If your man didn't pay any daily bill ,will you still love him?

@cindyhxf (1447)
China
May 7, 2009 1:58am CST
I was so sorry to hear my friend said her husband didn't want to pay bill in daily life. my friend has to afford all bills in life.she felt upset and complain to her husband .but his husband had no job and no income right now.my friend knew about that but maybe she felt much stress to afford.it seemed her husband didn't be hurry to find a new job.i understand my friend's situation .but will you still love your man if he didn't have ability to pay bill anymore?
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
7 May 09
Of course i will love him, even he don t pay bills. MAybe he are not in a very good time, or maybe don t have a job for moment...but i can be in his place too. right? HE WILL NOT LOVE ME IF TODAY I DON T COOK FOR HIM? 2PEOPLES MUST TO TALK ABOUT ALL PROBLEMS..IS NOT SO EASY TO SAY...I DON T LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU DON T PAY THE BILLS. iS NOT A GOOD REASON DON T LOVE SOMEBODY BECAUSE HE DON T PAY...OTHER RASONS ARE MORE IMPORTANT..AS BETRAYAL, LIES,
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@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
8 May 09
yeah,wife will lose job someday too.but in many people's mind ,it should husband afford more bill than wife.it is unnormal if wife always afford a lot for family.i think that is why my friend felt complain.thanks for response.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
7 May 09
First, I will ask him what his plans are. If he is just going through a difficult patch and would still look for a job, then that is fine with me. If he tells me that he would not be looking for a job anymore but instead would like to go back to school and take up another course, then that would be also be fine with me. Or maybe he just wants to take care of me, the house and our children, then that would also be ok. In other words, my love for my husband would not disappear because he does not have the ability to pay the bills anymore. But, if he goes lazy, irresponsible and aimless, like he just wants to do nothing, then I think my love would fade. Have a nice day!
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@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
7 May 09
you are wise woman in life.yes,as you said if he goes lazy,irresponseibel and aimless,love would fade.thanks for your sharing.have a nice day
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
8 May 09
Hello cindy. I am the backbone of my family while my wife takes good care of the household affairs. We have been in love with each other for more than ten years. We respect and love each other. It has nothing to do with financial issues since we do a different job respectively. As to your friend's situation, I am sure that he will get a new job after some time so long as he does his utmost. You know, so many people are right now laid off due to the financial crisis. Things will be sure to become better as time goes on. He is a man and I am sure that he will manage to get a new job and when he is financially independent, he will take the responsibility to pay all the bills for the family. Let's wish them good luck!
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@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
8 May 09
Hi,william.that is why i said your wife is the best happy wife in the world.Although i didn't meet you before.i could feel that you have a good strong valued for your family.man should be afford much more than woman in finance.it seems not very fair ,but it comes to people's mind so deeply today.i always take my honour to a responsible man like you.thanks for repsonse ,and have a nice weekend!
• China
8 May 09
It is true indeed that in China a man is always considered to take more responsibilities for his family, especially in finance. I am just among them. It is because I love my family so much and I do appreciate my wife for what she has sacrificed for the family dealing with household affairs. Also I wish you to find someone reliable and responsible in your life. Keep an eye on it and for sure you will be a success sooner or later. Good luck to you, friend.
@Ruby722 (798)
• China
8 May 09
About her husband didn't pay the daily bill I think there have two likelihood 1) He lost him job now.and he have on salary .Unitl now he don't find a new one So he can't afford the bill.if he get money he will pay it. 2) He didn't want pay for the daily bill at all.and according to your story he even don't want to find a job..So i think this kinds of man.do not worth to sympathetic
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@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
8 May 09
i knew some man who really don't want to pay bill ,what his reason was his wife has job why just he afford all the bill.how will you do if you meet such man.i think most of women won't love him again.love is duty in life.
@mermaidivy (15416)
• United States
7 May 09
I would still love him for sure but I would figure out why he didn't want to pay the bills, if he needs help, I would give him 1oo % support and help him be a man again! Because man is supposed to be the one take care of the bill thing and the family so he couldn't be like that forever.
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@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
8 May 09
you are great wife i am sure.yeah,love shouldn't disappear cause bill's problems.someone handle well but someone not.that is why some relationship lasting long time and some not.good day,friend.
@prinzcy (5058)
• Malaysia
7 May 09
I will still love him if he stop paying the bills due to unavoidable reason. Being together is not asking him to pay for everything, it's sharing everything. Besides, today's problem like recession make lots of people lost their job. How can he pay the bills if he's jobless and broke. Urge him to find a job soon. Explain things also tough on her side.
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@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
8 May 09
you are good wife i think .yeah,couples shoud share everything ,it is good to solve enomic problems by understanding.
@wgh423 (65)
• China
7 May 09
Frankly speaking,i don't like this kind man at all. He should be responsible for his wife and the family.Even he has no job now, at least he should be active to find new job not stay at home day by day.
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@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
7 May 09
you are right,responseible is the best important.but if he doen't want to look for job anymore,i think it will take much more problems .that is life.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
7 May 09
hmmmm that is tough hahaha why would you want to be with a man who does not want to help you get through life with all its financial problems? if you are a martyr you can say yes you will still love him but nowadays one must be practical enough, husbands and wives should help each other not let the other one suffer.
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@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
8 May 09
yes,you are right,husbands and wives shoud help each other all problems in life.thanks for your resoponse,friend.
• India
7 May 09
Upto a certain period of time, yes I would still love him but beyond that, no. To me love is most about sharing and caring and both partners should be equally responsible to each other. Your friend’s husband is going thru a rough patch right now, he has no job and no income so as a true wife, you friend should support her husband BUT its also the husband’s duty to do his best and secure a job as fast as possible. It might not be comfortable or it might not pay just as much as the previous job, but even then he will be able to take off some burden from her and that is what matters. However, if he makes no effort towards re-employment, then he is just living off her and there is no reason why she should continue supporting him
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@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
7 May 09
actually i agree with you point.husband and wife both should have duty for famliy.especially husband always should afford much more than wife in finance my opinion.
@Dasari100 (3803)
• Anantapur, India
7 May 09
I think life will be difficult, if he is not having job anyhow we can get those kind of days in every life but we need to work hard and search for alternatives rather blamming each other.
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@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
7 May 09
as we knew,life is not easy always.we always meet different problems in life.but life is life.we should try to adjust to it.
@whmia520 (11)
• China
8 May 09
I don't think her husband has no ability to pay bill, instead, he is lazy, as you said, he WASN'T hurry to find a new job,why? Maybe he was tied,ok, then give him a little time,if it happend to me, I can give him one month,at most one month,to well ease himself,but if he isn't willing to find a new job a month later, I will feel disappointed to him. A love full of disappointment cannot last long.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
8 May 09
hi friend.i told to my friend same as your point,give him more time and don't complain so fast.maybe one day she will have the same problem too.just good luck to them.