Do you have Plan B in your life? Do you have a balance in your life?

@cmofi123 (344)
United States
May 6, 2009 10:42am CST
I have never been so criticized in my life, like I was yesterday. One of my friends, was talking how his family are all for one. They bough a house and they all pitch in and that house belongs to everyone. Since he doesn't have the greatest job in the world, I asked, Do you have plan B? He responded plan B is my family. I gave my redundent opinion. This is my opinion: He can't stand on his own two feet. He is relying on mommy and daddy to be there, because the moment I said, what happends if your mom becomes sick, she can't work and is just you and your dad making the payments? Can you afford it? He said, No I can't afford that, we will probably lose the house, but I always believe that God will have all of us good. What? I still belive that he can't do it on his own. I know everyone is raised differently. I was raised, that I can do anything that I want. That, I shouldn't rely on other people or to lean on people. My mother always said, always keep some money aside (that your husband don't know about) just in case. For example my husband was laid off from work, now he only works 2 days. Rent is on me and food is on me, obviously (thank God) I have work and I can afford it. He told me that I base my life on materialistic things. Probably I don't have the greatest balance in the world, but my son comes first and I have to be prepared for the unexpected. If my business doesn't go well, Plan B, I go get a job, I have a career that I get pay good. I have mom and dad (God blessed for having them alive) my mom had cancer twice and my dad is disable for life, why should I put my weight on them. Instead, I help them out whenever I can. To me if you are over 25 and instead of helping your parents out, you are putting your weight on them (and gives me the crap, we are all for one) basically you can't stand on your own. Unless, you are in college and doing something productive, I view it differently.
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@Sador88 (70)
• Netherlands
6 May 09
Wow. Well, it's kinda important how old the guy is. If he's mature then he shouldn't need to count on his parents in my humble opinion and he should be able to take care of himself. I think trusting in god is something nice, but saying god will fix everything for you sounds a little strange to me (even though I don't believe in god myself). I'd never keep counting on my parents, even though I'm glad if they help when I need it the most. I'll always try my best to be able to take care of things when they happen without needing the help of others. Still, you can't prepare for everything, so yeah.
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@jellymonty (2358)
7 May 09
I think its vital to have a plan B in your life. I never do anything without putting out an option of plan B and that usually saves me.. But your friend really needs to grow up! You cannot rely on your parents forever.. I can't stand people who are old enought to be independant and yet they are still dependant.. that just annoys me. I'm 28 and I cant remember the last time I was dependant. I've been independant even before I left high school. Now I'm looking after my family instead of the other way round and I do it because its my duty as a grown up to take care of things and people around you. Your friend is probably just plain lazy and afraid to step out and take control. As a friend you will need to point it out to him that life today is about survival. If he just sits on his behind and expect everything to be done by mummy and daddy then he is surely mistaken.. if he's stubborn and doesnt listen to you then just back away.. you got your own life to live.
@cmofi123 (344)
• United States
7 May 09
I try to give him advised. But instead of listening, he turn things around and start saying, how I felt that I became a parent at such a young age. First of all I was 24 years old when I had a baby and I was living on my own, I had my career already. But, nothing seem to get on his head. I asked him, what will you do if your girlfriend gets pregnant? You are going to bring her to live with you at your parents house? He said, my family comes first and we stick together. It's amazing how a 26 year old men, haven't yet passed the puberty stage.
• China
7 May 09
About plan B, I have to say it's not wise enough to live without it. Hello, we are live in such a uncertained world, nobody has the capability to foresee what's going to happen next day. Under this consideration, plan B is the alternative road to go when you find you are walking in a blind alley. Fortunately , I always have plan B with me, for I know I need it.
@yoyozhou (356)
• China
7 May 09
Oh,I don't know.Everyone is different and life is hard to most of us.When I graduated from school,I make money to support myself.I really think life is tough.I must endure ,enudure and endure beacuse I am newcomer.On the other hand, I get to understand my parents.How hard they support me previously.Ane now the role between my parents and I are being transforming.I mean previously they supported and cared me,but now I should care and support them. Anyway,life is happy for me because of love,parents' love,lover's love.I will work hard to make our life better
@betsyhu (207)
• China
7 May 09
You are right. Since i don't know how old your friend is , the words he said isn't responsibility for himself or his family. I believe my fate is controlled by God,but not at all. If i have tried my best,finally, i fail. there's nothing to complain about unfair. maybe,it's my fate. if not, i feel regret to wast my life.