what will u do when u find the ppl u like with some disgusting peculiarity ?

China
April 30, 2009 11:08am CST
today i find some disgusting thing by accident that the guy i adored and respected did something really make me disgusting.it's hard to accept such kind of things and vulgar to describe it in here.maybe he has this peculiarity and i never find this till today.his perfect image crashed in my bottom of heart.i feel a little down , when i thought this disgusting odd action,i do not want to see him. my friends,If u meet such kind of things, what will u do next?leave him or like and support him as before while still keep this secret as an unexpected finding .
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9 responses
• Afghanistan
30 Apr 09
If you really liked him a lot you must take everything about him period
• China
30 Apr 09
yeah.but if i can't collect all the truth,i will be hurted badly at last .the reason is he is the guy i adore and like.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
30 Apr 09
I guess it would all depend on what the dirty little secret was. I can't off the top of my head imagine anything so horrible that it would cause me to think less of someone or end a friendship. I try not to set too many expectations on the people in my life. We are all human and not perfect. If it is that troubling to you, I think you should discuss it with him....maybe you'll feel better.
• China
30 Apr 09
nobody is perfect.to err is human.maybe i should forgive him.it's no big deal/but it really take some time to get through it.ths my friend:)
@love2talk (115)
• India
30 Apr 09
I can understand through what you are going. See there are different aspects of people we adore and sometimes it takes years to know the real person.I know that if the person does something of crime or injustice to anyone, in that pretex I will never see this person again. I can't tolerate injustice and wrong things.You might have seen something bad that is putting you down.I will just tell you that , sit alone and think about what you saw and how it can affect your life. If it's something your heart says that can be forgiven then forget the whole incident forever. But if it still makes you feel very low indeed and something like..How could he do this!!, then never see him again.
• China
30 Apr 09
he used to be a pefect ppl in my heart just like a white paper.but this spot maybe can be enlarged in this paper coz he is nearly flawless.u are right,i should sit alone and listen to my heart. ths for your kind suggestion
• United States
30 Apr 09
It depends on what the "disgusting" thing is. Wish I could be more help, but it's impossible to know. What one person thinks is disgusting, other people may not. And in that case, you might want to see if you can understand it and learn to live with it. On the other hand, some things are just plain awful, and if it's a regular thing, then you might be better off without the guy. So it really just depends on what it is.
• China
30 Apr 09
Ths fou your reply ~ well,this disgusting thing haunting me all the time and i am still not live with it.i am still in the dilemma now.maybe i should know more this guy to find the truths if he worth me to adore and then make a decision ---move on or withdraw now.
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
1 May 09
If this is a basic characteristic that is going to have an impact on you then you must cut him out.On the other hand , if it is a personal characteristic which he has and is not likely to come your way then you must ignore it if othewise he isa good person.Determine whether this is an attribute or action,whether this is going to affect his character ,whether some day it is going to disgrace you no end and then take action.On the other hand it was something personal that he was up to when you were not looking ,[like clumsily digging his nose], and it is a rare occurrence think welll before taking any action.If it is an unrefined thing that your sensibilities would not allow to live with then leave him.
@jkatmaou (195)
• Philippines
1 May 09
i don't remember who said this: "it is because of your imperfections, that you are to me, perfect". well, its true for me. the one i love has amzing peculiarities that can be downright disgusting, but still, i love him. but if i can help him get rid of it, then why not? talk it over with him, if he asks for help, then help him. if he refuses and it really bothers you, it wouldn't be wrong if you leave him.
1 May 09
If it disgusts you so much, it is time to sing.. so long, farewell, its time to say goodbye... On the other hand, you think you can be his mentor and help him out of whatever disgusting thing he engages in, then I suppose you should. You say you used to adore him but after finding this out you have kinda lost your respect for him. Things can however still change. People and their disgusting ways can change, and you may start liking him again. Who knows!
@carann (262)
• United States
30 Apr 09
I can think of several things that would make me turn my back on someone. I don't know what your situation is at all but if its a private thing that a person does that you dont like maybe you can get past it. No one can decide that but you. If is a broken law like a crime against children or a past murder etc along those lines I don't think I could forgive and forget that kind of thing. Private habit maybe but crime against another person probably not.
@Ozarkgirl (774)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Depending on what that secert is and that disgusting thing is would depend on my reaction and if I would stay with him. However I would let him know that I know this thing and talk to him about it and ask him why. Then depending on his response to the Why would also help me with the decision as if I am going to continue seeing him or not.