Are you an Active Listener?

United States
April 28, 2009 9:41pm CST
When other people are talking, do you really listen to what they are saying?? Or, do you find yourself gazing out the window, daydreaming or thinking about someone else?? Becoming an active listener is important in all relationships. To become an active listener: (1) Listen to what a person is saying and pay attention to body language. Ask yourself, what is the main idea that this person is trying to get across?? What are they concerned about or interested in? (2) Then be sure to respond to the person's main idea, concern, or interest appropriately. (3) Also, be sure that you have met the requirement or purpose of the conversation. For example, your lover comes to you concerned that she is going to lose her job. You should (1) listen to those concerns and body language (which probably insinuates stress) and (2) respond appropriately. You wouldn't want to simply say, "Okay," because obviously the speaker want more out of the conversation than to simply inform you of a layoff. (3) If you ask yourself what the pupose of this message is, you will clearly see that "Okay," is the absolute WRONG response. Instead, you will respond with a concerned demeanor and most likely try to convince your spouse that everything will workout, reguardless what happens. So.....Are you an active listener?
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@sharksfin (1098)
• Philippines
28 May 09
I believe I am an active listener. Too active that I understand every gesture and I can even tell what the other person can't say but needs to say. It is my nature to listen as I draw learnings from every story I hear. It is important for me to give someone my time by listening especially when the person needs an ear. We all need someone to listen and knowing this, I do my part and I give my best whenever someone wants me to listen.
@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
hmmm.. i sure can say i am.. i'm a pretty good listener.. probably one of the reasons why most of my friends usually confide their problems with me first rather than going to other people..