Are you kind to yourself?

I TRY to follow what my head knows is the right way but my heart can be a real pain. My own mirror shows me to be kind but troubled, human though I deny it if I can. It is so hard to listen to the inner voice that knows we are being to hard or even not hard enough.

Hello there pose. I do encounter such situation in my life. It is easy to encourage others to move on but it gives such a difficult feeling when I am in a similar situation. At times, I try to solve things out by my own, but i end up being discouraged at myself. And through those times, it made me realize how weak I am; it is totally impossible for me to solve problems by my own strength. Nevertheless, I can say that I always manage to move on through God's help.

I have always been very critical of myself partly because it was how I was raised (nothing I ever did or do has been good enough for my family) and partly becuase i'm a Virgo and we are perfectionists LOL....However over the yrs I've slowly but surely learned to NOT be so harsh on myself though sometimes it really is a task for me...especially without my medication for depression...I know that when I go off my meds for whatever reason for any period of time i pretty much beat myself up left, right and centre..

Not really. My disposition does not in any way attract any sort of kindness as I often feel that I am one among those who are living a cursed life.

sometimes it's easy to give advice to other people but when we experience the same situation, it seems that we find it hard to follow the best advice. Maybe it's because we are still hurt, in pain and confused. but for me, I'm not really that harsh to myself, i'll just do what is best for me.

I always have been the way i wanted to be n the way i like other to be too. Its so sick to see people hate others for stupid reasons n i never do tat. I expect everyone to be kind n friendly n i always am tat way no matter wat the other person does to me .. But after all these years i ve only found that m the only one to be so kind n soft to people holding everything within n not hurting anyone .. They just 'find' mistakes u wouldn ve done intentionally n even if u forgive dem always, they wouldn.. Now i feel its not like u teaching others your way. Its jus tat u must learn everyones way of bein rude at times and kind depending on situation to live on wit respect n care.

THat would be me......I am very hard on myself....while very patience and forgiving to others I have a tendency to beat myself up over even small things....it's like a perfection complex....the house used to have to always be clean or I would stay up until it was....I have gotten past that one now as I am so busy with other things...but if someone critizes me.....I can be in the dumps for a while.

I realize that no matter what has happened, I have done the very best I can with the information I had at the time. I try to learn from each situation and never go back to the past, because there is nothing I can do about it now. If I can just get through life without hurting anyone I will be very happy.

I get really upset when ever i missed something or don't do the job well. it's not every day that we get to push ourselves just for the sake of either living out of the fear or making us a better person. but i can be kind to myself, most specially if things are clam and gold.

I can so relate to your words! I am great at giving advice and telling others to be kind and take care of themselves but I can be my own worst enemy! I expect perfection from myself which intellectually I know is an impossible! It is one of my lessons in life I think; to learn to become my own friend instead of a dictator! I often have a hard time letting go of guilt which I know is a useless emotion. I am working to change that part of myself because I don't want my daughter to emulate such self deprecation.

Well this one does happened to me most of the time. Its like ,its much easier to help others than to help ourselves. Sometimes we need to listen to ourselves speak this words of encouragement for us to believe it somehow that this things we say to others can also be applied to us and sometimes when it would be our turn to have this kind of situations our friends will be the one to remind us what we told them before. I hope I am not confusing you pose. have a good day.

Pose- I'm incredibly hard on myself. If something is every brought up about me I tend to take it very personally and work to change it. It's the struggle of "You can't please all of the people all of the time" for me. It's been something I've been working on for a long time, but still struggle with. I at times find that certain things said to me can remain on my mind for a long time, even when they seem to have faded away from anyone truly commenting or such. So, I've been really working on those positive affirmations that I teach others about. (Trying to live what I preach so to speak ) So, with that, I'm working on truly accepting me, even when I make mistakes because I generally learn from them and everyone makes mistakes. Namaste-Anora

i will set a target to myself. so i will not do wrong things anyday and won't to be mean to punish myself. but if i have some careless mistakes, i won't be mean to punish myself. i will kind and ask myself where do i do wrong and do better next time. be happy always!