What do you do when you get very angry?

Yes I got your point. But it is not always good that you suppress your anger within your self. That is also harmful to health because you take so much pressure in your head for controlling yourself. Shouting or screaming sometimes help releasing the pressure. We always have to follow your rule in front of our bosses because it is the only option we have. You can not shout on your boss he may fire you so the only option available is to take the frustration with in yourself. LOL

This is the most unusual response till now. I think probably you are the only person who think this way. In my lot sometimes we solve others problem. How do you manage to solve others problem or give proper reply to discussion being angry at the same time??

I think you must be good,will not be angry. For me , I will usually go to the side of fat heart, but i think this is very bad i have to change at random. Do not anger!

I have a very important question for you. Do you regret after you calm down for breaking the things of your house. Because it need money to buy something and when you break then then your money is gone. What kind of punishment do you get from other people of your house for doing this??

I do not find your method funny because I have some friends who also follow the same process. They told me that if you are angry then start counting from 10 to 0 and if still you can not gain control over it then start counting from 100 this will definitely stop doing from something that you never wanted to do like screaming or shouting on others.

Yes you are right we mostly shout on people whom we care about. Because we have sentiments with them and when they do something wrong we feel heart. But if we do not care about those persons then it is not worth shouting on them.

There are ladies that do that. This is why I avoid fighting with women. I used to be afraid I would hurt them. I grew up on a farm and was stronger than the city girls. I got into a fight when I was young and almost killed this girl. Not on purpose. But she started fighting, I had never fought before that. I kicked her in the head and she fell to the ground. That scared me so much, I said, no more fighting with girls. I rather walk away. It only happened once after that. Boy's, men not problem. But no hitting women. The last fight I had was not even 1 year ago. And I have a bad back. I am not strong like I used to be. I am almost 43 years old. hahaha! I don't like to fight. Problem is, I get angry and then I turn speechless, then my hands start to shake. Then it is too late! The last fight I had was with a young man of around 25. He wanted to fight with my BF. I looked at this, and just could not help myself. I kicked him out of the door. My BF was so angry with me. He thought he had everything in control, but he did not. Of course I was in pain for 3 days after that, my poor back. hahaha! I hope I don't need to fight anymore. I am too old! Seems the trauma I got when I was 9 is what triggered it. My adrenaline works faster than that of normal people. If the old man had not did what he did, I would not have become this way. It is not good for a women to loose control, believe me. And yes, I was a tomboy. hahaha! Take care, have a nice day.

What's there to feel good about when you yell at someone whom your mad at? Don't you think that you might be not doing the good thing at all or even saying the right words and can you ever hear th e other person's saying if your yelling??? c'mon its not like your a lil child who can't seem to control her anger cos of lack of maturity. your a grown up now and dealing with the issue or problem that's making you mad will solve your problem and yelling won't help, it will just make things worst and will rather add fuel to the fire. not only will you save time of doing all the yelling and blaming and cursing, you will also save your throat from cancer since shouting and talking too much can irritate your throat and this will or is one of the contributing factors to throat problems and worst to cancer of throat, or any oral part of your body... hope u learned sumthin!!!

I do not think that being violent is not a wise decision. Because being violent you cannot solve any problem, you will only make the problem bigger. I will suggest you not to be violent. You should try practicing patience. That is the only suggestion I have for you.

I was in basic counseling combined with anger management for 6 years... yeah... I was an angry kid! lol Basically, I'm glad I was forced into them, but I wish I didn't do it all at the same time. They basically just instill in your mind that getting ridiculously angry is wrong. That there are ways around it... breathing, leaving... whatever your scape is. Basically... to avoid the situation that makes you angry. But I think it was a downfall in that... great. So I can put aside anger numerous amounts of times. I can sit there and grit my teeth and b---- silently in my head, I can tap my foot or a pen, I can get in the car and go for a drive (which isn't a good idea for me to do when I get mad... I tend to drive fast normally... piss me off and watch out! lol), I can lay in the tub with a good magazine/book whatever... but you know, you can only avoid things for so long... so basically, instead of snapping everytime... I snap about once a year. But it gets ugly! Really ugly! Last year I REALLY snapped at my mother in law (well, soon to be). Which luckily by the time I snapped, she, and everyone else, could understand why. So, even with all the classes and such, I can only control my anger 95% of the time or so. But I wish instead of teaching people how to avoid the feeling, the anger, the, however you would describe how you feel when yu get to that point - I wish they would have focused more on solving the problem at hand. Why avoid the problem? If something is really wrong, or if someone REALLY pisses you off... why let it rest at that? How about teaching people how to calmly put the rage aside, you know, the REALLY bad side of your anger aside but sill have the legit part there. Does that make sense? So, I think for the most part I do really well. Also, I try and keep in mind that I did my anger management from 10 years old to almost 16 years old... so "problems" are a whole lot different at that age then in adult hood... so that might be part of my set back. **oh, quick note. My soon to be mother in law and myself patched things up after about 5 or 6 days. She has anger problems (although she won't admit them) and told me that she was in the wrong. I called her... b/c I had to, I couldn't take it anymore. I explained to her that I wasn't sorry for what I said, I was apologizing ONLY for how I went about saying it. That I had a valid point that I needed to make and at the time, it seemed the only way she would listen was how I went about it. That I didn't mean to scream and yell at her, but I couldn't help it at the time and that I was sorry if I hurt her by doing that. SO - maybe I am doing a little better anyway. I just need to relize things like that BEFORE I blow my lid so to speak. SO - if anyone has any advice on THAT... PLEASE let me know! ***

Wow.. You did anger management class?? And what they teach you?? Is there any practical classes there. I mean did they first teach you how to control it and then make you angry to test that that you are really able to control it following the methods.

I think no one of us want to do something foolish for which we have to regret later after calming down. But in the heat of the moment we sometimes do thinks that are not desired and then there are no other option but to regret.

I think you need a little bit more control over the situation because you said that once you have punched in the wall to get ride of your anger. I am also very anxious to know that when you punched the wall in anger then what happened?? Did you broke the wall or broke your hand. LOL.