What do you do to the third party in your relationship?

@yonkie (440)
Philippines
May 7, 2009 9:34am CST
I have a friend who found out that her boyfriend is cheating on her. Instead of quarreling her boyfriend, she is angry to the other woman. She is not mad on his boyfriend. She said that if the third party is not showing love to her boyfriend then the problem will not occur. She is threatening the woman that she will do something bad to that third party woman if her boyfriend will leave her. Do you think she is doing the right thing? I am on the side that her focus should be on her boyfriend. I believe all of these problems will not occur if her boyfriend is faithful to her. What do you think?
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@jstmarfz (1499)
• United States
7 May 09
I am sorry your message is confusing. Anyway, men will always be men. They are polygamous. No matter how they love their wife/girlfriend, if someone hot, attractive girl is around them and showing affection or a little flirtation for sure the guy would flirt to that lady. Even to a married guy. But the good thing about that was, even though they're cheating behind their woman's back they still knew whom they love and whom to be with. Though it is not a good thing to do, "cheating" will really cause a big trouble in a relationship. If both of you are mature enough and instead of throwing fire to each other, I would rather suggest to talk about it. If it was the first time of cheating occur in a relationship, then give another chance but if he did it lot of times then it depends to your friend if she will stick to the guy that will keep cheating on her.
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@yonkie (440)
• Philippines
7 May 09
Hi jstmarfz! My point here is what to do with the other woman. She has no problem with her boyfriend.
@flagella08 (5069)
• Philippines
7 May 09
she should have "disposed" the boy.LOL. i wouldn't waste my time and morale with that kind of guy.
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@yonkie (440)
• Philippines
7 May 09
She is in love with her man. I just hope she will not be sorry in protecting her man.
@Maryam27 (412)
• Pakistan
8 May 09
Your friend is completely wrong in dealing the situation but i know a few woman always do this but they are all wrong and weak. Why her BF is looking for love elsewhere when she is right there for him and while HE is the one to blame as he is looking for it then it doesn't matter who is providing it to him. If this girl goes away then he'll find someone else. Your friend should confront this guy.
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@rich_yu (163)
• Israel
8 May 09
i think your friend love is boyfriend thats why she diside not to be angry to the guy coz angry or to be upset is not the solution on the problem maybee it will coz more problem.and in other hand shes not supose to do anything to the other lady wtat all she cant do is to show the guy that is the best girlfriend and at that piont the guy will see it and he the one who diside on is own..coz the more your friend do something the more will hurt her.
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• United States
8 May 09
if i was her i'd be mad at HIM first. sometimes the "other woman" is as clueless as they are that there's three in the relationship.if she went in knowing full well he had a wife/girlfriend already though,that's a different matter. either way,i'd kick his *ss to the curb.life's too short to be played by a player. and they sure aren't worth going to jail over.
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@youless (93521)
• Guangzhou, China
8 May 09
I hate my love betrays me. In this aspect I can not accept. If I were your friend, then I would think that the boyfriend and the third party were wrong. Probably I would break up with him because he betrayed me. I don't want to spend my rest life with someone like that. I love China
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• United States
8 May 09
Like the old saying goes, love is blind. A lot of women or men don't want to believe that it was their partners fault as much as it was the third party's. Like others have already said, she can't blame this just on the other woman. In fact she needs to first think about how good of a relationship she has with this man and if its worth staying with him and taking a chance that he will do this again.
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@taski24 (214)
• Philippines
8 May 09
What to do to a third party in a relationship? Easy. Throw her out because she is not invited. In other words, she is a gatecrasher. You can even sue her for trespassing.
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@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
8 May 09
there's also a fault of his boyfriend as well, her boyfriend must be faithful to her no matter what happens. i think that she must not be angry with the girl alone because if her boyfriend didn't accept the gestures from the girl, it wouldn't happened.
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
7 May 09
I agree with you. As what the saying goes, Love can lead someone to do crazy things. If we are in love we tend to do things unthinkably. You're friend cannot think right because she was obviously in love with her boyfriend. You as a friend knows what has to be done right but since you are not directly involve in the relationship. Just be ready to be a friend to your friend if she already needs someone to lean on.
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• United States
7 May 09
oh no lol she need to be mad at the bf and leave him alone and move on lol
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• India
7 May 09
Sometimes its very hard to understand a person when it comes to love. Your friend obviously love her boyfriend very much and she don't want to lose him. She don't want to blame him. While we all know that he ought to be spanked and disposed off. However if your friend wants to get him back then so be it. As they say "Everything is fare in love and war". Just see what happens and support her no matter what. The odds are she will have a broken heart very soon. So just be there for her.
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• United States
7 May 09
You're friend needs to drop her boyfriend. Not all guys are the same, but this saying is most def. true. Once a cheater always a cheater. Her man and that girl are both at fault but he's gonna just cheat on her again. You need to tell you're friend to find another man that's not gonna stomp all over her. Honestly and i'm not trying to be mean but she's dumb for not being angry with him. No matter how much you love someone, if they cheat on you they really don't give a damn about you. They are disrespecting you, and they wouldn't have cheated in the first place if they didn't truly cherise you. A insensitive b@stard is not worth the heartache.
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@arkansos (546)
• India
7 May 09
you know, there must be weapon shops in your neighbourhood. A sniper would be my personal choice.hehe. Jokes apart. Who's the one cheating? er boyfriend right. Maybe the other women had no knowledge of this. Even if she did, she wasn't really in the wrong. The culprit is the boyfriend. I don't think doing anything to the women is really justified. She doesn't habe any responsibility, the boyfriend does
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• United States
7 May 09
im of the opinion that if he is with 2 women its not ether girls falt that the boyfriend is a lieing snake who cant be faithful to any one but himself and only cares that he can sleep with more than one woman its wrong to blame the other woman because she was lied to too they souldnd be at eachothers throughts they should be trying to find a way to get back at him so bad that he'll never do somthing like that again .
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• Finland
7 May 09
third party in your relationship? aka girlfrinds best friend aka the most evil sadistical woman ever!!!... I´m sure she means well...but still...
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@prinzcy (5057)
• Malaysia
7 May 09
I think both are at fault. Things only happen if both party cooperate. She shouldn't be mad at the woman alone, her boyfriend is at fault too. I don't appreciate unfaithful partner, no matter what the reason is. So, don't just blame on one person. However, she need to check whether the third party actually realize she is the third party. Don't just judge things based on the surface only.
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