Would it bother you if your wife is earning more than you do?

Philippines
May 4, 2009 11:49pm CST
I am currently earning more that what my husband makes in a month. In fact, I am the breadwinner in the family. He has a part-time online buy and sell business where the pay is not regular. So, I shoulder all the expenses at home. I am curious to know, does it bother him? What can I do about it? Will he be angry if I tell him to go find a real job? How can I tell this to him in a nice manner where he won't be offended. Please share your experiences.
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3 responses
@larish (2196)
• Philippines
5 May 09
Your husband might be offended if you directly tell it to him that he needs to look for a regular paying job. Why don't you do it by telling him how expensive to live nowadays or you can tell him a white lie - that your company already announce that there will be no overtime pay or that the company decides to reduce your meal and transportation allowance. You look for ways to let him know that your income is no longer enough for the family. And that a man in the house must do the decision on how to augment the family income. Make it as if he will decide for the family. Women are best in controlling the decision making of their husband. Without them knowing it. Just use your charm.
• Philippines
6 May 09
Haha! That's true, women are very subtle when controlling their husbands. To the point that the husband thinks that he is in control in the house. :)
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
5 May 09
Hi tinonzo, I think sometime it does. Sometimes I feel so insecure, but still she gives me a lot of moral boosters to reach the top. She just tells me you just need a break I believe you and trust you, you can make it. And it inspired me a lot to go on. She even helps me out when I apply for a better job, by asking me how was it? To tell you frankly I am kind a scare of interviews, and I made it. She tells me see you can do it. I am just here all the time and will make it through she usually tells me that. Anyway have a nice day to you!
• Philippines
5 May 09
Thanks for sharing. You are saying that I, as a wife, should be supportive of my husband especially with situations like this. I think I should do that more instead of pressuring him to do more, I should just encourage him to do what he thinks is right. And a lot of positive reinforcement is good.
@hanah87 (1846)
• Malaysia
5 May 09
I think you should have a discuss with your husband nicely.Make he understand and serve he better before you start the discussion...
• Philippines
6 May 09
yes, thanks for the advice. My husband is very stubborn if you push him too much. So I would need to have more finesse when I would want to talk to him about stepping up some more.