Do you wish you had more help from others?

i'm sure if some of your nrighbors knew u needed help they would surely offer. i am so blessed w/good neighbors. i live in a cove w/just 4 houses so we all keep in close contact. i know it is different in the rural areas. i have never been one to ask anybody for anything either so i know where u are coming from there.wish i was your neighbor i'd love to help u. i like doing doing things for people. thank goodness u have the one friend there. hope u make more friends soon.

I appreciate your reply and your thoughtful concerns antiquelady. You usually have the nicest things to say. Just the kind words that I receive to some of my posts can help me get through. I think you might be right. If more people knew about me then they might help me. However I am too proud to ask for anything and I am in a rural area where I have been for one year now. I was so used to living a suburban life style. Didn't need a car. I just walked down to the road and caught a bus, train or subway. That easy. Sure it cost money but I wasn't as restricted as I am now. I do have that friend that I mentioned that has a car and gets me out now and then. That really helps me keep from going stir crazy. One thing that I am sure everyone knows around here is the fact that a car is needed. I know that I would help others if I could. Thank you.

Yes friend. It would be nice to make more friends in the neighborhood. However, I just feel that everyone is busy with their own lives and they are not stuck. Believe me. There are people here that know I am stuck and they could be just waiting for me to ask. I'm not sure. I am lucky to have the one neighbor and friend that gets me out occasionally. She is the kind of person that will actually make it a point to think about me before she goes to the store and asks if I would like to tag along with her. I even bring my five year old son and she doesn't mind. There are not too many people like her in the world. I do wish you were my neighbor. It sounds like you are a good hearted person and we could be friends. If you needed anything I know that I would help you also. Thank you so much for your kind words. It isn't easy living in a rural area when you are so used to living in a suburban situation like I was for well over thirty years.

That is a good thing of you to feel that you would like to help your husband a little more. I feel the same way. I am a stay at home wife and mother. I don't work outside of the home just on the computer. I wish that I could do something constructive outside of the home and make some extra money to help my family. I just don't like to ask for anything. I do wish someone would step forward and help but I shouldn't feel that way all of the time. I know that I need to help myself and pull myself out of this. I am very concerned about my son's well being. There isn't a lot of money to go around so we do the best we can. And I do have that friend that helps me out sometimes with going to the store and other miscellaneous things. To be honest with you, at this point if someone were to offer me some money I would probably accept it appreciatively and promise to somehow pay it back. It gets hard sometimes. Take care.

Hi dragon. You know. I really appreciate that you answer some of my questions. I sure wish you were my neighbor! You seem like such a good hearted and giving person. You do seem to be in a situation where it can get lonely. You might be right. You might want to be a little more social. I am a lot like you. I am a bit too proud myself to ask anyone for anything. I wouldn't hesitate to help people myself. It is just that I am a pretty humbled person and don't like to ask. Thank you friend.

I know where you are coming from. It can really hurt when you are in a situation with children. I have a five year old son that I worry about on a regular basis. He is the center of my life and I also feel that he needs things like clothes, etc and I wish I could see more help. Your experience does not seem like a pleasant one. You know, isn't that just something? You helped people when you had some better times. Now when you need the help there isn't anyone to be found. Why does it work that way? I wish I knew myself. You let people use your car of all things and now when you need a lift to the local store there is no one to be found. You have a good heart. It is the fact that you realize that all of this hurts you and yet you are still willing to want to help others. I know I would help others if my situation was better.

I really appreciate your response. It seems that you can get a good grasp on where I am coming from. It is not that I expect people to feel compelled to help me every minute. I just know that I have helped people in the past that did not even ask for it and I hope that they really appreciated what I had done. Now I am the one that needs the help. There are really not too many establishments around me for miles except for the local church. I don't really talk to much to anyone around here except for the good friend that lives a few short minutes away from me walking distance. She actually calls or stops by my house to make sure I am alright. There are people that exist like this in our world and I am grateful for that. I might pull out of all of this hardship one day. One step at a time I guess. That is good that you were able to find a special worker to help you. You are so right Anora in your assessment of where people could be more sensitive to other's needs and the like. The communities we are all in could surely be a different and better place. Take care.

Thank you for your kind and understanding words. I realize that we can all find a spot in our lives where things get tough and it seems that no body is really around to help us only because they have their own lives and issues. I do have a nearby church where I can walk to. That sounds like a good idea to get involved with. I recognize and acknowledge some of my neighborhood and a lot of people have cars to take them out of the park we live in. There would be a long walk if no one had transportation. That is the trouble I am in. I do try to hang in there and hope times will get better. I worry about my son and hope that our family will surmount all of this. Take care.