which hurts the most the TRUTH or the LIE?

@HelScream (2828)
Philippines
May 1, 2009 3:37am CST
Well for me i can leave with the truth no matter how painful it gets but I can never leave with the lie.... I am not perfect person and I may not always say the truth by not answering when asked. For me it's better to keep silent then answer with a lie. How about you my friend which does hurt you the most the truth of the lie?
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62 responses
• Philippines
1 May 09
it's very difficult for me to lie, so as much as possible i try to avoid situations when i need to. thank goodness, i never had to. no matter how painful it can be, it's much better to be truthful. lies can cost us a lot in the long run and it's hard to live with. i can live with the consequences of the truth. i don't think i could accept the consequences of a lie. i don't want to be lied to, because it's an act of intent. even if that person did not intend for me to be hurt, he may have intented for me to not know the truth either. i'd rather face up to the truth, because at least i know what i'm facing at. with a lie, you wouldn't know...
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
1 May 09
well said my friend ... Just hurt now I guess cant say much but all I can say is you said it well... I am into this situation right now regarding this thing .... and I think she take what I asked her the wrong way.... I dont know where this one would lead us... I just dont know....
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• Philippines
1 May 09
i don't know what you are up against... but suddenly i felt sad. before i knew it, the tears just flowed. i don't know why. and i don't even know you. i'm sorry if you are in a hot seat right now. i don't even know why i'm crying. maybe i'm feeling the sadness... yes people may take it the wrong way, no matter what we say. some people would rather not know. they'd rather be kept in the dark than be hurt. because then they could pretend everything's ok... when it's not. the truth and the lie can both hurt a person, albeit differently. but tell the truth anyway. it may not be the best thing to do... but it's the right thing to do.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
1 May 09
It was her who lied to me ... I asked her why she lied to me but she took it differently.... I thought she trusted me but I guess I was wrong ... sorry to put you into my situation my friend...I guess you just feel me that i am so down thats why you have reacted that way....i just need someone to talk though and with this discussion at least I have you to voice it out with...now dont cry ok ....
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
8 May 09
The lie will cause the most hurt because eventually the truth will come out and everything will be dredged up again and wounds reopened.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
11 May 09
Well I guess you have a point there my friend. But thats why forgiveness is hard to do as well coz some say they forgive you but never really actually forgets.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
12 May 09
Forgiveness has nothing to do with forgetting.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
12 May 09
To totally forgive for me is to forget about the wrong that has been done to bring back the trust that once was broken as you have mentioned wounds reopened once you forgive that wound will heal and healed wounds never re opened unless being wounded on the same spot if you know what I mean as as forgiving true forgiveness goes along with forgetting for the wounds to heal.
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@commanderxo (1496)
• Canada
1 May 09
Like you, I'm more partial to hearing the truth, even if it may hurt a little. "Honesty is the best policy", has always been my slogan. I would be more upset by a lie, than the truth. Good question. Cheers; cdrxo
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
1 May 09
Thanks for the complement my friend... You know you are one of my friends here at mylot who always respond to my discussions and not hearing from you in a day would somehow make me missed some of my friends here.... thanks for being here my friend and by the way i am just telling the truthhave a good day.
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• Canada
2 May 09
That YOU for those kind words. Truthfully, it's always a pleasure. Friends ARE what the world needs more of, and that's no lie either. Have yourself a great day my friend. Cheers; cdrxo
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
2 May 09
yeah indeed friends and friends we shall be... have a good day too my friend
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@cortney09 (1346)
• United States
4 May 09
I feel like they both may hurt, depending on what you are the other person is going to say. I would rather someone tell me the truth and have it hurt than hide the truth from me, even if it's to spare my feelings. I think truth is so important because I think being deceitful is just not right.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
5 May 09
It my be hard to face the truth but it better to know it ...some lies can be beneficial but most lies hurts.....
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@cortney09 (1346)
• United States
8 May 09
That is so very true. I would much rather be told the truth, even if it hurts.
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@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
3 May 09
I preffer the truth even if it hurt, I would not like to be friends with some one who lies I have had several experiences when I have being lied to and is not a good feeling.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
3 May 09
what if it's someone close to you who lied to you ..... it would really hurt hearing lies from them right the more coz they are close to us.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
4 May 09
Today I found out something I did refuse to believe,a very close family member was helping himself to my savings I knew there was money missing from my bank account and I asked the bank for an investigation into it.Well today the bank contacted me and they say it was your pin number and your card, and I know that this close family member was the only one who knew my pin number and had access to my card because sometimes I can't get to the bank and I used to trust this person to do it for me. Im not just dissapointed Im hurt, and in shock that someone I love and help so much can do that to me! the thing is I won't confront this person because it will cause a family argument and I don't want that I will let it be but I will never trust this person again and I feel very sad about it, Im not angry Im just sad.
5 May 09
a LIE hurts deeply. if one can't tell the truth, then that person should keep his/her mouth shut always. i find it harder to recover from a lie. once i know the truth, i am more able to put it behind me and, hopefully, learn the lesson presented. but a lie? it will always haunt me as i question why one would lie any way.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
6 May 09
some lies dont hurt that much as you will read some of the replies here but most of the lies really do destroy a person ... this kind of lie is what I am referring about and yes I am just wondering to why ....
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@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
5 May 09
a lie hurts more because at least if truth hurts you know the person has enough respect in you to tell you the truth. but a lie deprives you of your dignity since someone views you not valuable enough not to hear or know of the truth
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
6 May 09
you have it right. Trust and respect is what you feel if someone say you the truth and if a lie the lie that really huts and do bad things to people you will get mistrust and doubts. this would certainly hurt you.
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@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
5 May 09
Well, telling someone the Truth, especially when it Hurts someone, including yourself might be hard, but yet, it is something easier to accept than covering up things, or telling someone a lot of lies to cover yourself, and getting caught in the end. Actually I despise someone who is constantly lying, and feel that eventually they will not know the Truth from a LIE, and it could come back to haunt them and loose a lot of friends in the end.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
5 May 09
well i certainly agree in all you say sometimes it is the measure of any relationship on how much you can be totally honest with them. I know truth is indeed hard to do easier said than done...but with truth you offered trust as well and if you can handle truth from them that only means that you are being true with those persons a real one.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 May 09
i think a lie hurts alot more than the truth no matter how bad the truth can be. i hate to be lied to & hate a person to lie to me. there is no way a lie could better. it something a person doesn't have to do. some people lie when the truth would do better. i think it is a sickness that people have who lie all the time. i have never understood why people lie because the truth will come out sooner or later.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
4 May 09
yeah i do believe that but as some say some lies are also beneficial depends on the lie...and some made there point out of it. But there are those lies that really do hurt.
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@meandmy3 (2228)
• United States
3 May 09
I would much rather hear the truth, in the long run lies only cause more problems and more pain, because the truth is going to come out and when it does the person is hurt not only by the truth but also by the fact that yo lied to them.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
4 May 09
truth and lie both hurts but lie hurts the most. I breaks trust and add more doubts to friendship and relationship.
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@bhanusb (5709)
• India
3 May 09
If anyone say he or she don't tell lie that person is a great lair. To tell lie is not good.But if a lie save one person then why should I not tell lie.I think we can tell harmless lie.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
4 May 09
yeah I agree nobody is perfect. and yes sometimes lie is also needed those harmless lie that can be beneficial...
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• China
3 May 09
Well I would like to be told the truth rather than the lie,even when the truth is reaaly painful.I just want to know the truth no matter what it is and hate to be cheated.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
3 May 09
truth hurts but its the only way for you to know it its the only way out.... some truth hurts some truth dont. but lies hurts the most for me...
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
3 May 09
It may hurt, but we can learn to live with the truth. Usually, I would rather leave the liar than to have to live with his lies.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
3 May 09
hahah you got me on the last part lol i have to read it twice lol thats original" rather leave the liar than to have to live with a lie" I like that
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@csrobins (1125)
• United States
3 May 09
Well, I guess if you don't know it's a lie and it never affects you then the lie can be less harmful and less painful. But I think most people would say the truth even if they mucst surpass blissful ignorance to come to grips with it. I think I would prefer teh truth...at least I know that's what I would say if given the chance, still though, I'm sure a part of me wants to be protected though and not have to know the truth if it is terrible. Two things are true about human beings: everyone wants information (the truth) and everyone wants to be happy (as evidenced by almost everything we do). The two desires cannot both be reconcoled at all times. But when they do it is pretty aesome thing that should not be taken for granted.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
3 May 09
with truth once worth is measured and you too would learn how much they care for you if they can accept the truth from you but if they cant then at least you tried telling them the right thing....
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@tzaddi (395)
• Philippines
1 May 09
well i think that a lie hurts more than the truth. some truths are meant to be painful, that's why some of us keep it as a secret. but lies, are more painful, because they are painful and they are not true. so you feel double the pain when somebody lies. but you know. there's a truth because there's a lie. the balance of nature. the yin and yang. like, there's no good guy if there's no bad guy. it's hard to explain but i hope you get my point. anyways happy earning!
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
1 May 09
yeah I understood perfectly what you say balance of being human where there is happiness there is sadness ..... same goes with truth and lie....
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@sayh123 (150)
• Philippines
1 May 09
Well in my opinion both of that situation are the same thing to hurts.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
1 May 09
yeah it does hurt us in both ways my friend ....
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@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
1 May 09
This is a difficult one. If you're not strict with answers lol!, then i think both of them hurts. The truth hurts most if it is something unpleasant or something that we didn't expect to be true. Like for example, the truth might hurt if we have found out that our girlfriend was a man before. lol! Just an example ok? I seriously think that any truth that isn't told is considered a lie. What do you think?
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
1 May 09
well i wont make this one hard for you my friend.... truth is good lie is bad right so its clear that lie hurts lol well you are right about everything you say.....and thanks for you funny sample
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@AikaruJ (281)
• Philippines
1 May 09
i agree.. i would rather hear the truth even if it hurts the most, than hear something that is completely a lie.. The truth will always be the truth, and it will always set us free.. so we will eventually learn how to accept it and live with it.. but a lie is always a lie.. In the long run, it will continue to haunt us and still hurt us..
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
1 May 09
yeah you are right no matter how hard we keep a lie it will always come out in the open so whats the point of lying better tell the truth at least it would set you free.... If that person cant handle the truth then that person doesn't really care for you at all....
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• Philippines
1 May 09
I'd prefer to be told with a truth even though it hurts but its tough to know the truth than to be told with a lie.. Lies hurts much more than the truth!..
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
1 May 09
Yes my friend it does hurt like hell.. Truth always prevail lie never succeed
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@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
1 May 09
Definitely the lie. I can't live with it too. Sometimes, I just can't go through the lie. If you can't tell me the truth. You just don't have to say anything at all. Don't even lie.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
1 May 09
same here not telling and telling a lie is different thing just can stand with a lie though.... that is what I am very particular of....
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