be violent. You should try practicing patience. That is the only suggestion I have for you.
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@bilalk (5)
• Canada
28 Apr 09
For me, I am not an angry person, really. But yes, there are some moments where I snap and get very frustrated. At those moments, I usually try to calm myself down and try thinking that everything is going to be alright and that the whole situation will pass and become history. I did have a couple of incidents that I got very angry that I punched the wall once and the second time I broke one my favorite perfumes, very unfortunate.
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@arkasen (748)
• India
28 Apr 09
I think you need a little bit more control over the situation because you said that once you have punched in the wall to get ride of your anger. I am also very anxious to know that when you punched the wall in anger then what happened?? Did you broke the wall or broke your hand. LOL.
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@kidjuwee (612)
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
I shout when I am angry because sometimes I cannot control anymore. And it is hard for me to not shout when I'm angry. It just feels so good to shout.
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• Philippines
18 May 09
What's there to feel good about when you yell at someone whom your mad at? Don't you think that you might be not doing the good thing at all or even saying the right words and can you ever hear th e other person's saying if your yelling??? c'mon its not like your a lil child who can't seem to control her anger cos of lack of maturity. your a grown up now and dealing with the issue or problem that's making you mad will solve your problem and yelling won't help, it will just make things worst and will rather add fuel to the fire. not only will you save time of doing all the yelling and blaming and cursing, you will also save your throat from cancer since shouting and talking too much can irritate your throat and this will or is one of the contributing factors to throat problems and worst to cancer of throat, or any oral part of your body... hope u learned sumthin!!!
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
hello arkasen. i am patient man and i rarely get very angry but when i do, i just want to take a break from the situation for a while to cool down. i don't want to do something foolish in the heat of anger.
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@arkasen (748)
• India
28 Apr 09
I think no one of us want to do something foolish for which we have to regret later after calming down. But in the heat of the moment we sometimes do thinks that are not desired and then there are no other option but to regret.
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@chillpill90 (1937)
28 Apr 09
Well when i get angry i go quiet but then i go and do sport i find sport as a good realise of energy and it drains all your energy so you dont have time to be tired.
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@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
28 Apr 09
It all depends on what it is I'm angry about..if I get super ticked off I tend to become violent, loud and very aggressive on all levels...if I'm only semi angry I just natter and pace..
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• India
28 Apr 09
I am a very calm person and don't get angry very easily. But after all i am too a human being and getting angry is part of my daily routine. It depends on the situation and the person who is making me angry. Like if it is my boss, obviously i can't do anything to him...so i just bite my tongue and talk to my collegues and critisise him on his back....I am a very open person so if i get angry on my friends...i just shout on his face ....don't even care where i am standing..that cools me down...thankfully i have very understanding friends.... I have a very lovely family...they never make me angry....But you see never is a word with n in front of ever....so they make me angry too.....and i have tea .....tea calms me down.... so thats pretty much it....
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• Philippines
28 Apr 09
I usually contain myself first before I 'burst'. When I get frustrated, I keep quiet and sing. Hahaha! Singing is a wonderful stress and anger reliever.
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• China
28 Apr 09
Hi,arkasen,honestly,i'm a easy please girl,and i'm easy get angry.Yes,i'll out of control when i get angry,the first i'll yell the ppl who make me angry,heh..Now i'm try to control my emotion,i hope i would be success.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 09
I won't keep my anger inside, I'll talk about it with someone I trust. I won't let my anger go out of bounds. It will only raised my BP.
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