secrets

United States
May 4, 2009 10:52am CST
If your best friend was deeply inlove with a man that you had just caught him cheating on her right before their wedding soon to be coming up would you tell her even though she told u plenty of times how much he means to her and that she thinks he is the one and she dont want no one else what would you do?
4 responses
@chigawaga (593)
• Canada
4 May 09
yes i would tell her.i would hate to see her be hurt in the long run and i would expect her to do the same if my love was cheating on me.as crappy as it is she def has a right to no casue if she found out later after getting married and found out her freind knew all along she would probubly be pretty pissed
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@pmcepe (194)
• Philippines
5 May 09
I would definitely tell her about it. And if she really feels he means the world to her then it's her call. At least she is going into it with eyes wide open. But I'd be careful to know the truth first: is the affair over already? ongoing? It would be embarassing to accuse someone with only a suspicion as basis.And before I tell my friend I'd ask the guidance of the Holy Spirit first that I may be able to say the painful truth with love and caring.
• Canada
7 May 09
I agree that talking with her would be the best as your best friends!
@BlueAngelRS (2900)
• Canada
7 May 09
As I agreed with another response that talking with her would be the best...I understand that telling her must be very overwhelming and a hard decision to make...I would maybe talk to him first...If you know him well that is or talk with him at all say something like I know and have seen you cheat on my best friend and you guys are getting married here soon...I feel really bad her getting into a marriage with not knowing what is going on and she means alot to me and I have to say if you don't tell her I'm afraid I will have to because I really feel she needs to know...If you end up bein the one that tells her she may be upset with it in the beginning but true friendship always finds a way I hope this helps good luck!
@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
4 May 09
On impulse, of course we would want to tell her. I would but on the other hand I know well enough to not put my nose in where it is not any of my business. Since it were my best friend however, she would know me well enough to be able to read between the lines of what I was to tell her, in a way that I wasn't out right saying Hey, your husband to be cheated on you. I would use the story approach. I would likely start off by saying hey you know, I was wondering, what would you do if your best friend was about to be married to the guy of her dreams but that a mutual friend of the bride and groom to be caught him with another woman. Check out her response. Let her think about it. Tell her that if was you, the bride to be I would want to know about it and that you would likely have second thoughts. On the other hand, when guys are about to be married they often have a stag party, right? It is not all too common to have strippers and maybe more at the party? As for myself, if my husband to be were to cheat on me, I would be devastated, even if it were at his stag party or otherwise. Yes, i would want my friend to tell me. I would be very careful if I were the friend doing the telling though. My heart would want to tell her but I would be wary. I would want her to put the breaks on the marriage ceremony until she got to the bottom of the affair. Who knows how long it has been going on? In my eyes, it is a bad sign to a poor start. If he is doing this even before he is married, what is it going to be like once they tie the knot? I guess I would tell her, yes. She is my best friend and I care about her well being, her happiness and not wanting her to make such a big move that will ultimately change her life forever. Maybe not for the better either. I would be careful and I would use the story effect and let her figure it out for herself. I would need solid proof that he did cheat so if it were me that caught him, I would be inclined to talk with him about it before I spoke with her. I would encourage him to take a deep look at his recent actions of infidelity. Try to get a feel of what the relationship is between him and the one he cheated with. I would use precaution but I would want to get involved, even though I know better but because she is my best friend and I care about her.