Marriage changes a person....???

@uditpanda (1023)
India
April 27, 2009 2:06pm CST
My childhood buddy just got married 6 months back. He used to be the same old friend with me for 2/3 months. Gradually I am noticing changes in him as a person. He has become more reserved & not really sharing everything with me fully as he used to be. What do you think people ?? Does marriage really changes some aspects of the person ?? Or its just my feeling ??
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4 responses
@hmkoct5 (2065)
• United States
27 Apr 09
I think getting married can cause somebody to change, but only temporarily. They have to adjust to their new life. I think it's normal. But, it shouldn't last very long. If it does, then it may be because they have a very controlling spouse. I think the best thing to do is talk to your friend. Tell them how you feel. Maybe they don't even realize they are doing it.
@uditpanda (1023)
• India
27 Apr 09
I too wish that it is temporary. My friends wife is a very good person ...so no complains from her side. Actually i have tried to indicate the change in my friend to him indirectly. But now i guess its time that I must talk to him. He is one such friend you don't want to part way with in life.I posted the question to know the general notion of people abt it. Thank you for replying. Have a nice time at mylot.
@prinzcy (32326)
• Malaysia
29 Apr 09
Marriage does change a person, by good or worst. Usually, people will be more mature and responsible with their new role in life. They can't no longer be or act like they use to when they're single. They will also spend less and less time with us who just a friend. You have to respect his new life. He is with someone that he may spend an eternal life with.
@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Hello uditpanda, well from my own experience with this. Yes marriage changes a person. The married friend has new priorities, the spouse.If childreb are added then the children and spouse take the highest priority.
@dmrone (746)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Hi uditpanda!! I do believe a marriage changes a person, aswell as having a child. I think that when a person finds someone they want to spend their life with, they have found a friend whom they can talk to about everything. It has been that way for me, i do not talk to my best friend about certain things anymore, but i do talk about them with my husband.