Do you believe divorce is ever preferrable over sticking it out?

United States
May 6, 2009 9:06pm CST
I was reading about this on another discussion. Some people are against divorce, no matter what, mainly for "religious" reasons. I, on the other hand, divorced an abusive man after sticking it out for far too long. It was one of the best things I have ever done. I think there are times and circumstances in which divorce is the best choice. What is your take on this?
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
7 May 09
I don't think a paper or a social custom should put you in a situation in which you are taking abuse. No one should have to go through life that way.
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• United States
7 May 09
Hi Pat...I agree whole-heartedly! It can be dangerous to ones very life.
@dodo19 (28595)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
7 May 09
There are times, when yes, I think that divorce is probably better, but there are also times, when I think that sticking it out is perhaps better. But I think that trying to sort things out is the best thing before divorce and such.
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@Thumper11 (662)
• United States
7 May 09
I feel that in general, if there is a chance that you might be able to over come the obstacles.... and get back on the right track, especially if there are children involved, that sticking it out is a better option, but I have worked at a women's shelter and been in some abusive relationships myself and sometimes there is just no way that you can stay, for your safety and that of your children. I think that weather or not the issues are able to be resolved is up to the couple. There are some issues, such as abuse that there is just no excuse for. I believe that it is up to the couple and their values and ethics to determine weather or not they can work it out or if it is better to cut you losses sooner rather than later or never!
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• United States
7 May 09
Hello Thumper...you make such good sense. Some situations are downright dangerous. I found it much easier to forgive my ex-husbands unfaithfulness than to get over having been abused by him. For my children's sake, I wish I had left much sooner. I talk to this day with my daughters about certain behavior they do not have to live with or accept from another. Thank you for contributing to the conversation.
@ladybug565 (2217)
• United States
7 May 09
I believe that there are times when divorce is best. I would never stay with a man that was physically abusive again. I have before and it isent worth it. I am glad that you chose to get out. I stuck it out because I thought it best for my daughters to have both parents but then I realized that they were hearing and seeing stuff and I was sending them the message that it was ok to let a man beat them and I decided to get out. I really think it is ok to get a divorce for any reason because sometimes people change and you just fall out of love.
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• United States
7 May 09
I have the same feelings about having stayed for the benefit of my daughters. It exposed them to a life of fear and bad examples. I have heard the saying: it is better to come from a broken home than to be raised in one. I believe that to be very true! Thank you for such a well-expressed comment.