When will my prince charming find me??????????

United States
May 6, 2009 5:24pm CST
I am 30 and single due to my disloyal idiot babydaddy!! I thought he was the one but boy was I wrong so now its been a year and I am ready to find someone new but I can't seem to meet anyone atleast not any one worth my time. I am soooooooooooo lonely and ever night it's starting to get harder in the beginning it was ok but now i am scared of growing old alone! I don't want to be an old maid. I am trying these love meeting online sites but am also scared to actually meet someone from the computer I mean it's weird has any one really had luck in computer love any success stories???
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
7 May 09
I know of several success stories (and have had one or two partial ones myself). The real success (and secret) in finding a mate, though, is NOT to be looking for another half, a completeness, if you like. The secret is in being complete in yourself ... only then will you meet the right partner. The problem is that if you are always looking for someone to mother or for someone to be a daddy to you, that is exactly what you will get! The kind of person you are looking for hardly ever is to be found on dating sites. You are much more likely to find him in places where people are people in themselves (rather than potential partners). Charity programs, sports associations ... anywhere which draws people to it because of a common love for something else (rather than an anxiety about their own incompleteness). First of all, find out who you are and learn to love and appreciate yourself for that, then find where that person - the 'whole' you - can give something for the love of it. Once you do that (and do it wholeheartedly, not looking for a mate on the side but, maybe, some good friends), I can guarantee that the right guy will be there when you least expect it or are looking for it ... indeed, it may almost seem like an inconvenience!
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
7 May 09
30 is not old, by the way ... and you will find the right person quicker than you can imagine if you follow instructions
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
8 May 09
Thank you, Miss Irish ... not quite sure whether you are bravoing my campaign for 'wholeness' or being over 30 (maybe both!)
• China
8 May 09
Just try your best.I hope you will find a new man as soon as possible.
• China
8 May 09
Also, you can ask your friend to introduce the proper man to you.
@coldmoon (1088)
• France
7 May 09
Try to search and you'll find your love one day. But I don't think online dating is a good starting point. An old maid is not a big scare, there're still many people around you who care about you as well as need your care. The absence of a man is not a disaster. Look, the little girls can sleep well without thinking of a man.
@sherrir101 (3670)
• Malinta, Ohio
7 May 09
I was over 40 when my prince charming found me. I had found two bad choices and married them. I found lots of other bad choices and 'settled' for a while. When I turned 40 I found Bruce. The love of my life. I did meet him on the computer. BUT in a support group for Multiple Sclerosis. Which we both have. It was a once in a lifetime thing. Other than that I do not trust meeting someone on the computer. It is too easy to lie to someone that you cannot see. Don't 'settle', wait for the real thing.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
9 May 09
It is a shame that you are single due to you having met the wrong man in the first place. You have your dear 3 year old son so that was one good thing that came out of your relationship. It must be awful to feel so lonely and you are doing well not rushing into a relationship with just any man. A dating site might be a way for you to learn a bit about a man before meeting him and speed dating could be another possibility. There are different dating sites out there and they will attract various types of people. Like there is one for people that care about the environment for example and there are some that appeal to a particular religion. You might like to find out how couples found each other. My sister met her husband because he is a friend of her pen friend. I met my ex-husband on a train in Australia. I met on ex-boyfriend at a vegan picnic. I met another ex-boyfriend on an organized country and coastal walk. Good luck finding your Prince Charming or Mr Perfect.
• United States
6 May 09
There are some success's and some that didn't work out.. it is no different online than offline.. What you need to do is be happy with who you are, live life, enjoy life.. then when you least expect it, you may meet someone you never thought you would.. Oh also change what you look for in a man if your first choice wasn't right.. Take a hard look at what your looking for in a man before you head out to see what is available. I hope you get that little Miracle you looking for with all those other ones that come each day for each of us..
@odaduy (25)
• Philippines
7 May 09
I think youreyes4Today is right... being single and happy for yourself will lead you to find the right man. maybe that right man is looking for an independent as well as happy woman. so dont hurry yourself to plunge into a realtionship. It might be turned out like before if you cant wait.
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
7 May 09
Hi, Hmm.. well prince charming is some where for u. And iam sure he is also looking for princess charming just the way u r looking out. Just wait for the right time and the right person. Instead of looking in internet ( which can be dangerous) why not socialize a bit more in your area. Get yourself admitted in a gym or a sports club and some thing like that where u meet people from all walks of life. Its a good way to know a new person so u never know when u start liking a person. Keep your fingers crossed and i wish u all the luck! Cheers, Tutul
• Malaysia
7 May 09
Go grow up,girl. It's not worthy at all to just sit and wait for your prince charming to come and save you. It won't happened that way in the real world. You know that,don't you? Just go out and have some fun. Make friends and enjoy life. Believe me you'll find the one. Who knows what the future hold. Good Luck!!
@pree70 (525)
• India
7 May 09
i know it can be pretty hard leading a lonely life. but have faith in yourselves. very soon you will soon find your man. that is the rule of nature.i guess everyone is into online dating these days. but do be cautious. good luck.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
7 May 09
hi noemi 535, Everyone of us has to deal with heart breaks and sometimes we break someones heart and sometime we got ours broken and i am sorry you had to go through it and let me assure you, you look young and beautiful and so dont be desperate. For every eve here on earth God has made one of her Adam too. it might take him some time to find you but he would find you surely. Remember the marriages are made in heaven so there is someone out here who is looking for you and he has Gods blessings for it, so cheer up
@kimutaku (145)
• China
7 May 09
try to find prince charming by yourself? girls should not just wait for their mr right at home. cause nowadays on the prince's way to find the sleeping beauty. he may be caught by other girls. there are not only dragon but also kinds of hungry girls on the way. try to get more fridends ,and go to their parties~. just give your prince charming a way to find you. I think he is waiting for you. and you have to catch him befor he is caught by the dragon.:) anyway, don't worry, be happy!
@marites31 (267)
• Philippines
7 May 09
i dont believe in Prince Charmings anymore. I guess prayers is faster than anything else. You dont have to wait because it will come to you. You dont have to find it because you will be guided on how you will meet him. Whatever your age is, there are people who are asigned for each one of us. You might have met him but ignored him or you might know him but not considering him. Just go on with your life, be happy have fun! One of these days he will come...
• United States
7 May 09
I did that oline matching thing and I thought the date went really well but he just wasn't my type. Hey you don't know if you don't try but do be cauticous I had my sister text me every 30 minutes or so to check in on me and I had gps on my phone and in my car so if I dind't come home I could be tracked...etc.. but love always seems to find you when you're not looking for it. Or it might be right in front of you and you don't even know it. Take me for example I'm now engaged to a guy that I've known since high school. We never talked in high school and then one day we found each other on a site..not saying which one not a dating site and we started chit chatting on the computer he came home to visit his family and asked me to marry him 2 days later. We've been together ever since. I wasn't looking for a relationship it just kind of happened out of the blue. You won't grow alone I have faith that you will find the right man for you just be patient. Hugs and Kisses for now from me but I hope you get the real thing soon. good luck
• Philippines
7 May 09
Hi nomie.. I have Korean boyfriend now,. I just met him through online sites.. My Bf is here in the Philippines he just came here to meet me and my daughter.. I'm only 22 years old.. If you don't want to be alone or be old maid.. Don't be scared.. Just use your mind and be strong.. Enjoy your life.... Just collect and collect.. and if one day you feel that this person is for you well grab it girl.. Remember this, i met my bf through online sites now were getting married on dec. don't be scared... just find a right man for you... pray always.. god bless.. :D
• Australia
7 May 09
I have met a number of women from online sites (Lava is the best in my experience), including my partner now, coming up to 5 years. Talk to them for a while till you get a sense that you can trust them, although it seems to me that maybe trusting is an issue for you. Then meet in a public place with no immediate plans to go further than a meeting, and take it from there. I can't emphasise any more strongly what I said above: trust is the issue. If you can't make a leap of faith, then nothing will happen for you. Lash
@jellymonty (2352)
6 May 09
Hi Noemi welcome to my lot! I understand your frustration as I was exactly like you when I went solo. It's been five years since I've been single and I'm used to it now. Just take one day at a time and try not dwell too much on your single status. Find something to distract you from feeling lonely like take up a hobby like cycling, jogging, knitting, pottery etc. I'm sure he's out there too moping about when his princess charming will arrive so be patient. Good men are always hard to find. Happy my lotting