work or love?

Vietnam
May 2, 2009 10:03am CST
Today in my class have a interesting topic be discussed. I want to know your opinion. ^^ The problem is when a person have a good job and he/she really enjoy the work. However, his/her lover want him/her to quit the job because some reasons. For example the work require communication with so many people, or go outside too many times... Should he/she quit the job as the lover wish or keep it no matter what? Place you in that position and imagine some cases and try to solve them. Do you want to know my opinion? I think that if I really enjoy my job, I will never let someone tell me to do any things. In my country, I see many people in that case. Many choose to quit their job. Some choose to leave their lovers. This's just a discussion. I think about it and something new coming to my mind. Just try, maybe you're too. Enjoy your mylotting!
17 responses
@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
3 May 09
It does depend on the job. A normal job is 8 hours a day + travelling time. You cannot leave your job... unless you and your lover are prepare to live on bread and water. However... if your job requires you to work 12 hours a day... it does not leave any time for a relationship... and your lover has every right to question your priorities. Fact of the matter is... You need to choose between career and relationship. You cannot have both. Those who try usually fail.
• Vietnam
4 May 09
I see, maybe you're the person of work. Am I right? ^^
@angelajoy (1839)
• Philippines
2 May 09
You don't really have to choose between your lover or your job if before you start your relationship you already know what you want. I told my bf what I want in our relationship before really committing to him. I said I want us to prioritize each other before our work. He was ok with it so I committed myself to him. It's just a matter of choosing the right person. But if ever something happens and I really have to choose between my work and my loved one, I'll choose my loved one. It's not like I could find another person like him. Anyway, I'm confident that I'll find another job that would compensate me well. I believe in my abilities.
@angelajoy (1839)
• Philippines
2 May 09
By the way, I forgot to mention that it also depends on my lover's reason for wanting me to quit my job. If my work would really jeopardize our relationship then I'll give up my work. But if my lover wants me to quit for his selfish reasons, then I'll let him go.
@3r4st0 (14)
• Netherlands
3 May 09
I'd choose the job. I think my girlfriend should understand my choice and if she doesn't, she'd better leave. She should accept my choices. If she doesn't she ain't even worth it I think.
@alienstar (5140)
• India
3 May 09
Your topic is really nice and interesting and as yous aid, most of the people do quit the job and i feel there should not be any misunderstanding between the couples and they should respect each others work and the amount of pressure and the adjustments they make should be understood and when they really love each other, these sort of misunderstandings doesn't come usually and they tend to give the opposite person the open space to decide on such crucial things instead of deciding things by themselves as at the end both has to respect each one's decision
@iamsolucky (1243)
• Philippines
3 May 09
I dont have a problem with my boyfriend regarding my work. he understand that i have deadlines to finish, reports to submit and overtime to do. He is just a bit concern with my health because of too much work and stress. Now i am learning to balance my time with my work and my boyfriend. I also focus on managing stress. Its good to balance the time, and relationship works best when everything is balance. Work is important in our daily lives, but loved ones can understand it happy mylotting and smile always.
• Malaysia
3 May 09
ok , if i can make a choice myself i would say 50/50 .And if i can only choose 1 i will choose work, because it's guanrantee our life.But love is also important to our life, it may disturb our work and mess our head thinking of it.. My opinions is live simple life and open your mind also understand your partner/bf/gf/wife/husband about their work ..open some space and life happily ever after. :P
• India
3 May 09
we should adjust the time for both
• China
3 May 09
I think I will insist on my joy .that why I'm here still alive .haha ,I think a lover should think more about each other .so if he/she do ,he /she wont do this to me ,do you think so ?
@fwangaa (3058)
• China
3 May 09
i will go to other city as my lover said. if you lost your lover you will lost all you have. so i just choose to other city. i can find one in other city. if my lover behind me. i will all happy.
@marguicha (94440)
• Chile
3 May 09
If the lover really loved the person, he would love her as she is. It goes for both sexes, of course. To tell her to quit her job is showing lack of love and lack of respect for the other person. And that is not a good foundation for a relationship.
• Philippines
3 May 09
hi nice topic to start with. if i am on that situation i will talk to my lover and explain to him that it is my work to talk with people. if he is jealous then there is a more complicated problem to solve however i will give him the assurance that i am doing all of those thing only for work. sometimes lovers tend not to understand and becoming too selfish about their couple's career growth which in unlikely becoming so gross. i do believe that if one loves someone he has to understand that his lover needs to grow also and he should help her achieve her goals and not be a barrier on it. be blessed
• United States
2 May 09
It is not that simple to just choose one or the other. If your lover is wanting you to quit your job, there must be some underlying issues. I know right now in my relationship my boyfriend has wanted me to quit my job for a while. I don't particularly enjoy my job, but its good money, and great benefits. Now the reason he wants me to quit is because my job stresses me out, I work 50-60 hours a week, am pregnant, and have a 3 year old. I don't get to spend any time with my son, or my boyfriend, and have passed out from exhaustion. I am also going to school full time, so my plate is pretty full. If your lover really does love you, they will understand why you love your job, but if you really love your lover, then you will understand their reasoning for wanting you to quit. For a relationship to suceed there must be compromise. Relationships are not perfect, and no two people will agree on everything if they did it would be boring. If you really love your significant other and realize your job is killing them, I would consider leaving it. I however have no choice as we need money, if it wasn't for the money and the benefits I would have quite long ago.
@dodo19 (32867)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
2 May 09
As much as I may love that the job that I have, there is no question in my mind that I would chose my fiance over my work. It may be a choice for some, some may make a different choice, but for me, there isn't much of a choice to make, and I would chose my family and friends over work. It's just the way it is for me. I just couldn't chose work over the ones that I really love. I just couldn't.
@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
2 May 09
It is very hard to choose between work or love. I think if your priority in life is the have a family I think you can quit your job. For me I rather not because if your husband to really loves you he understand that you can't quit your job. I think this is the common problem among of the women in our society. Now that life is hard I think you need to think twice before you quit your job because there is no security if your husband to be is going to be a good provider.
@aikhong (664)
• Malaysia
2 May 09
I'll continue with my job, and especially that's the one i enjoy. Will try to talk and discuss with my lover. He/She should understand and both shoudl try to negotiate to come to a best solution. Enjoy myLotting! ^_^
@anneshirley (1517)
• Philippines
2 May 09
I am a believer of "if a person loves you, he/she will take you for who you are and not what he/she made you". I will not give up my job just because he wants to. If I am having satisfaction with it, why should I quit it? If he force me to leave, it just shows that he does not really love me. A person who loves truly will understand what I want and will not make impossible demands. If I have to quit my job, i'll make sure that that is because I want to not because someone ordered me to do it.
• Philippines
2 May 09
I will choose my work, especially if I really enjoy it.my husband or bf should understand how important my work is to me.aside from the salary that pays the bills and used for everyday expenses, my work is my "school" where I learn a lot of things and acquire new skills.if he is the jealous type,I'll leave him.I don't need somebody who will tie me down.